Posts by JustTickledPink

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want to get close to people but always back off !!!

by boy@crossroads in

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hey everybody, .

who has experienced this : ever since leaving the jw's, i've been trying to make "worldy" (i hate that word !!

) associates.

JustTickledPink

One more thing,

We were all told, programmed, conditioned, and believed that Armeggedon was coming. Death and destruction were around the corner, we weren't to form relationships because everything was to be destroyed. It's hard when a person such as myself wakes up from 19 years of being raised like that, home schooled, in fact everything I ingested for the first 19 years of my life was JW and to finally realize that the end ISN'T coming means you have to put down roots, you have to form relationships. Before it was like living on top of quicksand because it was going to be taken away any day.

Start thinking in terms of there is no end.

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My wife is getting baptized on the 19th!

by Check_Your_Premises in

my wife is getting baptized on the 19th.. i wrote her a letter today.

basically i asked her why she isn't coming to me to find out my concerns.

i am the person who has the most invested in her.

JustTickledPink

Hey thanks!

I really believe that a loving husband actually can stand up to the pressure and win out. You are going to have to do more in the romantic department as well. You are going to shower her with compliments, love, go for walks at night after dinner. Spend time alone together, get a babysitter and make sure you continue to solidify the BOND you two share as a couple.

Don't allow the WTS into your marriage and undermine the love you have for each other. Don't allow this to be the topic ALL the time so that you are dealing with a lot of conflinct and not having enough time to be husband and wife. Lots of kisses, lots of sex, lots of intimacy. Cement this relationship as being permanent.

If you allow them to start a rift between you two, they stand a chance. The more you are the model loving husband, the more she will love you and not allow them to come between you two.

I know I love my husband dearly, and would fight for our marriage.

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Just read through most of the Revelation Climax book

by M.J. in

...if that ain't cult literature, i don't know what is!!

!

JustTickledPink

I only have my "Creation" book still and only because my mother gave it to me recently and told me to re-read it that it would convince me to come back. It is tucked away and someday I think I might read it for a laugh. Coming now from an adult perspective I think it might be quite laughable.

The Revelations book was so weird to me but it came out when I was a young teenager and couldn't quite "get it" it would be interesting to read it now.

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607? 587? What does it matter

by IP_SEC in

personally i believe that 607 is not the right date, but here is another point of view.. does 607 or 587 or 609 or 586 or 1914 really matter?

yes but only after you have a pivotal date.

5 starting from the pivotal date.

JustTickledPink

I think the most important dates and timeline in my life revolve around a 28 day cycle.

That's it.

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Are they really this heartless?

by kj in

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my teenage cousin got dfd about a month ago.

it's tearing her mother apart.

i guess right after the announcement was read, one of the "friends" told her "it's kind of like a death in the family, isn't it.

JustTickledPink

I love how one someone got DF'd everyone gossiped about it. I was very young then... well, now all us kids have grown up. Most of the kids have gotten into trouble, some DF'd, some reinstated, some still DF'd. Either way, I like it when it PERSONALLY touches a family.

Let them feel what it's like to lose their children to an organization of rules. Let them suffer a loss. Yes, it truly is like a death in the family BECAUSE they are willing to let it happen. At any time parents and family can stand up and say ENOUGH, this isn't right, and actually be a parent.

All the self righteous elders from when I was a kid are now all dealing with their grown children and now they can be gossipped about.

It truly is sick.... but it would be very easy for each family one at a time to stop the sickness if they only would make that CHOICE.

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Elders Apptd By Holy Spirit?

by Sunspot in

here you go, afin and other wts supporters;

1) why does the wts insist on claiming that elders are appointed under holy spirit, when it's been proven that they have been guilty of so-called unchristian behaviors?

2) can you prove that they are appointed by holy spirit?.

JustTickledPink

The word elder to me conveys the idea that a person is older, wiser, more experienced and can give you good advice.

One of the elders who DF'd me when I was 25 yoa, was 28 yoa, and I grew up with him in a trailer park. We were both dirt poor, he taught me how to ride a bike fod gawd sakes... he lays tile for a living and was appointed as an elder. So how does he fit the description of someone that is older, wiser, and more experienced and is capable of giving me advice????? There is no way.

