>>I hate to have her spend too much more time with me, but I am still interested in the official stand on some stuff.
Just for interest's sake, ask the baptist minister what would happen if you joined his church, then said you disagreed with the church on a teaching. For instance, you think Hell is simply a disconnection from god and not an actual place of torment. Find out if your membership would then be revoked, would the other members be forced to shun you, etc.
Then ask the same question of your JW study conductor. What if you decided that blood transfusions were ok, or celebrating Christmas was ok?
After comparing their answers, I'll bet your "uncertainty" will fade!
Dave