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  Not wasting your time on people

  by Markfromcali in

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  just a really simple point here, have you ever noticed maybe after a particular conversation (or series of them) that looking back, it was a total waste of time?

  like no matter what effort you make you just couldn't get through to actually communicate with the person you are talking to.

  it may be easier to let it go for people you are not so close to, but probably a bit harder if say you have family in as jws.

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  Yeah, I feel that way about my ex-hubby

  -April
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  Blondie: You are Appreciated.

  by xjwms in

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  i know that blondie spends a lot of time on the wt review.

  she does the best job.

  the reviews are right on.

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  YAY!!!!...for Blondie, we luv ya!

  -April
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  Were you allowed to play sports?

  by love11 in

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  i was never allowed to play sports, because it would be too much association with worldly people.

  no skating, dance class, racquet ball, softball, nothing.

  in my kingdom hall, only the "spiritually weak" played sports.

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  devinsmom

  No never as far as extracuricullar sports go. I was really good @ tennis and joining the team would have kept me out of some trouble. Guess that backfired on the 'rents...hehe.

  -April
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  I didn't ask to be born

  by rebel8 in

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  that was my response to my jw mother when she was interrogating me as a teen as to why i was depressed.

  she barraged me with scriptures commanding me to be joyful in j's service, saying it was wrong of me to feel unsatisfied with my life and sad....so not only was i sad, i was committing a wrong against the almighty for feeling so.. my mother would question me as to why i was sad, and i'd say, "what do i have to be happy about?

  i have few friends and little to look forward to in life.

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  devinsmom

  I remember telling my parents the same thing right around the same time I attempted suicide at 14. I think that maybe a common viewpoint amoung young people who fee trapped, abused represed, etc...thanks for sharing! We certainly have come a long way since then!

  -April
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  This post is for Whyamihere ( lets cheer her up ) : )

  by kls in

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  all jokes and any humor here for our brooke who needs cheering up today .

  come on you all cut lose and lets get her laughing .

  let me add,,,, and to all that need a little pick-up today.

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  devinsmom

  Why did the duck cross the road?

  because he was stapled to the chicken.

  Sorry its the best I could do on short notice

  -April
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  Is this fair?

  by devinsmom in

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  ok so some of you may know that i just divorced a man who has been a deadbeat dad to our son from the very start.

  i left him shortly after we found out i was prego for several reasons including his not desiring to be there for me as i was scared and newly pregnant, he would rather continue to be an alchoholic loser, out all the time to the bars or in some chics bed or whatever.

  so he has not paid any of the ordered child support (my son is almost a year old) he never showed up to any of our divorce hearings.

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  Thanks Brooke, I know I have the one thing that matters...Devin, but my ex just has made things so hard in so many ways, it is so hard to be a single mother, and I cant do any of the things I used to do, getting away is a rare occurance and a big hassle as far as babysitting and such. And besides Im sick of being this strong person ive been for so long, I want things to finally be normal, it seems my whole life has been spent being the stong one and im friggin sick of it!!!!

  -April
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  Is this fair?

  by devinsmom in

  1. jw
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  ok so some of you may know that i just divorced a man who has been a deadbeat dad to our son from the very start.

  i left him shortly after we found out i was prego for several reasons including his not desiring to be there for me as i was scared and newly pregnant, he would rather continue to be an alchoholic loser, out all the time to the bars or in some chics bed or whatever.

  so he has not paid any of the ordered child support (my son is almost a year old) he never showed up to any of our divorce hearings.

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  devinsmom

  He would never agree to having his rights terminated...if i understand correctly, the only way to do that is if he agrees to it and he wont do that, that would be like him admiting that hes a deadbeat and hes so screwy that he actually believes it is my fault that he doesnt pay up or see dj (he is has been welcome to come see him whenever he wants but doesnt).

  -April
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  Is this fair?

  by devinsmom in

  1. jw
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  ok so some of you may know that i just divorced a man who has been a deadbeat dad to our son from the very start.

  i left him shortly after we found out i was prego for several reasons including his not desiring to be there for me as i was scared and newly pregnant, he would rather continue to be an alchoholic loser, out all the time to the bars or in some chics bed or whatever.

  so he has not paid any of the ordered child support (my son is almost a year old) he never showed up to any of our divorce hearings.

