Wow,
Thanks everyone for the info, it has been helpful. In all honesty I had not read many of the messages on the board and had not noticed that this was mainly ex-JW's. I have read more now and have found it all very interesting.
Just for ino, I am in the UK and as such do not have the thanksgiving issue etc. However, I was slightly appalled (that sounds terrible, but is true) when the child could not participate in rememberance day for war veterans, although I can now see where the thinking for that came from.
I have decided to set up my quiet ares (small area of my classroom) as a 'refuge' for the JW children during activities they cannot take part in. I have invested in some fund educational games and am getting some activities from the internet so that they can have some fun. I have also bought a CD player and some 'acceptable' (I think anyway) music that they can play while they are in there. I have bought christmas cards which have pictures of Winnie the Pooh throwing snowballs on and no mention of Christmas. On must pupils I will write happy Christmas, but on this pupils it will be 'have a great break' or something. I hope that would be acceptable. I cant stand the thought of leaving him out.
Still working on the ideas, again, thanks for all the input.