Posts by wordlywife

I like that answer Blondie! I will not ever be studying, but curiosity got the best of me and I asked the question here, in the forum, rather than from anyone else.

To me it is unvbelievable how complicated be a witness truly is. It is mind boggling.

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Can someone take me through what it means to start/do a "study"?

by wordlywife in

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when i attended with my husband, (i am not jw, he is over 20 yrs.

) i was asked many times who i was studying with, are you studying, etc.

i didn't know what they meant, husband never pressures me with this kind of questioning.

wordlywife

My husband was DF'd when we met and got married, and has been re-instated. I do not plan on ever doing "a study" or whatever, but was curious what it was and why, etc.

It is women that call to see how I am doing (I'm with child). They usually call when I'm not home (coincidence?).

What bothers me is that why would they call me or be concerned for me, as I am wordly? Is ot only because theyhave a hope that one day.............I will become JW (again, that's not ever going ot happen).

An elder's wife shows particular interest in me, and I hate to sound suspicious, she seems very genuine, but after listening to many talks about avoiding worldly associations, why would she ever show a personal interest in me?

WW

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Can someone take me through what it means to start/do a "study"?

by wordlywife in

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friends

when i attended with my husband, (i am not jw, he is over 20 yrs.

) i was asked many times who i was studying with, are you studying, etc.

i didn't know what they meant, husband never pressures me with this kind of questioning.

wordlywife

When I attended with my husband, (I am not JW, he is over 20 yrs.) I was asked many times who I was studying with, are you studying, etc. I didn't know what they meant, husband never pressures me with this kind of questioning. Can someone tell me what would have happened if I did "start studying"? Is there a pattern of publications you are expected to read? Do they test you after each one to make sure you've ingrained it all before going to the next one? What would have happened if I had started to "study"? How often (once a week?), how long (months, years?). What is the process?

Why do I feel weird one one of the congregation members calls and asks how I am doing? I always feel like they have a hidden agenda, like converting me, which would be a lost cause mind you.

Thanks all for any comments.....

WW

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Opinions on Matthew 15:21-28

by wordlywife in

this is a passage that has always bothered me, and was wondering if it bothered anyone else.

to me it sounds as though jesus thinks of some people as dogs and not deserving of anything.

maybe i have an incorrect view on this.

wordlywife

Not a JW hangover, I have never been a witness. My husband is though, over 20 years. This is just a passage that stuck out in my mind as being exclusive, like JW's can be sometimes. Thank you all for your insightful posts.

WW

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Opinions on Matthew 15:21-28

by wordlywife in

this is a passage that has always bothered me, and was wondering if it bothered anyone else.

to me it sounds as though jesus thinks of some people as dogs and not deserving of anything.

maybe i have an incorrect view on this.

wordlywife

This is a passage that has always bothered me, and was wondering if it bothered anyone else. To me it sounds as though Jesus thinks of some people as dogs and not deserving of anything. Maybe I have an incorrect view on this. Anyone care to share an opinion? Thanks-

WW

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Who Is The Most Beautiful Woman or Man In The World???

by minimus in

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pictures would be nice, too.

wordlywife

I can't the photos to come over. My votes are Hugh Jackman and Ed Harris, both actors. Yummy!

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Married People are less Creative

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http://msn.careerbuilder.com/custom/msn/careeradvice/413.htm?siteid=cbmsnhp4398&sc_extcmp=js_wi1_sept04_home1>1=5938&cbrecursioncnt=1&cbsid=014626ac55874d07be5b18eb4a51333c-158374177-tf-1

"a study of 280 successful scientists found that their creativity tended to diminish once they got married.

this also held true for musicians, painters and authors.

wordlywife

I don't want to offend, sorry if I do....but in bed is where I get most creative! I'm married and happy to be so, and creative too!

WW

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How many here are married to a witness?

by Why Georgia in

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just wondering how many others there are like me who are married to a witness who is either actively going or fading away?

i have found that even though my husband is fading away - he still has a lot of those witness thoughts.. it's definately better that he is away from them and not getting their "spiritual food (vomit)".

but i still have worries when his mother calls and invites us to the memorial or tries to give us the latest book.. i feel my blood pressure just about go through the roof.. i'm glad there are places like this board to talk with people and get support from real " friends".

wordlywife

I am married to a 20+year JW, I have never been. Been married for a few years, he was DF'd when we married and I attended with him to maybe not look so bad (wordly I guess) in their eyes, as he married me while DF'd. I'm sure that doesn't matter, I'm wordly no matter that he is re-instated. I think he will always be under a cloud for leaving his faithful JW wife. And then taking up with the likes of me.

WW

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JW definition of disassociating yourself?

by wordlywife in

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can someone help me to understand what it would mean to a loyal witnes to diassociate yourself, and to the org?

having seen what happened during my husband's df, and his subsequentreinstatement, what would it mean to da yourself?

would you be treated the same as being df?

wordlywife

I do see how no exit would ever be graceful. I was hoping that if he did DA himself that perhaps that method would be less humiliating than a DF. There is no getting around it, it's bad any way you look at it. Even fading has it's repercussions. I would feel better about it if I knew he didn't care about what others (congregation) may think or do or say, but he does. Plus I know he believes all of the teachings, lock stock and barrel. At least, on the outside it appears that way.

Don't think it going to happen anyway. He mentioned that he forgot to get the numbers for the hotels at last nights meeting for the convention (in August in these parts). I wonder if he really forgot, or perhaps it was a slip of the real feelings. I definiitely do NOT want to make a 6 hour drive in August. Plus we will have a new baby by then. I don't think I could hack it. I will have to break it to him that just do not want to attend, but I am not discouraging him to attend, if that makes sense. I never ever want to be accused of discouraging him. As someone posted before, the cruise ship analogy fits quite well. A light touch.

Thank you all for your help, it is appreciated.