i am so bummed yesterday i called this guy i know and asked him out, and he turned me down.
not just a polite "i'm busy" but he let me know that his relationship with someone just ended last month and he needs time to recover, he said " i am taking the rest of the year off from dating" (sounded to me like "don't bother to ask again")i didn't even know that he had been seeing someone in a serious relationship (the last time i ran into him was in early december).
we used to have had a few classes together and he always flirted with me.
I need to correct myself...when I said you don't get those reject feelings over the net...well thats not entirely true. You do still suffer rejection via the net...and it can be just as crushing. But you have more options...and you can become quite 'picky and choosy' even if you're pig dog ugly lol...I mean look at me...I scored. I forgot to mention that you need to be careful, there are some precautions you need to take as well.
Beck
i am so bummed yesterday i called this guy i know and asked him out, and he turned me down.
not just a polite "i'm busy" but he let me know that his relationship with someone just ended last month and he needs time to recover, he said " i am taking the rest of the year off from dating" (sounded to me like "don't bother to ask again")i didn't even know that he had been seeing someone in a serious relationship (the last time i ran into him was in early december).
we used to have had a few classes together and he always flirted with me.
hungry4life...plenty more fish in the sea baby!!! Throw out your line...and see what you drag in. Do you use icq, msn or yahoo?? I met Andy over the internet...and for some reason you don't get those reject fears when you become friends via the net. Its quite different...you can become really good friends before any intimate stuff develops.
If I were you, I wouldn't give this guy a second thought...he's probably very nice and quite a dish...but if he's using issues from a previous relationship as an excuse...then he's not worth losing sleep over I reckon.
Chin up girl...don't be down. Go out and get yourself a good fishing rod...ICQ is a pretty good brand lol.
Beck
i remember when i was a kid i used to assuage my fear of dying with the comfort and knoweledge that i was one of the "millions now living that may never die.
" but even as a kid, i used to think to myself that after a thousand or so years of living with these boring people that i see at the kingdom hall, that sooner or later i would become bored as hell.
after all, everything really fun seemed to be a sin and after a thousand years of bowling with my fellow witnesses and groveling on my knees thanking jehovah for every breath that i took, wouldn't i get bored at some point?
Hi finnrot
Aaah...I love to remember. Yes as a kid I used to love looking at the colourful WT art about paradise...and I would visualise sliding down the neck of a giraffe...and patting the tame lion...and I could almost taste the fresh fruit and smell the spring flowers.
THEN...one day...I looked at it and wondered where the plastic drinking utensils came from....and where did the fabric for their clothing come from...were there going to be manufacturing companies and industrial establishments??? I wondered about the lawns...did they mow their lawns and use petrol operated mowers, or would the grass stay very long, or would one shuffle their sheep from one end of the yard to the other...would they have a back yard?? Would there be a need to have fences...and would there be disputes as to the distribution of land. Who gets to distribute the land??
As a kid I accepted it all...but as an adult...NUH!!
Beck
i was just thinking that if charles taze russell were alive today he wouldn't even recognize the religion he started.
in fact, many of the things he did are now disfellowshippable offenses.
for instance, he had a christmas tree in the bethel home and he wore a beard.
Russell would not have been disfellowshipped...he would have disassociated himself instead. He is only the founder...he is not the one who is behind all the changes to the development and structure of the borg in its form today.
Russell would have been reluctant to accept the 'new light' changes and he would have left and been classified an "apostate"!!
Beck
forgive and feel better .
letting go of a grudge is good for your health!
by jeanann pannasch .
I liked that...really good thoughts.
I don't know where to draw the line however...as I feel that if my boyfriend makes a pass at my best friend...he is 'history'. Doesn't mean I'd hold a grudge though...I'd still be his friend...just not his girlfriend...is that still forgiveness? By dumping the sleeze that he is...I feel that I am liberating myself...not from the burden of holding a grudge...but from the fear that he's not trustworthy...and that he's going to hurt me later on down the track. Does that make sense??
Also...I can relate to the child being knocked off a bike and suffering a broken leg. I guess I forgave the driver, because I never made an effort to find him to push my fist thru his face. I thought about it...but I didn't do it...so I don't know if I hold a grudge or not. If my daughter had died...I guess I don't know whether I could forgive. But I'm sure there are plenty of people who have experienced worse things and who are still very forgiving.
As for the sister carelessly spilling wine on my carpet. That would be very easy to forgive....I love my sister...and I would never hold a grudge over something like that...it is only a material thing after all.
Those are easy scenarios to forgive people. They don't challenge our ability to forgive....what about if a drunk driver kills your only child?? What if you best friend sleeps with your husband of 15 years, just to show she can?? What if your junkie sister falls asleep in your house and her cigarette catches on fire and you lose the whole house and everything in it, and you narrowly escape with your lives??
