The dubs may be excited by their placements but they'll soon be disappointed that those placements never result in any increase in attendance or new bible studies.
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only 90
by pepperheart inshucks only 90 teaching books trashed last week still there is a new week starting lol
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"You don't go to church in a Kingdom Hall"
by stephanie61092 in"you don't go to church in a kingdom hall" was stated during the public talk yesterday.
the speaker then elaborated that "people who go to church, go to fulfill a spiritual obligation.
coming to the kingdom hall is coming to learn.
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Women Chess players in Iran sponsored event are being forced to wear headcoverings. Right or Wrong?
by dropoffyourkeylee ini follow chess players news, and there is an interesting development at a women's chess tournament in iran.
all the women, whether muslim or not, are required to wear a headcovering.
the news story and reader comments are at:.
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Need to vent: My loathing for the JW cult increases more and more, while my wife clings more and more to it
by goingthruthemotions injust as i think my loathing for the jw cult has peaked, it goes higher and higher.
i wish this cult would just go away.
i wish my wife would just wake up.
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GTTM, I'm really sorry you are going through this. You seem to be handling things as well as can be expected in the situation you are in. I wanted to echo something that SugarShane and Rebel8 talked about in their posts. Caretaking or Enabling. When I first started fading and my kids were still attending with my wife I definitely tried to help her get them ready and make sure they all left on time. I felt that by doing that my wife would see what a great guy I was even though I wasn't going to be a witness myself.
When she was gone I would clean and do dishes and stuff that normally she would do. It wasn't until one of my kids said that they didn't really want to go but that mom forced them that I realized that I was forcing them too. So I stopped, not cold turkey but sort of liking fading. Eventually my wife would leave the KH and ask me to do the dishes or laundry and I reply basically with 'we can do it together when you get home' or 'I think it can wait until tomorrow when you can get to it'.
I still feel like a jerk inside since I know that in her mind I'm doing nothing and she's busy so I should do the extra things; but in my mind I already work full-time and do all my responsibilities around the house, I shouldn't have to do hers just because I feel guilty that she's going to the meeting alone and I somehow let her down.
So for you GTTM, it will take some adjusting by you and your wife and it may take inner strength that you have or you need to develop but I agree that the caretaking or enabling activities aren't helpful. I know that's not even the main issue of your OP but it's a lesson I learned that may help in a small way.
Edited to add: I have since told my wife how I feel and why I don't do the caretaking or enabling tasks anymore - I can't say she felt the same way about it I did but we worked through it and moved past it. So much so that now if I do something while she's gone she notices and is very appreciative.
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I have kids, and without any context that pic seemed ok to me.
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"Don't challenge Satan!"
by Funchback inwas this one of those jw urban legends at every hall?.
when i was 7 years old and began attending meetings, one of the first things i heard people say was "don't challenge satan!",.
i thought, 'what would happen if i challenged satan?
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I was also taught that. I was always afraid I might think of a challenge and then Satan would read my mind and he would get me. Trying not to think about it made me think about it and the cycle would repeat. I was told about a boy who challenged Satan and all the WT books in his house flew out the front door into the lawn. I was scared sh$!$less.
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We may have interbred with Neanderthals earlier than previously thought.
by cappytan init is now thought that we have been interbreeding with neanderthals as early as 100,000 years ago.. http://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-35595661.
craziest thing i just realized: some women still breed with neanderthals up to this day.
rihanna and chris brown anyone?.
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QUICK! Questions to ask MARK SANDERSON!!!!!!!
by TeenageInsider inquickly!!.
mark sanderson at a regional assembly.. i will find him and ask him questings.. please quickly leave questions you want me to ask.. i will record and post updates!!!!.
hurry..
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Hello everyone. New here looking for info and friends
by Harvard Illiterate 411 ini sometimes was redirected to this page from reddit or another ex-jw site but never bothered to sign up.
i wanted to stay off the radar but since i'm getting dis-fellowshipped anyways and have no plans to come back what the hell.
been 22 years in the truth........... ahhhh i hate to use that expression...... bad habit but you know what i mean.
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JW girls are very shy
by theBaus inwhat they do when they are having crush on someone?.
how do they act?.
*new in this world, so need to hear your opinions.
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Key unwritten jw rule - boys and girls cannot be "just friends". This will rule will interfere with almost all aspects of teenage and young adult life.