Posts by redskymedic

Typically she has the bookstudy on Thursday nights, so I can't play dumb and say I had no idea there was a meeting tonight. I didn't even give it a second thought or I would have made arrangements to drop him off tomorrow. It's so unusual for her to have him on a meeting night that it didn't occur to me until it was too late. I have thankfully drifted off into a world where *meeting nights* no longer exist.

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Help! Is The Memorial Tonight??

by redskymedic in

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you'd think i'd know, but is the memorial tonight?

my son (he's 12) usually goes with my jw mom on the weekend, but she asked to get him today since he's out of school on easter break.

grr, i am thinking now she's doing this for the memorial.

redskymedic

UGH, I am working until tomorrow morning, so there is a childcare issue involved as well. Personally, I like the idea of having him drink the wine and then calling the police. I talked to him about it, told him I wasn't happy about letting him go. He sees is as just another hour to suffer through boredom. Funny, that's pretty much how I viewed the whole event at 12 yrs old, too. Oh well, I am more bent out of shape at my mom for pulling a fast one than anything else. Time to give her an earbeating again. Seems to be my new past time.

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Help! Is The Memorial Tonight??

by redskymedic in

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you'd think i'd know, but is the memorial tonight?

my son (he's 12) usually goes with my jw mom on the weekend, but she asked to get him today since he's out of school on easter break.

grr, i am thinking now she's doing this for the memorial.

redskymedic

Help! You'd think I'd know, but is the memorial tonight? My son (he's 12) usually goes with my JW mom on the weekend, but she asked to get him today since he's out of school on Easter Break. Grr, I am thinking now she's doing this for the memorial. I was thinking it was next week, but I guess I am wrong. Someone please set me straight! (even thought it may result in the strangling of my mother)

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Not sure if I made a wrong move

by redskymedic in

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i posted here a bit a while back.

quick background- df-ed when i was 21 (10 yrs ago), left the jw's as a single mom with a 3 yr old son.

jw mom helped me raise him for the first few years, so my departure was a sticky family mess.

redskymedic

Wow, thanks so much for all of the insight/advice. I needed a reality check and I certainly got it by coming back here. As of yet, I still haven't heard a peep from my mother and I've decided the ball is in her court. I'm going to let her make the next move, whatever that may be. Oh, and it was my husband that made me see how wrong the whole situation is. He's good at giving me wake-up calls about not letting her railroad me with her JW ways.

Scully~ you hit the nail on the head with everything you said. I am guessing you have some experience in this department.

Did your Mom have any idea this was building up or was she blind sided?

She was definitely blindsided. Sadly, it's taken me this long to grow a backbone, lol.

From what I got from what you wrote, you didn't say your mother can't see him or spend time with him, just that he can't have a dinner with the rest of the family that shuns you. How did she come to that conclusion?

No, I never said anything about their relationship together. I made it quite clear I would never do anything to interfere with that. I am thinking it's just a guilt tactic. My mother is notorious for this twisted kind of reasoning.

It will be interesting to see what happens. My feeling is that she'll call in a week or so and pretend it all never happened. Regardless, I am not going to back down and quite frankly, she should consider herself lucky that I'm not drawing the line with her spending time with him altogether.

Thanks again for the support!

Red

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Not sure if I made a wrong move

by redskymedic in

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i posted here a bit a while back.

quick background- df-ed when i was 21 (10 yrs ago), left the jw's as a single mom with a 3 yr old son.

jw mom helped me raise him for the first few years, so my departure was a sticky family mess.

redskymedic

Hi all . . . I posted here a bit a while back. Quick background- df-ed when I was 21 (10 yrs ago), left the JW's as a single mom with a 3 yr old son. JW mom helped me raise him for the first few years, so my departure was a sticky family mess. Since then, my mom sees my son every weekend for the most part- an arrangement that they are both happy with. I know she doesn't push JW info on him, so I have no problem in that department.

Ok, on to my issue. I am now married, my husband and daughter being roped into their shunning issues. I've admittedly never had much of a backbone when it comes to standing up to my mother, we just all went about our separate lives and I left well enough alone. Well, my mother calls this past Friday and requests to have my son for a large family dinner tomorrow night (not totally out of the ordinary). Something just finally snapped and I told her no . . I told her my family comes as a unit and I am no longer going to condone her and the family's shunning practices. I do not want my son to grow up thinking that treating ANY family member like dirt is acceptable. I am not going to have him sit at a 'family' dinner without the rest of his immediate family. Well, she was just speechless at first. Then she took the stance that I must be trying to turn her grandson against her, hung up on me, and continues to refuse my calls. Regardless of my personal feelings toward her and the JW's, I have no intention of turning my son against her. He's 12 and I doubt I could have the effect even if I tried. If she truly backs away, my son will be devastated. I am so tired of feeling walked on due to this religion, but now I'm wondering if I took it too far. On the other hand, I wonder if the silent treatment is just an attempt at her old guilt tactic. UGH. I can't believe at 31 years of age, I am letting myself still get worked up over this BS.

If you made it this far, kudos and thanks. Any input or advice would be invaluable.

Red

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"Your Reports HAVE To Be Turned In By The 6th of the Month!"

by minimus in

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do you miss not getting that phonecall or that announcement?

redskymedic

I wish I had thought to lie about my time, lol. Heck, I lied about everything else, why not.

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Anybody have their tree/ decorations still up?

by Sunspot in

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we just took ours down last night!

the first "after-wts" year that we celebrated christmas, i left everything up until the 7th of january!

it doesn't seem like we've enjoyed them long enough!.

redskymedic

Yep, we still have everything up. Our tree is dropping needles like crazy, though, so we have to get rid of it soon.

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Tsunami could have a negative backlash on sincere JWs

by eyeslice in

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the horrific scenes from se asia we have seen on tv over the past week will have an effect one way or another on many jws.

yes, the hardliners will see this as a part of the prelude to armageddon; "famine and earthquakes in various places".

(mat 24) this sort mentally dismisses the unequalled loss of human life, reasoning that most of these would have died at armageddon anyway.

redskymedic

I'd like to see it open eyes, but I'm afraid that it will only cloud their thinking even further. It's amazing what that mindset/mentality has you programmed to overlook. I could not fathom praying for a worldwide scale of that destruction. It seems genuinely heartless.

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Pathetic JW Web Site

by DevonMcBride in

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this guy needs a friend...and a life.

definitely a few fries short of a happy meal.. http://www.flyinhi.freeservers.com/.

redskymedic

I wasn't so impressed with his views on women, he all but said they belong barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. What a nut-job. I'm torn between feeling sorry for him and thinking he's in the right place.