Posts by MM090503

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An Update

by MM090503 in

jw
friends

some of you may remember me.

i started posting about a year ago around this time.

my bf is invovled with the jw's.

Some of you may remember me. I started posting about a year ago around this time. My bf is invovled with the JW's. I have had a hard time of dealing with this and we have even broken up over this. It has been a long time since I last posted.

I wanted to tell everyone that my bf is becoming a full fledged JW. I'm not completely ok with this, but I'm learning to deal and live with it. After a rough summer and a break up for most of the summer him and I are back together. Believe it or not I attend Sunday meetings (just the first half). I hate going, but my bf asked me to go to see what it's like. I hate what they talk about, but I have met some nice people. Funny thing is I go to the first half of the meeting, then go to my Catholic church down the street. If there is one thing I have gotten out of the meetings is an apperciation for my own religion and faith.

My bf and I are talking about getting engaged by the end of the year. I know this sounds so crazy to everyone and I know I'll probably get warned against it, but it's what I want. We have learned to talk about religion so much more and we have found ways to bring our religions together by praying. And after this summer being broken up, I know that I cannot live without him, he is my everything. We both know that we are going to face a lot of bumps in the road. We have agreed to talk them out and be patient and respectful to eachother. We have talked about kids and have also agreed that they will be brought up how we were raised with holidays and everything. When they are old enough they can choose their own religion. I just want to let everyone know that as bad as some JW's are, theya re not all bad. I have met some really nice people who are excepting me for who I am. And beleive me I have made a firm stand saying that I am Catholic and not changing. I do not let it go unnoticed that I am not a JW. I wear a cross to meetings to prove this also. As much as I hate what they believe and what they stand for, I love my bf and i KNOW that we will be able to work because we have one common belief with religion and that is we both believe in the same GOD.

Meg

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My relationship has come to an end because of JW brainwashing

by MM090503 in

a few of you may remember when i came to this site back in sept. i was seeking advice about my bf who had been studying with jw.

well i hate to say it but they won.

after being together almost 2yrs we broke up.

MM090503

A few of you may remember when I came to this site back in Sept. I was seeking advice about my bf who had been studying with JW. Well I hate to say it but they won. After being together almost 2yrs we broke up. Not because we wanted to, but because there was no other choice. My bf has become completely brainwashed by them. It will only be a little of time until he gets baptised I'm sure.

The pain I feel is horrible and I can't help but feel this is all my fault. When he first began studying I left it alone as no big deal. Now I kick myself in the but for doing it.

Thank you to everyone for their help and adivce the last couple of months.

Meg

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help me!

by kerseygurl in

where do i begin?

i can't believe i'm even here...i am a 20 year old female and have been dating a jehovah's witness for 4 and 1/2 years.

until recently, we've been completely and utterly devoted to each other.

MM090503

Hello and Welcome to the board. The people on this board are extremely nice. You'll find so much advice and information here. I totally understand what you are going through. I am in the same situation myself.

I've been with my bf for over a year and half now. He is not a witness, Yet. He has been studying with them and he beleives everything they say. It's a terrible situation and I wish it upon no one. He has pressure from his dad, because his dad is one,. My bf stopped attending meetings and things for me, but I know he is not happy with this. We have been going to a Christian church to try and see if something will work for him but it hasnt. He has begged me to go to meetings and even sit down with a jw for a bible study.

I have recently agreed to sit down with the jw for a bible study. Only because I have done my research and I know what kind of bs they pull, so I'm not afraid to be brainwashed. I'm also doing it to make my bf happy. Unfortunelty, I fear this will be the end of our relationship though. Even though both of us are madly in love with eachother and want to get married, it's not going to happen. Your bf has to be willing to change and explore other options. My was, but he still ran back every chance he got and that is why we have come to the breaking point in our relationship.

The best advice I can give you is to sit and talk to your bf about other religions and options. If he is not open to any, I would say break it off. As hard as it is and I know it is, you have to do it. I've put myself through misery and depression thinking I could change him and help, but I can't. It was just a matter of time until I realized this.

Good Luck

Meg

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I have decided to sit down and talk with a JW any advice?

by MM090503 in

i know i just made one post, but i have another.. after the conversation with my bf tonight, i finally gave in and said i would sit down with a jw.

i don't beleive the bs for one moment.

i don't see the point in doing this, but if it will make my bf happy i'm willing to do it.

MM090503

Well it looks like my bf plans to have this little meeting next Sunday. I am very worried about this because I told him if afterwards nothing has changed we're over. For whatever reason he feels this will do some good. How I'm not sure. He either thinks he is going to see something is wrong with the religion or something is right.

I have told him what i plan to do like; Present them with religious reading material than their own. (Now if I remember correctly, they won't even read it. So does anyone have any ideas on what would be the best material to bring that they will not read it for sure??) I plan to ask plenty of questions,. I want to catch them in a lie or web. If I can prove to my bf that they will do all these things he may beleive me. If not it's over. I can't take the pain of going through this. I love him dearly and this is jus too much. So anymore ideas would be greatly apperciated.

