(((ash)))
I'm so sorry to hear about your family. But 4horsemen is right - this should be a time of happiness and blessings. *shaking head* It's so sad that the BOE can't see that. It's their loss!
My only word of advice? Don't get too excited about your Dad and his reaction to the elders. It's a knee jerk reaction. Maybe this will be the breaking point for him to leave (and we all hope it is), but he's just pissed right now. He will calm down at some point and think maybe the elders are right. It may not happen, but at least prepare yourself for it!
Barry - what is an SDA? Don't know if you've had much experience with JW's but trust me - a typical JW isn't going to get married in an Anglican Church if the local elders won't let her do it in the Kingdom Hall! Just curious as to how you found this board? Do you have JW relatives?
Andi