Posts by Louise

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Setback

by EdenOne in

i saw this coming since my mother-in-law's funeral .... the congregation's "love-bombing" over my wife had its impact.

i watched her drawing closer and closer to her friends in the congregation.

then she decided she would attend the memorial.

Louise

Hey Eden - I'm truly sorry to hear that and I cannot imagine what you are going through, but WingCommander is right - suicide is not the way to go - remember our dear friend Oompa!!

What can I suggest? Perhaps the best thing is not to talk about the organisation at all. Don't bring it up, if it comes up, don't be bitter about it. Just try do little things with your wife again, buy flower, cook a meal, rub her feet - small things that will remind her how much you love her and how much she loves you.

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Tear down the whole of South Africa

by Louise in

jw
friends

there was a statue outside the rhodes university.

a 30 year old black student then threw his pooh on the statue and that got the ball rolling to pull the statue down.

the board of this university built also gives out burseries and grants to previously disadvantaged black south africans and not disadvantaged black south africans.. there has been a huge debate in the country and now the statue has been removed.

Louise

So I have seen the most horrific pictures coming out today. 2 men - heads cleaved nearly in half.

Bodies burnt and burning.

When BBC reporters report on the goings on here, it does come across a little sugar coated at times...like it's not SO bad, it's just a little thing.

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Tear down the whole of South Africa

by Louise in

jw
friends

there was a statue outside the rhodes university.

a 30 year old black student then threw his pooh on the statue and that got the ball rolling to pull the statue down.

the board of this university built also gives out burseries and grants to previously disadvantaged black south africans and not disadvantaged black south africans.. there has been a huge debate in the country and now the statue has been removed.

Louise

Yes, I did not mention that. Thank you.

http://www.iol.co.za/news/crime-courts/kzn-violence-seems-well-orchestrated-1.1845363#.VS46-KI0WuI

The fear is spreading: http://www.iol.co.za/news/crime-courts/foreigners-in-joburg-cbd-closing-shops-1.1845380#.VS46o6I0WuI

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How do stop myself getting too Bitter?

by stuckinarut2 in

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friends

you know, i always maintained that during this fading process, and while learning ttatt, i would not let myself get "bitter twisted and angry".... but, in all honesty, if i examine myself, i have become quite bitter toward the org, toward the false friends and the gb.. i have become angry as i see the extent of damage i feel being raised in "the truth" has done.... i feel hurt towards the lost opportunities in life etc.... how do i not allow myself to get too swallowed up by such bitterness?.

i have always been a very happy, positive, selfless person.

i can put people at ease, i am someone people feel comfortable chatting to.

Louise

Feel that bitterness, let it come out. Vent, rant, rave, spit blood at them. Well that is what I did and then I was over it. Totally 100% over being in that faith and what it took from me. I can discuss that part of my life as being part of my history and that is it.

July 12, 2015 will mark 10 years I have been disfellowsjipped, or given my freedom. The best 10 years of my life - with all its ups and downs.

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Struggling

by Alive! in

i read here regularly and although i haven't joined in, i really appreciate all the wonderful contributions from those who are willing to share their experiences.... .

i was a convert.

i won't go into the whole history ( perhaps another day) - my story could easily be recognised in the small town where i live, with my husband.. so, we stopped going to the meetings around a period of time when we were going through severe emotional difficulties - at that point, we needed unconditional family love - the hectic, forced jw dinner parties and social occasions gave no real comfort.

Louise

Alive! Hello and welcome. I'm so glad you posted on here. One thing is certain, this family can relate to what you are going through. When the "truth" starts unravelling it can be daunting, confusing, hurtful.

That Jw family comes with conditions. As you draw further and further away so will they. You and hubby have got to start branching out and finding new people to hang out with. Join a tennis / bowling club of some sort, get to know those people and create new connections. Not easy, but it will be worth it.

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Having Faith in the Bible

by william draper in

i know many on here have lost faith in the bible , is it possible that is because ones do not have the right perspective regarding it .

we have usually been taught by bad teachers , or ignorant .

i believe if we take an honest look at the bible , we will see that it gives us the best answers to crucial matters , it gives us some amount of bearings ( understanding ) , which without having such knowledge we would all be more like walking zombies in amanner of speaking , we would be lacking hope in something better , for surely something better is to come , how can we be sure , .

