Thegoodgirl

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  Is there any hope of you coming back to Jehovah?

  by LeftBehind in

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  19 years ago

  my brother is a self proclaimed apostate.

  i see now that there is a wide variety of posters here.

  so to those that have left the witnesses what would it take to get you back?

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  Thegoodgirl 19 years ago

  I would never return to the truth. Did you ever see the movie with Jim Carey, (shoot I forget the name of it). But he lives in this perfect little world, and he is actually livnig on a TV show, and has been all his life, but doesn't know it. So everyone hides it from him, and one day, he starts to suspect. so he sails off into the "ocean" and finally sees this actual ladder against the "horizon", and realizes that the "sky" is just part of the TV set. He tears through the wall, and is free. (Please tell me you've see this movie, or I won't make any sense at all).

  So to me that's like the JWs. I KNOW it is all false. I would never go back because I am 100% sure that it is false, like a big fairy tale.

  A simpler illustration: Why would a kid go BACK to beleiving in Santa Claus, after he's already found out the real story after seeing his parents wrapping the presents? He KNOWS that he's been fooled. Now he's grown and KNOWS the real story.

  Got it? Am I making any sense to you? Good luck in understanding your brother.

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  i need some advise

  by bayrhino in

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  19 years ago

  we'll were do i start i've surfed your board and i now at the point of breaking away from the jw organization .

  for about 2 years now i've read and done some research and seen all the lies cover up read "crisis if conscience" ray franz and i got to the meeting and see all these people hundreds just going about not being open minded if wt tells these people the world is flat the thats what they'll believe and never question it.

  we'll im 28 and been a jw all my life met my wife got married i have 2 wonderfull kids.

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  Thegoodgirl 19 years ago

  Welcome to the board.

  Yeah, what everyone else said. Plus, so as to not feel too isolated, try to slowly build a life outside of the thick social ties of the family/organization. Possibly with workfriends, etc. But do try to bring your wife along. It will help take some of the fear of the unknown away from what will happen "in the world".

  GoodGirl

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  Great life moments

  by greendawn in

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  19 years ago

  what were some major achievements in your life that made you feel proud, boosted your ego and intensified your sense of self esteem?

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  perhaps acquiring a university degree, getting a good job, saving someone's life etc

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  Thegoodgirl 19 years ago

  When I first read the title, I was going to post of a moment just now: my cat sleeping on my lap, one final presentation just finished this morning, and one more final exam to go, looking out the window at the fresh clean snow, and starting to study. That was nice.

  But overall life: I remember driving with my car full of everything I owned, driving to move off to a university town, 4 hours away from home, and knowing I didn't have to go to meetings anymore. I was so proud of myself because for years I wanted to leave the JWs and go to school, but was too scared. I finally was doing it, and everything in the world seemed possible. (Funny how moving and driving are great moments for many of us.)

  Also, when my husband and I had just gotten married x2 months, and we had packed up and were moving out of state. The best moment was driving up the entrance ramp to the highway, and again that feeling of "We're outta here, and anything is possible" came over me.

  Presenting my master's research proposal a few months ago, it was a great job, and I knew the answers to curve ball questions that the professors threw out. Felt like I was walking on air when I left the meeting, so I went out and bought myself a hot dog with everything on it, and went on a little shopping spree for myself.

  When I cleaned my whole house because my mom and sister were coming up to see it for the first time, my first (and only) owned home. They were really proud of me, and my mom was actually happy for once, with no JW things on her mind. I could tell she was proud.

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  Trouble For Richie

  by RichieRich in

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  19 years ago

  as many of you know, i have a myspace.com account.. apparently, while i was out last night, someone called my mother and informed her of my activities on myspace.

  my mother called and asked me for my login info, and was shocked to see me, and around 40 witnesses in my area having active profiles.

  contents of these profile ranged from a few pictures to downright self-incrimination.

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  Thegoodgirl 19 years ago

  To one of my favorite people on this board:

  May not be as permenant as you think. Yeah, public libraries have internet, so check in with us now and again. Your mom will be ballistic for a few days, but she will eventually calm down a bit as she accepts who you are: normal. Lay low with the congregation, and I hope you can move out as soon as is reasonable for a young guy like yourself.

  And if we don't talk much in the future, thanks for cheering me up a few months ago with that one great picture of your chest! I just love ya!

  GoodGirl

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  Just an update for those who remember me

  by riotgirlpeeps in

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  19 years ago

  i'm not the newbie anymore, but i've been very much off the site lately.

  not for lack of appreciation for what is here, i've just been busy.

  i am now married to my brit boy (who is a non jw).

