Hi squeaky.
I'm sorry you are in a tough position. I was an on-again, off-again witness for many years too. (not quite as off as your bf, but...!)
My life is so much happier and saner since firmly leaving. Understanding the reality behind core doctrinal and judicial decisions in the organization helped me to see that it was not a way of life that truly brought me inner contentment and hope for the future. I am so happy to be out and will never return there.
I do not really have any relationship advice for you but wanted to say 'hello' and welcome to JWD.
I'm sure others will have plenty to share with you.
There have been so soo SOOO many threads started like yours that someone will probably provide you with a link.
In the meantime, you may want to look in the 'Best of' section. I think there is a collection of threads dealing with 'relationships'.
Best wishes,
-Aude. (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to have Wisdom, Knowledge.)