There has been some really good comments posted here. Alot of them hit the nail right on the head so to speak. I for one am really greatful to be able to come to the chat room and talk or read posts typed. It makes me feel like I am not alone. Some are right this is a place some can vent-out their feelings, when you still have family and relatives still in the org. and they shun you it will I think always affect you. I personally don't always want to live in the past and keep repeating stuff that has happened, but it is still fresh in my mind and being able to talk to people and read what others experience really does help. I makes me feel alot better, especially those days I wake up feeling really sad, and I come into the chat room and there is someone there, and even though I can't see their faces, I feel comfortable enough to talk. Usually by the end of our conversation, I feel a whole lot better. I thank them for that dearly. Everyone goes through many different emotions, anger, hatred, depression etc. and it takes awhile to work through these, and then maybe in the end when all is said and done, they feel better, and live for what is in front of them instead of behind them.
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When To Stop Being X ?????
by ladonna inwhen is it time to stop being an xjw, or an x anything?
when is it time to stop being on xjw forums?
when is it time to just live?.
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Part 7: Resignation into the Void
by Amazing inpart 7: resignation into the void .
the memorial was now past ... and the moment of final decision arrived.
i could no longer continue on being a jw, or at least serving in an appointed position of any kind.
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bigfloppydog
Your personal story is truly inspiring, this would really make a great book, you should write a BOOK. Looking forward to your next post.
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Are Jehovah's Witnesses evil?
by SexyTeen ini am shocked at the many accusations against jehovah's witnesses in this forum.. i know that i am young, but most of my family are jws and they are good people and i love them.
even my worldly family is very nice and i do not shun them.
the friends in the hall are very nice also.
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you are young and still learning, yes there are many JW's who were genuinely nice, but there are also ones who gossip, have double-standards, and ones who can be very mean, and when one gets hurt by those unloving or uncaring mean ones, there isn't many nice things to say about them. I have seen people treated badly by some JW, maybe because they were not well-off so to speak. JW's have their clique's and if you are not part of that you are out. I've seen respected one's in org. do not so nice things and get away with it, it seems to all be swept under the rug, or hidden. I was young and naive and was quite shocked that JW's were capable of such behaviour. I was blind and stupid and way to gullable. I thought JW's were different from the people who were not JW's I was wrong. I now realize they are just as capable of hurting others and anyone else. There excuse has always been and what I have always been told well "We are only human and we make Mistakes." I'm just glad I do not have to deal with all of that anymore.
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why, what made you join JWs?
by tosko ini would like some brief stories of people saying the reasons they joined jw organisation.
where you already in another church, were you disillusioned, were you biblically illiterate?
and if it is possible, please let me know where you come from, hoping you're not all from usa.
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When I was little, grade one, I lived with my grandparents, because my parents divorced. Well my grandparents were JW's they where loving and kind, so I had the beginning of the teaching. Got older teenager, mom remarried went to live with her and step-dad. Things got ugly, family problems etc. I got married then found the truth again, was in it for long time, then things started being ugly again things I saw and heard, just didn't add up. I've only been out few years, but glad that I'm out never to go back, no regrets. I just guess I got depressed and run down, and no one to help me. My hubby was never a JW neither were my children. Maybe I just couldn't handle the load anymore. I'm just glad I am no part of that anymore. Life goes on.
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Newbie
by bisubluvs2 inhello all... i'm a newbie...first time on this site...a friend of mine who has also left the borg told me about it... while sitting on the phone together, i read some of the stories to her and we had a good laugh...all is true....
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bigfloppydog
HERE'S A BIG WELCOME TO YOU
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Mother, wife, myself, DA'ing ourselves
by ashitaka inwell, i've finally had it.
i'm da'ing myself, along with a piece of my fam.
the unbaptised ones are refusing to go with my father now, and even my still devout father is leaning towards our opinion on things.. there wasn't even any screaming when i called the jw's the great hypocrisy last nite.. i just can allow myself to be associated with them in any way.
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bigfloppydog
Congratulations on looking for new found freedom, get while the gettin is good. The best to you and your family. I left and never looked back, that's the best thing you can do for you and your family.
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How sweet...Not knowing when family dies....
by DanielHaase inahhh, just blowing off a little steam here...perhaps many of you have been through the same shit.
i knew for the past couple of years that my uncle in mobile was dying of cancer.
well, the last time my mother and i talked (around october i think)she said, "well, we were in mobile all last weekend for uncle *****'s funeral".
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That sucks, when your left out of things like that, my mom and I are estranged, and come the time when she passes, I probably won't be told that's the norm, when relatives don't want to have much to do with you. I probably won't go to funeral anyway, she treated me like shit anyway, and your right why go where you are not wanted. I mean they never let me know when anything else is going on, so I figure why would they bother then, except to make me feel bad.
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I am a daddy!
by dedalus inmy daughter was born at 9:05am tuesday morning.
she's a skinny little thing, 7 pounds 5 ounces, with a shock of black hair, her father's chin, her mother's eyes, and a fetish for sucking on fingertips that neither of us recognize in ourselves.
i'll post pictures when i have them up somewhere ... meanwhile, foxy and i are trying to catch as much sleep as possible, which is precious little sleep at all.
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bigfloppydog
CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU BOTH What a very happy occasion. Better sleep while baby does, you'll need it. The best to you all.
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Who are still in and who has left the JW Org? Why?
by STRUGGLE ingood morning!.
hi was just wondering who are still active in the organization and do you have doubts?
those of you who have left, briefly what made you leave, do you have any regrets, and was it hard making new friends?.
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bigfloppydog
I DA myself, reasons; their hypocrisy, lies, lack of caring,double standards, what else can I say. Glaaad I'm now free to think for myself, and do what I want. At first found it hard to make new friends, but eventually they came along, now I am happy, happier than I have ever been.These new friends treat me better than JW's ever did,as for family, they don't want to have anything to do with me - their lose.
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Going out with a bang
by LittleToe inafter much deliberation, i decided to go "out" at the end of a public talk.
it didn't go down too well, but at least i was able to give some of my reasons for leaving.. i've put some of the details on my homepage.
i'll update it more when i get the time and the strength.
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bigfloppydog
CONGRATULATIONS; You deserve an EMMY for that one. Probably did what some of us wanted to do. You got guts, all the best for you and your family.