Maybe I'm being melodramatic...but thats when I would find it hard to forgive...not that any of those things have happened to me...but I know people who it has happened to.
Just wondering.
Beck
i have considered forming a support group for ex-jws or witnesses who are considering leaving the organization in the houston, texas area.
i am really excited about this!
i hope that i have several responses.. if anyone is interested you can e-mail me at [email protected]
Hi Ya Gilwarrior
I'm thinking along the same lines as you by the sounds of it. I went to this website http://pweb.jps.net/~xjwsfbay/ which was suggested by introspection...its not in my area but has some really good helpful ideas.
I'm trying to find the thread...when I do I'll send it thru...I just need to do a search.
Beck
i apologize in advance for this post, i was stoned and bored when i wrote it:.
1/ all yer dreams consist of the jw discussion, silent lambs and crisis of conscience icons.. 2/ when you greet people you say, h, e, l, l, o.. 3/ you spend countless hours trying to think up witty posts so everyone has a look and you get those little flamy things on the folder, cause this is all you live for and it makes you happy.. breath.
4/ hair, make-up, perfect - right, i'm ready to log on.. 5/ 24/7 is just not enough time to say everything you need to say.. 6/ you use up yer 2 posts and 20 reply's in 2.35 minutes.. 7/ you complain constantly to simon, bombarding him with emails demanding yer own forum thread dedicated to all yer witty responses.. 8/ yer will stipulates a full time assistant is to be hired to do all your posting for you when you kark it.
I'm guessing you mean muesli bar lol...but then again, I meant peanut butter...what a pair!! Do you think they have muesli bars, poppers and peanut butter in the states?? Do you think they say 'shithouse' when they are having a bad day, or 'grouse' when they're having a good one?? What about saying 'you're bonza' or 'what a top bloke' lol.
There's more... but I'm too busy writing poems.
Beck
i apologize in advance for this post, i was stoned and bored when i wrote it:.
1/ all yer dreams consist of the jw discussion, silent lambs and crisis of conscience icons.. 2/ when you greet people you say, h, e, l, l, o.. 3/ you spend countless hours trying to think up witty posts so everyone has a look and you get those little flamy things on the folder, cause this is all you live for and it makes you happy.. breath.
4/ hair, make-up, perfect - right, i'm ready to log on.. 5/ 24/7 is just not enough time to say everything you need to say.. 6/ you use up yer 2 posts and 20 reply's in 2.35 minutes.. 7/ you complain constantly to simon, bombarding him with emails demanding yer own forum thread dedicated to all yer witty responses.. 8/ yer will stipulates a full time assistant is to be hired to do all your posting for you when you kark it.
Farkle
I also take back all the bad things I said in reaction to the bad things you said about the bad things said by someone else who was defending someone else who had said bad things and oh...well...
I would've kept the hugs even if you'd asked for them back, I'm very defiant about that....but the kisses...well I guess I creeped you out when I was trying to get you on the lips, and kept trying to snog you in chat!! I don't promise to not try again later though :o)
And yes, I do have a lot to learn...and today you've taught me humility. Thanks for that.
Beck
i apologize in advance for this post, i was stoned and bored when i wrote it:.
1/ all yer dreams consist of the jw discussion, silent lambs and crisis of conscience icons.. 2/ when you greet people you say, h, e, l, l, o.. 3/ you spend countless hours trying to think up witty posts so everyone has a look and you get those little flamy things on the folder, cause this is all you live for and it makes you happy.. breath.
4/ hair, make-up, perfect - right, i'm ready to log on.. 5/ 24/7 is just not enough time to say everything you need to say.. 6/ you use up yer 2 posts and 20 reply's in 2.35 minutes.. 7/ you complain constantly to simon, bombarding him with emails demanding yer own forum thread dedicated to all yer witty responses.. 8/ yer will stipulates a full time assistant is to be hired to do all your posting for you when you kark it.
When you log on just to see what Violet Anai is going to say next!!!
Beck
ps..and who said no one replies to your threads??....you're always good for a laugh...says Beck as she opens her sandwhich in the playground and offers Vi a peanunt butter sandie :o)
one more post and i'm nearly as good as you beck!!!!.
i've got a ways to go however to be as brilliant, wise, witty and cultured as farkel, but hey i'll get there!!!!!!
you've been a bad boy, go to my room
[email protected] thought it was a commercial for shampoo!! I can just see Violet Anai strutting her stuff as she walks to the back of the bus flicking her hair from side to side...with a little smirk that says 'I'm a Master!!!' lol...u go Vi girl.
Beck