Meg

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I have decided to sit down and talk with a JW any advice?

by MM090503 in

i know i just made one post, but i have another.. after the conversation with my bf tonight, i finally gave in and said i would sit down with a jw.

i don't beleive the bs for one moment.

i don't see the point in doing this, but if it will make my bf happy i'm willing to do it.

MM090503

Hi it's me again. I know I just made one post, but I have another.

After the conversation with my bf tonight, I finally gave in and said I would sit down with a JW. I don't beleive the bs for one moment. I don't see the point in doing this, but if it will make my bf happy I'm willing to do it. I am bringing along with my (hopefully) my sister who is very strong in her faith and she is well versed in the bible.

My question is this: I want to prepare myself with some amo to stump the JW's with. Any ideas. I need to get some major points across to my bf about how JW's are not the way to go and their wrong and whatever else I can do to open his eyes. I want to go in with a long list of questions. I would apperciate anyones help on this one. I have some time because we still have to set this stupid thing up soo...

Meg

I need to find an x-jw in Ohio, near Ashland

by MM090503 in

i have a little request.

as i go through this "situation" with my bf i have been explaining to him everything i read here and on the net.

as expected, i'm told this is apostate stuff.

MM090503

I have a little request. As I go through this "situation" with my bf I have been explaining to him everything I read here and on the net. As expected, I'm told this is apostate stuff. So my next bet is to bring a source to him. I'm trying to find an x-jw in Ohio. Preferably near Ashland. This person would have to be willing to share their experience with him. I'm hoping it will give some insight to my bf on how these people really operate. He needs a good eyeopener. Any help would be great apperciated. Thanks for your help.

Meg

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Help me prove to my bf that defellowshipping happens

by MM090503 in

hi all.. many of you have probably seen my posts on here before, but if you haven't let me reinterate my story in short for you.. i am currently dating a wonderful guy, but the problem is he has been considering becoming a jw.

he has studdied with them for about a year.

because of me has agreed to do some religion searching and figure out what he really believes.

MM090503

Again, I thank everyone for your stories. Funny thing is I made this post because my bf did not beleive this stuff happens. I talk to him tonight about it finally after he had read this post a while ago and he said he knew about it. I'm a little confused on that one, probably just more brain washing.

Ameilia B. get your head out of your butt! Are you blind? Why do JW's have to justify everything? This isn't a right reason for disfellowshipping people. EVERYONE ON THIS EARTH WETHER THEY LIKE IT OR NOT ARE GOD'S PEOPLE. Disfellowingshipping is leaving out or getting rid of one of God's people. And only God can do this. It is not up to some group or organization to make God's decisions. I seriously doubt God would put the people who have been df'd through a horrendence expereince like that where not even their family memebers would talk to them. It's plain BS.

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Memorial

by Lehaa in

had other things to deal with.. .

i was just wonder ing whose going to the memorial this year.. i got this email from my uncle today and i've decided i'm going only so my kids can see their family.

if you love jehovah miss your extended family want your children to have everlasting life its not hypocritical.

MM090503

I just had a conversation with my bf about going. (i'm not jw, hes a wannabe and i'm satan!!) I went last year with him because I was nieve and had no clue what was going on. After I found out their reasoning behind all of it I thought it was really gay and did not make sense. My bf and I have been working on "religion" because he knows I can't stand any Jw thing. He had the nerve to tell me he wanted to go tomorrow. I got really upset about it and eventually he told me he wouldn't go. His dad is going to be pissed!

I like to point out, that this memorial thing, should be celebrated more than once a year. We are not out of the covenant. The bible even says to celebreat Jesus' death all the time. It really gets me they don't celebrate it more. it's like they forget all about the real reason and focus on other things until this time of year.-I don't know much, but that is my point of view on it

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Help me prove to my bf that defellowshipping happens

by MM090503 in

hi all.. many of you have probably seen my posts on here before, but if you haven't let me reinterate my story in short for you.. i am currently dating a wonderful guy, but the problem is he has been considering becoming a jw.

he has studdied with them for about a year.

because of me has agreed to do some religion searching and figure out what he really believes.

MM090503

Thank you,

Everyone has been incredabely awesome with their postings. I will get my bf to see this posts on Sundays. I'm sorry you guys had to go through something like this. Thank you so much, I really apperciate your postings.

Meg

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Help me prove to my bf that defellowshipping happens

by MM090503 in

hi all.. many of you have probably seen my posts on here before, but if you haven't let me reinterate my story in short for you.. i am currently dating a wonderful guy, but the problem is he has been considering becoming a jw.

he has studdied with them for about a year.

because of me has agreed to do some religion searching and figure out what he really believes.

MM090503

Hi all.

Many of you have probably seen my posts on here before, but if you haven't let me reinterate my story in short for you.

I am currently dating a wonderful guy, but the problem is he has been considering becoming a JW. He has studdied with them for about a year. Because of me has agreed to do some religion searching and figure out what he really believes. This has been a tough struggle for me, but I love him and want to continue to stick with it.

My latest situation is that he does not believe disfellowshipping happens within the JW's. I want to be able to show him this does happen. If you can share your stories about d'fed. I want to show him that it does happen and he wants the proof. I figured this would be the best place for him to see the proof.

Thank you so much. Meg