Is it, *gasp* based on love and consideration?
Yes! Second marriage and hubby and I had familiar mates before who ruled the roost with iron fists over money so we are both more relaxed and way more honest about spending. There is absolutely nothing I could buy that he would get angry about, nothing! I have to regin myself in most of the time and I do so because now I handle all the money ie bill paying so I know what we have and what we need to pay and at his request I keep him informed.
He did it for the first couple of years and was a bit shall I say absent minded and that didn't sit well with me and my hard earned good credit. He realized I had more time to spend with the finances and I've done it ever since. He brings home his check, signs it and gives it to me to deposit in the bank and when he needs money he goes to the ATM.
We've been financially strapped and yet we never argue about money, who has what or how much who spent on what. We trust each other because we are working toward a common goal. I'm a saver, he's a spender but he's also a penny pincher when it comes to spending I'm not! I guess we balance each other out.
We don't view money as power we've both suffered enough from that in our other marriages and it sucks. When my X was stingy about money it made me want to spend it to get back at him and I did, big time! Bad way to be in a marriage plus then I would hide what I bought because I was literally afraid to let him know....ha as if....stupid! It's a good feeling to know I don't have to hide things and also that when I show my husband what I bought he is happy about it because he knows it makes me happy.