Some mothers can be really cruel, I had one of those cruel ones,sorry to read your predicament, but you can't go through life trying to please mother, trying to spare her feelings,you will eventually get run down and depressed trying to do this. Get some back-bone, stick up for yourself and live your life the way you want. Keep in touch with your grandparents why should you miss out on having them in your life because of your mom. I hope I don't sound to harsh, i don't mean to but my own mother was terrible, and all I ever wanted was her love. I was what they call the whipping stick of her life. I'd be nice to her like you sound nice to your mom, and she always put me down, or said cruel things to me. We do not speak, because I got wise one day and spoke up for myself, and decided not to take her crap anymore, the best thing I ever did for ME for a change. Now we are estranged and my life is better for that. Don't get me wrong I still love her, but I don't love what she does. All her put downs etc. I hope you find some peace within yourself.
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Phone Call From My Mother!
by Ranchette inthe last time i spoke with my mom was the middle of october.
i called her that time.. many of you are familiar with the relationship problems ive had with my parents since i quit going to meetings almost a year ago.
for those of you who arent familiar with the situation, you can do a search by clicking on the paper icon under my name to read up on whats been going on.. anyway things were getting worse and worse and nothing good was coming from our discussions or letters.. since i was the one who called her last, i decided to see how long it would take for my parents to get a hold of me the next time.. my mom even told me in the past that she wanted to limit her association with me.
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Open Letter To Jehovah's Witnesses
by Outaservice inyou may not remember, but i know you very well.
i met you a long time ago when you came to my house with your smiling faces, your neat clothes, and your soft voices, and a bible tucked neatly under your arm.
you told me many beautiful stories of a "paradise earth," and a "righteous new system" which would be established shortly.
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that was excellent Gaila you speak the Truth could not have put it in words myself as good as you have done. WELL DONE
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New Here - Kheli's Story (long)
by kheli ini've been checking out this site for a few weeks now and after feeling quite encouraged, i finally decided to register.
so here is my story.... i'm 26 and i've been associated with the jws for about 16 years.
i took zealously to the 'truth'.
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bigfloppydog
Welcome Kheli Your story was very interesting, some have gone through the same ordeal, just glad that you are out and being able to live your life according to what you want and not by others terms. You go girl and enjoy your life of freedom.
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fading away quietly
by DIM inmy wife and i are moving 3000 miles away so that we can fade away as jehovah's witnesses.
i am looking for suggestions as to what i should do about our publisher record cards (keep them in pa?, get them forwarded to seattle?
) so that we can start our lives on the west coast with a fresh start and so we'll just be left alone...any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
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bigfloppydog
Mum's the word if you don't tell people where you are going or what your intentions are they probably won't find you, but when it comes to still being in contact with family members, somehow I bet they will still have a way to find where you are. Hope things work out for you and your wife. The best to you.
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Tatto`s
by Beans inhow many of you have gotten them since leaving or piercings?
i got my ear pierced right after i left and when i was living at home my dad said i couldn`t have it on in the house.i got a tatto about six years ago the look on my dads face was priceless at the beach but he never said anything.. beans.
if you don`t have anything good to say,say it often!
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bigfloppydog
No piercing's or tatoo's here, but my daughter has tongue pierced, and two tatoo's one is a dolphine (top part of her back) and the other around her bellybutton and a piercing in her bellybutton. I really like them alot, I tell her if she ever has a baby, the doctors will have something to talk about when her belly gets bigger. Tatoo's really fascinate me I like to look at them. My son has a Scottish Lion on his arm I really like that one to.
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Part 2: Torn between Two Worlds
by Amazing inpart 2: torn between two worlds .
in late november 1989 we decided to visit our new town, and see our new house.
we scoped out the small town for its amenities, and this included a visit to the kingdom hall where we would eventually attend.. hindsight, being 20-20, i regret now that i did not try to get my family out of the organization before the move.
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Very touching story, looking forward to reading more.I really enjoyed the part about how you treated your children, letting your son act in a play, and not pushing them into choices that they may regret later in life.
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Today is my B-day and here is my brief story
by STRUGGLE ini am a third generation jw.
i told him we would talk later.
later told me i was going to be dis'f.
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HAPPY B DAY STRUGGLE
Your experience is the same as many others, I have heard so many people comment in the past about how they went to elders for help, and low and behold, a first meeting with them, and then after that a big NOTHING. It doesn't surprise me in the least. Yes they are suppose to be loving,and caring, but sometimes that doesn't seem to be the case. And all to often, when you make a mistake or screw up, who are the first ones at your door, they are, ready to deal with you and possibly df you. I've seen this happen many times. I went to elders once for help, because I felt burdened with problems I was having, I had one meeting with an elder, he commented to me that he was concerned about my spiritual well being, but after that I heard nothing more. Being in a weakened state, I was looking for anyone to help me, or I would not have gone to him in the first place if I thought I could handle the situation on my own. I guess they just get so rapped-up with too many other things I don't know, but for me it was down hill from there. I am glad I am no part of that now, for I left. Sometimes I get the impression that all some of them want is to know all the dirty details about others personal lives, then people get judged by that. WHERE HAS THEIR LOVE AND CONCERN GONE????? -
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I'm sick of this boring life!!
by Nicolas ini'm really tired of always having to fight.
i don't have any friends in this world and i don't want to return to the evil watchtower.
it seem to me that everyone else around have fun and enjoy the life while, i still don't know what to i do with my life.
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Nick: Been there, felt the same way you do when I left, believe me there are people out there who really do care, and some are right here in the chat room. When I feel bad I get in and chat, there is always someone to talk to, don't give up this will eventually pass as time goes one, but let it be known, WE ALL CARE. We are good listeners and willing to help you out. As I said there was a time in my own life where I felt exactly the same, but as I got to meet knew friends, and that takes a little time, I kept feeling better and better, now I am happy because so many are a part of my life now. So keep a stiff upper lip and get out and meet knew people.
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Part 1: Breaking Ground with Crisis of Conscience
by Amazing inpart 1: breaking ground with crisis of conscience .
while attending the district convention at the cow palace in san francisco, the jw man who had brought me into the religion, told me that ray franz had resigned from the governing body, and several were disfellowshipped from bethel in a major cleaning out of apostates.
i was shocked, and asked why ray franz would resign.
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Amazing: Excellent post regarding Bro Franz, I am looking forward to reading part 2. I's shocking to read what you find out about the governing body and all that goes on I had no idea. But I am so glad I am no part of an org. like that.
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Being a JW Kid
by Scully ini've always felt that the adult jws got off pretty easily compared to jw kids.. for instance: .
my dad went to work, and didn't bother his co-workers with jw stuff.
it wasn't allowed.
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You are so totally right Scully, kids are burdened with all what they went through, i was one of them.Ridiculed everyday just because my grandparents were JW's it was awful. This teacher hated me because of this, she made fun of me everyday. Made me stand in corner all the time, she was awful, and my mother never came to my defense. I had this teacher for 4 years. To this day I still remember her and the things that happened as if it was yesterday. And as far as kids getting beat because they would not sit during 2 hours of meetings, I totally disagree with that theory. How cruel especially for little wee ones, it used to make me cringe when someone else did that to their children. When I was older and got involved in org. I never did that to my kids.But alot of people used the old scripture "Spare the rod Spoil the child.' way to serious. Glad I'm free of all that now.