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  Thegoodgirl 19 years ago

  congrats. I'm a fan of the fade myself. I married out of the truth, and they weren 't happy, bu they just accepted it. Yes, be very vague and nonchalant with elders and parents.

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  Underground Reformed JW movement

  by RealNewLight in

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  19 years ago

  this is a movement which has been growing slowly but steadily among young people in spanish and portuguese speaking congregations in the united states.

  basically it is a movement created by winesses who believe in much of the teachings of the organization, but do not believe in the authority of the wts, or any other body.

  they also do not believe in disfellowshiping, and believe that every decision should be a personal conscience matter.

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  Thegoodgirl 19 years ago

  This is a good first step to gettiing out of the organization. I think, though, that this is sort of a phase that lasts about 3 months, where you say, "Gee, I wish things were more flexible, I wish I could raise a question here about birthdays, or everything is just perfect EXCEPT that one little part about disfellowshipping. That's the only thing I just don't totally agree with."

  Then later, when you decide in your mind that you will doubt that one thing, you start to losen their powerful controlling grip on your mind. Suddenly you allow yourself to do things like go to college, go out with worldly people, and then suddenly the whole JW thing just falls apart in your mind, and your realize it's okay. No big deal. No lighteninig bolt will strike.

  SO, keep going with the reforming thing if that's what is workinig for you, it will help you and other people take that first step of questioning things.

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  JW - Teen Suicide

  by Mystery in

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  19 years ago

  http://www.newsregister.com/news/story.cfm?story_no=201011

  y-c hit with second suicide.

  published: november 19, 2005. by paul daquilante.

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  Thegoodgirl 19 years ago

  That's so so sad. Very exact similar situation in our KH 9 years ago. I wouldn't say it was the parents fault, but of course the strict religious environment in which we were brought up, I think does contribute to guilt at never living up to these high standards, and no excuse for not doing so. No way to back out. I'm so sorry for the family, and the congregation too.

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  Cote, Chkowski, Florida

  by Thegoodgirl in

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  19 years ago

  hey, i haven't been here in a while, but reading over some of the posts (especially those about being disfellowshipped/reproved according to the local rules of the congo instead of "repentant" or not) got me fondly remembering the little fights/conflicts in my hometown congregation, and wondering if those families who put up with it are still in the organization or are sitting here venting about their unfair past.

  so the names of the families in the subject line should ring a bell to anyone from my hometown congregation.. at any rate, always good to see new names on the board.

  more leaving, more getting help.. happy thanksgiving everyone, enjoy.

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  Thegoodgirl 19 years ago

  Hey, I haven't been here in a while, but reading over some of the posts (especially those about being disfellowshipped/reproved according to the local rules of the congo instead of "repentant" or not) got me fondly remembering the little fights/conflicts in my hometown congregation, and wondering if those families who put up with it are still in the organization or are sitting here venting about their unfair past. So the names of the families in the subject line should ring a bell to anyone from my hometown congregation.

  At any rate, always good to see new names on the board. More leaving, more getting help.

  Happy Thanksgiving everyone, enjoy.

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  thinking positively - what is the best thing that happened to you or ...

  by Crumpet in

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  20 years ago

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  that you accomplished in the last 24 hours?.

  i ask becase i just keep reading lots of gripey posts (with good reason for sure, but i wanted to hear positive stuff no matter how mediocre or ordinary it might sound).. so tell me what was your highspot?

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  Thegoodgirl 20 years ago

  I cleaned my house. It's never clean, really, but I had a clean-sttreak this morning and cleaned for two hours. It was semi-clean. Got out early from work, Then found out hubby's friend was coming over tonight to see the house, so I finished cleaning in one more hour this evening. I look at it, wow, i want to live here! Feels great, I feel normal.

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  Well today is the day

  by outoftheorg in

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  20 years ago

  today at 3 pm i will take donna to the hospital for her examination.she is putting up a good front but i can tell that she is really scared about the possible outcome.. being a nurse for years, one gathers up a lot of knowledge and she does know a lot about the body and its failures.. she is scared and i am terrified.

  her three sons and family will be there also.

  so i won't be alone.. my few children in this area are still jw's and do not give a crap about me or donna being ill.. so they won't be there.

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  Thegoodgirl 20 years ago

  Outof Org and Donna,

  I am sending good thoughts your way. So sorry this has happened, Donna. I do hope your recovery is complete and that you have as much support as you need from your friends there in the NOrthwest. I'm thinking of you, a fellow nurse.

  GoodGirl

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