I may have thought about going back, but as time goes by, the solid answer, would be no. I no longer want to be part of an org. that teaches love, then turns their back on people, especially family, my relatives who are still in the org. are the ones who are missing out on knowing me as a person, the love that I have for them, and if they chose to do that, then that is their decision. I neither have the time or patience to worry about people who do not give to hoots for me. They miss out, now my life goes on. I have friends, and my own family to concentrate on. Sure the feelings come back periodically, then I talk with my hubby and he sets my mind to ease, and back on the right track so to speak. As for them, I hope they are happy and content with their own lives. I have one Aunt who is still a JW and refuses to cut me off, I love her dearly for having her own mind, and doing what she wants, rather than doing what they tell her. So you see, she gets my love, and they get a big fat nothing.
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The desire to return just for family's sake
by Ephanyminitas inthose of you who have close witness family members -- how hard has it been not to just throw up your hands and just return to the society, just for appearance's sake?
my parents, whom i love very much, are witnesses, and it's very difficult for me to go day to day knowing that i'm completely letting them down.
i no longer believe anything the society says, but oh how tempting it would be to just go back and fake my way through, knowing that i could give my parents peace.
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A second chance at life :)
by Sirona infirstly, i'd like to say..... i got the all clear!!!!!!!
for those of you who didn't know, i have been tested for the spread of my cancer to my glands.
i had a lump underneath my arm which had to be removed.
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bigfloppydog
I was wondering how you were doing, that is great news to hear.I am so glad for you to have that weight come off your shoulders. Smiles all around.
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Honestly, what would you do?
by Tinkerbell4125 inmany of you know, i have siblins that are j.w.s and some that are not.
since i disassociated myself, i am shunned by my j.w.siblins.
my non-jw siblins and my j.w.
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You have a good point here outoftheorg: If one does go to a gathering, and seems saddened by the fact that her/his JW relatives have that kind of effect on them, then they the JW's win, win, win, they have accomplished their point "If I shun you, you will be miserable." If you go in there and have fun with everyone else, and show that you are truly happy, and shun them, then they may be the ones who are miserable, because they did not get the reaction they expected. Some just chose not to go to such gatherings as it may be just to uncomfortable, others can handle better.
I have on occasion had the opportunity to shun them rather then them getting the jump on me, and it does irretate them to no end. They back off real quick.
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DO YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF?
by minimus inare you pretty much satisfied with yourself or do you feel unhappy, as a rule?
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With me, it is up and down, when depressed, really down, really bad. When I have a good day, I feel really good.
When down, I just want to run away and hide, close curtains, talk to no one, answer no phone calls, go to bed and sleep it off.
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Honestly, what would you do?
by Tinkerbell4125 inmany of you know, i have siblins that are j.w.s and some that are not.
since i disassociated myself, i am shunned by my j.w.siblins.
my non-jw siblins and my j.w.
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Shunning is the absolute worst thing to do to a person, it has happened to many people here, myself included, it used to bother me, and sometimes I was put into situations (funeral) where the shunning was unbearable, this is a time when a loved one has passed, and still they have the opportunity to shun and make you feel like crap. I no longer go to functions that make me feel uncomfortable and I know what to expect. Why put myself in that enviroment it just makes me feel awful, so I do not give them the chance to do that to me. Yes you miss out on alot of things, weddings, parties etc, but is it worth it at your expense, nah!
What I always wanted to do deep down, was confront them and ask them if they have a problem or something, like where is this coming from, I mean family is family, does that not mean something to these people. I have had my brother-in-law (elder) at my door many a time, finally I asked him not to come to my house anymore, not even to drive in my driveway. When he repeatedly still showed, each and every time he did that I just stood there and asked him, Why are you here, I asked you not to come to my house, he backed off and left. Now he never comes. Thank God.
I did miss my Aunts funeral, and felt really bad, but if any of my non-JW relatives ask me why, I will surely tell them. I really do not give a rats petutee what people think of me.
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My father has died (Tom Amoroso)
by amoroso inhello my name is nick amoroso son of thomas charlas amoroso and sherrie amoroso.
i recieved news of my fathers untimely death thursday sept. 19. i am not sure who reads these forums but if you are from the northwest of the u.s. and have been in the truth for a conciderable amount of time you will know my father.
for those of you that do not know him i feel obligated to tell you his story.
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bigfloppydog
So Sorry for your loss Nick, Welcome, there is a lot of nice people here, if you need to talk, please do.
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Caught on Tape Beating Child
by plmkrzy infor some reason my real one player isn't showing the video so i don't know if it's my player or a problem w/the link.
anyway i saw this on the news last night and again this morning.
there is no telling where this woman is but somebody from somewhere must know who she is and i would think turn her in.
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bigfloppydog
I saw this for the first time today on T.V. I was outraged and shocked that a woman like that would do this to her little child, someone should beat the crap out of her.
That poor sweet little 4 year old girl.I am sure she must have done some kind of physical damage to the child. I mean she was so tiny. This makes my blood boil.
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I am in TEARS!!!!!!!!!! Please read!!!!
by Jesika inthey are tears of joy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
let me share with you my great news............................ someone from this board has given me the greatest gift i have had in a very long time!!!!!
i recieved an email last night from someone asking me if i could find a place to stay they would buy my ticket so i could be at the march on the 27th.
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bigfloppydog
That is wonderfu Jesika! I am soooooo happy that you are getting to go.I will be thinking of you.
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Who Makes the BEST Donut (Doughnut)?
by Funchback inmy vote goes to krispy kreme because they make one delicious glazed donut/doughnut!
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Hands Down: Tim Horton's (chocolate eclairs.)
Or maybe honey dip, or chocolate glaze, or dutchie, now I am hungry and want one now. To far to drive to Timmy's, to late in the night to drive. Where is my hubby, he will take me. Oh darn he is at work!
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Emoticons
by bigfloppydog ini am hoping simon can shed some light here.
i use the emoticons, even put in the space, but nothing comes out except the black letters, not the coloured emotions, i must be doing something wrong.
could someone give me some info on this.
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bigfloppydog
Thanks for letting me know Nikita, I will give it a rest now, frustration setting in, I will stick to the ones that work.
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