Louise

To me the bible is just a book. I can take things from it and use in my life. I've done this with other books I've read. If there are gems that resonate with me, I keep them close.

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Afrophobia

by Louise in

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friends

my black brothers and sisters are now afrophobic - literally has just made news now.

(i work in the major newspaper house in sa).

that means south african africans fear, hate, or dislike black africans and black african descendants.

Louise

Afrikanman - such shocking pics. It is so horrific when people necklace - no worse death scene!!!!!!

Some reading: http://www.iol.co.za/news/crime-courts/violence-has-durban-on-the-edge-1.1845192#.VS4L66I0WuI

http://www.iol.co.za/news/crime-courts/xenophobic-clashes-rock-durban-1.1845085#.VS4Me6I0WuI

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Tear down the whole of South Africa

by Louise in

jw
friends

there was a statue outside the rhodes university.

a 30 year old black student then threw his pooh on the statue and that got the ball rolling to pull the statue down.

the board of this university built also gives out burseries and grants to previously disadvantaged black south africans and not disadvantaged black south africans.. there has been a huge debate in the country and now the statue has been removed.

Louise

There are better ways to handle these issues. Instead now it becomes a tit for tat game.

For reading:

http://www.citypress.co.za/columnists/statue-anger-reveals-gross-double-standards/

And now Madiba's statue: https://banananewsline.wordpress.com/2015/04/03/the-statue-of-nelson-mandela-must-go/

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Tear down the whole of South Africa

by Louise in

jw
friends

there was a statue outside the rhodes university.

a 30 year old black student then threw his pooh on the statue and that got the ball rolling to pull the statue down.

the board of this university built also gives out burseries and grants to previously disadvantaged black south africans and not disadvantaged black south africans.. there has been a huge debate in the country and now the statue has been removed.

Louise

paulmolark - just because we have african foreigners coming in and willing to work for their wage does not give south african africans a right to murder/ attack / loot....for fear of being under oppression again. These foreigners are not here to do that. They actually are here to promote commerce and trade and employ south africans, that is what is truly scary. Some employees have turned on those very foreigners that have employed them for many years.

There are places that one best stays clear of.

Barrold - again you offer nothing to the discussion, but to ""attack"" me. I mean I really don't care about you or your opinion but it is obvious you speak from a place of total ignorance. My family WAS actually affected by apartheid in a very physical sense - it was broken up because we had different colours in my family, certain members couldn't write their matric exams, or live together. I could rant and rave about that but I don't, it is a fact and my family have dealt with it in a civilised manner. If a black person gets a job merely based on colour and not merit, or a white person gets a job based on colour - it's NOT right - it's stupid. If you have read those past topics and posts I advocate getting a job based on merit or experience and not merely to make up numbers. It's not healthy for business and doesn't make good economic business sense as has been proven so many times. Because I speak out about race does not make me a racist. I speak up because I'm not afraid to mention colour in my posts, because there are people in this country that can still hold intellectual conversations about race and know it's not personal, and know it's not racism and know it's for the betterment of each other, to understand each other, to promote fairness in all aspects of life. Go play ostrich.

There is literally a stand off right now in the Durban CBD.

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Afrophobia

by Louise in

jw
friends

my black brothers and sisters are now afrophobic - literally has just made news now.

(i work in the major newspaper house in sa).

that means south african africans fear, hate, or dislike black africans and black african descendants.

Louise

My black brothers and sisters are now Afrophobic - literally has just made news now. (I work in The major newspaper house in SA)

That means South African Africans Fear, hate, or dislike Black Africans and Black African descendants.

South African Africans are targeting the Congolese, the Zimbabweans, the Malawians, the Mozambicans, Ethiopians, the Somalis and darker South African Africansas well. - Police Minister Nathi Nhleko has blamed recent attacks on foreigners in KZN on Afrofobia

This is what we should be protesting against. People are dying/ being attacked / murdered because they come from other African countries. It is shocking. Right now in our CBD cars / tyres are on fire, shops are being looted.

The Zulu King - Goodwhill Zwelithini has said it is these other Africans that are the cause of unemployment in our country and that these foreigners need to leave. This has only added fuel to the attacks.

CRY THIS BELOVED COUNTRY!