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  devinsmom

  Thanks everyone for you thoughts, and pisces: both of his parents are deceased.

  -April
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  Is this fair?

  by devinsmom in

  1. jw
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  ok so some of you may know that i just divorced a man who has been a deadbeat dad to our son from the very start.

  i left him shortly after we found out i was prego for several reasons including his not desiring to be there for me as i was scared and newly pregnant, he would rather continue to be an alchoholic loser, out all the time to the bars or in some chics bed or whatever.

  so he has not paid any of the ordered child support (my son is almost a year old) he never showed up to any of our divorce hearings.

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  devinsmom

  This in in iowa county where I live, he is in milwaukee county. He cant be garnished because when he does work it is considered "self-employement" since he does mostly sales, taxes, well he doesnt get a tax refund, he usually has to pay because taxes are not withheld from the sales he makes, which doesnt matter anyhoo bcuz he is getting paid under the table, and as far as his assets, there are none exept his car which he makes payment on, me thinks I'm just screwed.
  -april
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  Is this fair?

  by devinsmom in

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  2. friends

  ok so some of you may know that i just divorced a man who has been a deadbeat dad to our son from the very start.

  i left him shortly after we found out i was prego for several reasons including his not desiring to be there for me as i was scared and newly pregnant, he would rather continue to be an alchoholic loser, out all the time to the bars or in some chics bed or whatever.

  so he has not paid any of the ordered child support (my son is almost a year old) he never showed up to any of our divorce hearings.

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  devinsmom

  Ok so some of you may know that I just divorced a man who has been a deadbeat dad to our son from the very start. I left him shortly after we found out I was prego for several reasons including his not desiring to be there for me as I was scared and newly pregnant, he would rather continue to be an alchoholic loser, out all the time to the bars or in some chics bed or whatever.

  So he has not paid ANY of the ordered child support (my son is almost a year old) he never showed up to any of our divorce hearings. One of which child support was ordered, I informed the judge at that time that my ex had told myself and others that he was making $1,000 per week and since my ex was not there to prove otherwise, that was the order that was made. My ex says that I lied about how much $ he made and so its a phoney child support order and thats why he doesnt pay because that amount is impossible for him to reach. So therefore it is MY fault that he doesnt pay it. Mind you he has only seen our son a couple of times in the last 7-8 months and that was when I initiated the contact (guess thats my fault too)

  So I dont talk to him anymore he tries to contact me occasionally, so last nite I got the following messages to my messenger service:

  (9:05:28 PM): happy now !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  (9:05:49 PM): u r a bitch
  (9:22:05 PM): but its cool ...the courts will find out how bad you lied...real soon
  (9:22:40 PM): this is far from over

  Ok, so Im like wtf!? So I called the child support agency to see what happened and they said that there was a hearing yesterday which my ex and his lawyer appeared by phone. Which is nice that he can now afford a lawyer but not daipers or food for his son...wonderful! So I was told that the judge sentenced him to 6 months in jail but he stayed the sentence pending his payment of the support. So if he doesnt pay support by july then they will issue a warrant.

  So here is my thing what makes the judge think that after so long, all the sudden he will pay? This is in Milwaukee county, the largest county in the state, they dont go after these guys, there are too many of them, it will just be a bench warrant and as long as he stays out of police contact they will never catch up with him. I have NO reason to think that he will pay up so basically I think he will just get away with being the deadbeat that he is.

  My ? is do any of you think that this is fair to have given hime even MORE time to start paying? Hasnt it been long enough, I mean if he hasnt shown any effort by now why would he? Not to mention that he owes me over $6,000 allready for support. The judge isnt making him come up with any of that until who knows when since he doesnt have a job, which acttually is not true, he is getting paid under the table and working without a lisence which he needs to be doing what he's doing. Should I report him?

  Has anyone gone through a similar experience?

  Im just really upset right now and need some support. Thank you for all of you who took the time to read this, your thoughts on the matter will be much appreciated!

  -April