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  almost got an apology from stepdad for years of molesting!!!!!!!

  by crazyblondeb in

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  Thegoodgirl

  Thanks for sharing that. I can't imagine how difficult it was for you to write your letter to him, and I'm glad you are able to have some peace.

  GG
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  Things you shouldn't have liked as a Witness.......BUT DID!!!

  by ScoobySnax in

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  when you were a jw can you remember things you should've not liked but did?

  i was listening to some dowloads tonight and heard "happy birthday" by stevie wonder, i remember going to a big family party when i was a kid, and my uncle who had some dj decks put this one on for me as it was my birthday (none of my dads side of the family were jw) i loved it.......good memories still of this song.. i remember getting easter eggs too, and thinking however pagan they were, they tasted bloody delicious.

  better than "ordinary" chocolate bars.

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  Yeah, Chrismas specials, me too. Also, watching the fireworks on 4th of July and New Years. Mom would always give us about 30 seconds of guilty peeks out the window before she told us to go to bed. That was actually the very very first thing I did when I got out, it was New Years 2000, and I just had to look out the window for the whole dang show, knowing Iwas moving off to college in 2 days.
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  A very lonely life.

  by Harpy in

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  how do i stop having a lonely life?

  i am 33 years old and have never had a relationship with anyone.

  i have never dated..and as much as i would like to blame the jws, truth is i have never been asked out by anyone..ever.. i am a bit large, but i am not too fat or ugly and i think i am a good person, so why can't i find someone??

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  Thegoodgirl

  Harpy,

  The number one thing I wanted to do when i got out was to get a date and to get rid of my virginity. (So that I could "say" that it's not my "first" date when someone good asks me.) And that's exactly what I did. I went to a club with friends, three guys gave me their phone number, I went on a date with one, and lost my virginity to him after a month. Stupid. I got stuck dating the guy for a YEAR. He was so not what I was looking for (a jerk who was full of himself), and got me off to a bad start dating wise. So don't be too cautious, since you say that's sort of what you are currently doing, but don't think you need to marry the first guy either. Date, but not long term if it's not what you're looking for, and not too seriously. Now, this is an exciting time for you, but you need to do work too. I like the advice to get involved. Even if it's some silly book club at the library, you're going to meet people who may just be friends, but it will give you practice socially making new friends, etc. Like everyone said, become an interesting person yourself, and you will become more likeable, and have things to talk about. Definetly do the internet dating thing, and also real life.
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  The most condescending thing said to you by the (sm)elders.

  by diamondblue1974 in

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  i wasnt the most academic of children although i had some capability but i could read quite well by the time i was 4 years old at least for my age; i have always read as a child and still read now as an adult both professionally (research) and for pleasure.

  i have always been able to write too...and pretty much advanced as well as my peers did in school...perhaps i am lucky, i certainly feel like i am when illiteracy amongst adults and children is rife at present...however.. i remember when i was 16 the wts in the uk were pushing through a scheme teaching those who were not as able to read and write...and an elder in the hall made a point of coming to me and suggesting that i should actually attend the training!!

  !....i explained that i could read and write well enough and didnt need to be taught basic literacy... he said that i might learn something new and should respect jehovahs order of things and show appreciation...i did decline his kind offer rather abruptly....but wtf??

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  A fourteen years old, I had the elders visit because I was having doubts, and I was trying to explain myself to them. One brother asked me if I had ever taken any classes in reasoning or logic. I said sort of: Geometry (you have to come up with those theorems). He said what I was saying (that there may be no god) had absolutely no logic to back it up. I felt so stupid because I was already a shy and awkward teenager, just trying to outreason men three times my age.

  Then he proceeded to ask me if I had recently bought any used items, for example at a yard sale, that may have a demon in it. (Logic???????)
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  Once more, I ask for your help

  by outnfree in

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  as many of you know, i believe in remote healing and the power of prayer.

  so i am asking those of you who also believe in these things to pray for me this time.

  (lena is doing excellently well, thank you!

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  Thegoodgirl

  Good, clean, nice, simple cells. Keep us updated.
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  Bookstudy Group Disbanded......haha

  by Mary in

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  i just got word that the bookstudy attendance in one of the groups at my hall has dwindled off to numbers so pitiful that they're dissolving this particular bookstudy group and splitting up the remainder and shipping them out to other bookstudy groups.

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  When they split our congregation into two, the attendance dwindled so bad, that there were elders meetings about pushing them back into one congregation, but they never did it. Also our hall was built before the society made all KH's have to be built alike, so we had like 300 chairs, and they were always mostly empty. It looked so bad that they eventually unbolted about 7 back rows and discarded the chairs, plus a strip of chairs from against both walls so that it would look more full. It's kind of depressing to go back. On the subject, when I did go visit mom after about a year of not going, it just seemed so odd that this building had once seemed so powerful and grand to me, and now it just looks like a silly empty and depressing meeting hall in the middle of nowhere.
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  Hi everyone... the PIG's Flyin' Now!

  by burnthepig in

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  just wanted to formerly introduce myself.. .

  i've been hanging out here lately.. didn't want anyone to think i was barging in.. i got so excited about all of the normal people here.. and seem to have lost my manners!

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  Thegoodgirl

  "Kill the pig, slash his throat, bash him in", now that's in my head for the rest of the afternoon. Welcome. You're a brave girl to restart your life, it's hard, but doesn't it feel great??? I grew up in Florida, so we we're kind of close...

  GG
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  I am scared of my future marriage

  by jwbot in

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  i am watching oprah (right now actually) and the topic hits close to home.

  good timing actually, because yesterday i was thinking of talking with my fiance, mike about this very thing.

  you see, mike really loves kids, and we plan to have them eventually, its a very important part in our relationship (to him, mostly).

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  JWBot,

  Maybe I'm just young and inexperienced too, or just a bitter wife with no kids yet, but I always thought parents DO love their kids more than their spouses. I just assumed that. Yes my parents were divorced when I was 7, so maybe I'm biased, but I've always heard when you have a kid, the love doesn't even compare to the love for your spouse. So I always thought the challenge would be caring about your spouse after that. So I guess I see your fears, but in my view, you'll both love your kids more than each other, and it will not be a source of contention. But anyway, we should both not worry about it until we have kids.
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  New Baby Pics

  by Bryan in

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  heeeeeerrrr'sss... sebastien!.

  he's doing great!

  he finally found the nookie and is eating well.

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  Thegoodgirl

  What a cutie! He looks so content in each of you and your wife's arms. Enjoy your "new" life.
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  Do you see real people here at JWD?

  by jeanniebeanz in

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  when people post to jwd, do you make an effort to understand "who" they are and take an interest in their wellbeing, or are they just 'ghosts in a machine' there to entertain you?

  do the people here fall somewhere in-between for you?

  do you think it matters?

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  Thegoodgirl

  People are becoming more real to me the more I visit, and as I see a similar tone to their posts. I am starting to get addicted to coming here, especially when I'm supposed to be listening to lectures for an online class or writing a paper, I always have to hold everything and check out the JW site. I especially see people as "real" since I posted when I had a mini crisis a couple weeks ago. So many people were so helpful and open in sharing their private stories about marriges, etc.