yeah -
A few years ago there was a whole series of talks by COs and Elduhs about long courtships and engagements.
I dont know if they were worried about FORNICATION.
At one time people got engaged then married when they could afford it. Then a whole series of weddings were brought forward - I dont know whether because of private counsel from the elduhs, whether the bride was already up the duff and they needed to disguise it, or the couple KNEW they would be at it before the "CELEBRATION DAY" (This is the Wedding day - the only anniversary witlesses can celebrate - thier first fuck... who said YHWH was NOT a fertility and sex god?????)
Some friends of mine were marked because they had set a wedding date for over a year after their engagement.
The brides father had lost his wife suddenly. The fact he had just paid for a funeral didnt wash with the bastads.
HB