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Another JW divorce!

by Goldminer in

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my wife just got word that another couple in the local congregation will be divorcing.this will be the third one within 2 years,all couples in their 20's-30's,just like us here.. anyways,he committed adultery,got a std and she threw him out;the children are devastated.he was known for flirting with any attractive woman,married or not,christian or not.. what upsets me is that these people all went to the hall acting like righteous christians and pre-meditating their family-breaking adultery.meanwhile,i'm treated like shit because i don't attend all meetings here,they must have a wager on my wife and i.like i told the wife before<i'm not going anywhere and i value my family.

JustTickledPink

Here's my take, if I had to stay married for the rest of my life to the first person I had sex with, I would end up committing suicide. It was dreadful.

When you're 18 and your horny as hell, that is not the time to be getting married. Recently I heard of a young JW couple that got married, both 18 and he was working at a grocery store bagging groceries, as any 18 yoa kid in high school should be. She was just graduation from high school, anyways, their parents (both elders) gave them some money to get a trailer and now they are trying to figure out how to manage finances, get jobs, be married, etc. It makes NO SENSE at all.

Anyways, last I heard they've been married a couple years, she was a size 4 petite cute thing, they've already had a baby and someone told me she's put on something like 80 lbs, they are still living in a trailer and he's working 2 jobs trying to figure out how to make ends meet.

This whole scenario is a recipe for disaster.

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want to get close to people but always back off !!!

by boy@crossroads in

jw
friends

hey everybody, .

who has experienced this : ever since leaving the jw's, i've been trying to make "worldy" (i hate that word !!

) associates.

JustTickledPink

I think being a bit guarded might be NORMAL, think about it. When you were first introduced to a Witness in the congregation you had this weird thought that everyone was best friends right away. You had this thought that you could TRUST anyone in the kingdom hall, that all witnesses were the most loyal, the most honest, the most trustworthy. After all they were being led and had the blessing of Jehovah God.

You were also ingrained to believe that all worldly people had disapproval from God, which means they were with Satan. There was no fence, no grey areas... you were either IN or OUT.

So, after a while you start realizing that the Witnesses in the hall aren't your best friends, some of them are immoral, dishonest, untrustworthy, and you really don't share common interests, you don't have any fun with them, in fact the only common interest between you is that you are in the same location on Tues, Thurs and Sundays. After leaving you might realize there are GOOD people out in the "world" and you are sooo conflicted, it goes against what you were taught.

It just takes time to get to the point where you judge and evaluate people on a case by case basis. To connect with others. To make friends, and to be a friend. It is hard at times, I made a lot of my best friends through a book club, I have other friends that I have met from my husbands job. BUT the thing is, you don't connect with everyone in life, that is a falacy. Witnesses make it so cultish when they say that Jehovah's organization is one big happy family. That is bullcrap. I was there, when my mom got sick there was no one around to help me, to support us, to even bring a casserole over. But in my new and improved life if I tell someone something bad is going on, I find a card in the mailbox a few days later.

It's all about adjusting your thinking in your brain, the feelings in your heart will follow in time. You will get there.

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Would you....

by HadEnuf in

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today i decided that people on this forum need some bragging rights.

(of course this is just a veiled disguise for me to claim some of my own bragging rights.

good things happen all the time to my friends on this site and we never hear about them.

JustTickledPink

Let's see. I was on Good Morning America once (not a speaking part just supported an author who invited a few of us) I have been featured in the newspaper for attending a certain FUNraiser, yes I said FUN raiser... not funds.

I have so far have all straight A's and am halfway through my degree in Liberal Studies.

Married a smart hunk, that I definitely can brag about.

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Another JW divorce!

by Goldminer in

jw
friends

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my wife just got word that another couple in the local congregation will be divorcing.this will be the third one within 2 years,all couples in their 20's-30's,just like us here.. anyways,he committed adultery,got a std and she threw him out;the children are devastated.he was known for flirting with any attractive woman,married or not,christian or not.. what upsets me is that these people all went to the hall acting like righteous christians and pre-meditating their family-breaking adultery.meanwhile,i'm treated like shit because i don't attend all meetings here,they must have a wager on my wife and i.like i told the wife before<i'm not going anywhere and i value my family.

JustTickledPink

Or there are the marriages like the one I know of, where the wife had an affair with the Doctor she worked for, yet, she got reproved only and her elder husband got demoted and now they attend a different KH with their 4 children.

It's just a lot of dysfunctional people who can't or won't get the help they need. They struggle but are waiting for armeggedon to fix all their unhappiness.