Posts by slugga

oh, and i'm not shunned..... the only witnesses who knocked on my door in the last 15 years, were elders, in "uniform" in the field service.. now, imagine if i was really shunned......

slugga

faded in 89.

Apart from a couple of Ex dubs and a sister that I bumped into at work once (she started to cry and made me cry lol) Ive not seen a soul from the org.

I left because in my heart I believed I was so usless and bad that Jehovah didn't want me in his org, so he isolated me until I was completly on my own so that I'd have to go elsewhere for friends. Looks like he still doesn't want me back !

lol

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Isolated & disconnected once outside

by enosant in

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friends

is this a common issue for exjws?

or do you find it easy to just get on with it?

having lost all the jw friends, you find that you can't bring yourself to let others get too close, even pushing them away (old habbit dying hard).

slugga

satanus said..

My primary abandoner was my mother, who abandoned me emotionally

...well with eyes like that you cant blame her really

lol

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UK & IRELAND MAP

by ballistic in

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i had an idea that i could build a uk map of everyones location which would show you instantly who is in your area from jwd.. (it might be an idea to do a seperate us one aswell but i'll wait and see if this one takes off first, or if anyone from the us wants to volunteer to do that one).

(and australia but you are all in the same backyard anyway - literally!!!).

anyway, all you have to do is post or email me your username and town and i will draw you on the map above which will change gradually to include everyone!.

slugga

Thanks

Wales and the West Shires seem a bit empty though, maybe we should go do the doors there

:)

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Isolated & disconnected once outside

by enosant in

jw
friends

is this a common issue for exjws?

or do you find it easy to just get on with it?

having lost all the jw friends, you find that you can't bring yourself to let others get too close, even pushing them away (old habbit dying hard).

slugga

I know heaps of people and always can find someone to do something with but have made sure that there is no one in my life that I can not live without, family included.

The CURSE of the ex Dub, ...everyone is disposable

What the fuck have they done to us that we cant even operate on that most basic of human levels ?

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the seven year itch

by Crumpet in

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ex -mr crumpet and i after just shy of 8 years together have found we are arguing more and more and have decided to split up.

since we made the decision on monday this week we have been getting on like a house on fire.

the arguments have stopped, he is on time for all his appointments to meet, which hasn't happened in years, he phones if he's going to be late and i have stopped being a moody cow and drinking all his wine without permission.. the hope is that we will get back together and find eahc other attractive again after a break from one another.

slugga

I would just like to register my disgust at how this thread developed into a brawl - to the fundies and bigots out there, if you don't have anything good to say don't say anything at all.

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Crumpet,

Back to the matter at hand.

I was with my Ex for nearly 7 yrs, it was a stormy relationship and we were always splitting up and getting back together again. The longest period was 3 months. In that time we'd both gone out and seen different people and in doing so grown as individuals. When we eventually did get back together we found that we were both different and something had changed. I likened our relationship to that of a broken vase that had been stuck back together again. To the casual observer it looked alright but up close it was covered in cracks and you could see the glue. That relationship was never the same after those 3 months, I'd had a taste of freedom, I knew that I could be happy with someone else and I knew that the best days of our relationship were well and truly over. We were just going through the motions, too scared to spit, too scared of being on our own.

Things went from good to bad to worse and eventually I jumped ship.

Life's too short to spend it in a loveless relationship and you are way to pretty to be wasting your life like that. If you are really really sure its over then move on.

Matt

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Isolated & disconnected once outside

by enosant in

jw
friends

is this a common issue for exjws?

or do you find it easy to just get on with it?

having lost all the jw friends, you find that you can't bring yourself to let others get too close, even pushing them away (old habbit dying hard).

slugga

Having lost all the JW friends, you find that you can't bring yourself to let others get too close, even pushing them away (old habit dying hard). I find I'm still finding myself doing that now.
Do you find yourself dong that too? Collecting a large number of acquaintances, that you keep a 'safe' distance away, always finding some excuse not to spend time with them?

Wow you just hit the nail on the head, I left the org 17 yrs ago but still I do this. I thought it was "just me being me" not knowing why I was doing it, but it seems my behaviour has dub roots

I'm one of those people that gets on well with people, that's popular and everyone assumes I have loads of mates but the truth is I don't, I won't let people get too close to me. Like the person I quoted I have dozens of acquaintances but no "real" mates. I've spent my whole time out of the org skimming through life, never getting involved with friends, always being on the outside. And now I find out its a dub thing.

This stinks !