Posts by bikerchic

Lee this is a very good post. Anger is one of the feelings I had to teach myself I could own, I could express and it was okay. It's also one I don't run from any longer, not my own or any one else's. I no longer tell someone who is angry to stop being angry, however I may ask them to kindly put the gun down, LOL.

As JW's we were taught to control our anger, it wasn't a Christian way to act, angry. The scripture at Col.3:8 comes to mind about deadening our body members to any kind of badness anger included in this along with abusive speech. We were admonished to put on the new personality. As Christians we were to be peaceable, mild manner, even tempered a hard thing to do in reality. Of course when we failed to live up to this perfection the guilt would over come us. I've often heard that anger turned inward (no expression for it in a Christians life) leads to depression. This could be the reason there are so many in the WTS who are depressed souls. Suppression! I think it's what lead to my depression that and a lack of knowledge of how to express myself and my feelings.

I wish I had a dollar for every time the scripture at Eph. 4:26 was misapplied; Be wrathful (angry) and yet do not sin, let the sun not set wit you in a provoked state. Many times it was insinuated that to be angry was a sin. Yet the scripture clearly says to be angry, in other words yes there are things which will cause us anger however to act out that anger could lead us to sin. Like what you said Lee "I was so mad I just exploded in rage."

When I was in therapy one of the best things I learned was that I was entitled to all my feelings the good and the bad ones. I actually had to learn how to feel many feelings as I had stuffed so much emotion for so long and some of it was absolutely due to being raised in a religion which encouraged, no insisted we act and behave a certain way the Christian way. Don't get me wrong it's a good thing to be well behaved but it's a bad thing to do it at the cost of really feeling your emotions and being an actor in your life rather than a reactor.

I was taught some good tools to express my feelings and one I use to this day is to be safe, legal and constructive with my feelings. In other words I can be angry but it's not safe for me to use violence in expressing that anger nor is it legal nor would it be constructive to those who are on lookers or to myself.

Thanks Lee for the information I think it's great stuff and I'm going to print this out for reference.

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If man was to live forever, at what age would aging have stopped? 20? 30?

by NotaNess in

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20 is a great age for developed youthfulness, and 25 to 30 is as well.

if it was to be around say, 28, why wouldn't have 20 been a better choice?

why would it have been 35 or 40, if younger years are always more vibrant and healthier years?.

bikerchic

Now what is God going to do for us women?

Oh wait, silly me! He gave us the perfect man what more could we ask for?

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If man was to live forever, at what age would aging have stopped? 20? 30?

by NotaNess in

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20 is a great age for developed youthfulness, and 25 to 30 is as well.

if it was to be around say, 28, why wouldn't have 20 been a better choice?

why would it have been 35 or 40, if younger years are always more vibrant and healthier years?.

bikerchic

You didn't state if you mean physical aging or mental?

If it's physical then mid 20's if it's mental then mid 60's. Heck best of both worlds would be a 60ish year old man with a 20ish year old body, whoohooo, mamma mia........

Now what is God going to do for us women?

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IF.....

by AK - Jeff in

the jw's brought doctrine into a form you could tolerate, reformed the religion to allow better tolerance of those who disagree, and made prolific apology to those whom it has hurt [i know that some have been hurt that are not any longer with us, etc.

that's not my point.

], would you forgive them, and if you still believe in god, would you consider going back?

bikerchic

It's not based on reality. For that reason, I have no time for it.

Oh quit nit-picking nvr!

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IF.....

by AK - Jeff in

the jw's brought doctrine into a form you could tolerate, reformed the religion to allow better tolerance of those who disagree, and made prolific apology to those whom it has hurt [i know that some have been hurt that are not any longer with us, etc.

that's not my point.

], would you forgive them, and if you still believe in god, would you consider going back?

bikerchic

nope, no and no way 'jose.

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Italian JWs growing up with the belt! Can you relate?

by Frank.L in

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did anyone have the same "experiences" growing up as some of us italians/europeans did?...of course our culture plays a part of who we have become in our later years and how we treat our children but pointedly im wondering if anyone raised as a jehovahs witness regularly was hit, smacked, beaten, smashed, in inventive ways that begged u to laugh .....well what i mean is that the intresting thing that stands out is that growing up in this kind of enviornment made you laugh your ass off whenever we discussed these things privately as if they were normal.

and they were so not normal.

and did anyone go through the same normal "discipline".?

bikerchic

Now I know what to blame it on! My Italian heritage!!!!!

Mama mia.....thatsa nota nice!