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  so whats wrong with fathers day?

  by annalice in

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  fathers day is coming up and this will be the first year that i will be getting my dad the card and a gift .

  i mentioned it to someone and they acted like i was commiting a sin.

  so what problem do the jw's have with this holiday ?

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  NOTHING!!

  Happy fathers day to myself!!! hehehe
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  Lennix and Tyson fight Tonight

  by OUTLAW in

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  my moneys on lennix.he`s smart,cool,and trains hard for a fight.he can give,as good as he gets.all he has to do is shake tyson up a bit,tyson will lose his cool and lennix will pick him apart.who do you think will win the fight?..

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  Lennox has fans in three countries waving his flag: Jamaica, England and Canada...must be nice...LOL...
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  Too much bad language, sex & pics

  by Simon in

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  please can everyone think twice before they make posts containing bad language (even if not directed at individuals), graphic sex talk and nude or semi-nude pictures (especially if explicit).

  this is not what the forum is here for.

  if you want to post stuff like that then there are lots of places on the internet for it and, more importantly, if people want to see and read stuff like that then they are quite capable of going to these places themselves.. i know everyone likes to 'let their hair down' now and again, me included, and i like pictures of sexy women as much as anyone .

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  I'd say "yes" to the pswd protected adult forum, if enough people really want that..but dang you can do a quick internet search and get more than you can handle...

  And 'yes' to alot less swearing at each other if we dont agree with one another...just doesnt help anything...compounds situations, etc..

  And 'yes' to self-moderation...after all, we can have a password protected forum, but if the odd poster won't conform to limiting really outlandish stuff to that area, it'll still show up elsewhere and then Simon will still have to work hard to root thru it all...we all have to 'buy in' to the concept...

  Good post tho Simon, noble aims...

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  Lennix and Tyson fight Tonight

  by OUTLAW in

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  my moneys on lennix.he`s smart,cool,and trains hard for a fight.he can give,as good as he gets.all he has to do is shake tyson up a bit,tyson will lose his cool and lennix will pick him apart.who do you think will win the fight?..

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  OUTLAW YOU F***!!!!

  LOL I gotcha huh??

  Naw, Im just mad that you beat me to the punch..pun intended..on this subject.

  Im rootin for Lewis...I mean, he's kinda a hometown boy, right? Not only that but I've been dreaming most of my adult life of this showdown, it's been a long time comin, babay!!!

  The only problem, as you mentioned, is the two different fighting styles..if Lewis can hold him off, I think it's pretty clear that Tyson won't be able to go the distance...but we all know how much Tyson likes to end it early with a heavy barrage of killer punches....

  Then again, isn't Lewis arm span like almost twice that of Tyson's?? LOL...he should be able to hold his forehead with one hand and pummel him with the other, with Tyson swinging wildly and landing nuttin but air...Im having a mental image of this cartoon like situation...hilarious....

  GO LEWIS!!!!
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  "I can't find my car..."

  by teejay in

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  one of my closest friends in all the world is someone i'll call m. m is in her mid-thirties and was raised a jw from infancy but is one no longer.

  her parents are still very jw... her dad is a very high profile, respected elder in a large american city.

  they are both cool people... i've sat and had long talks with both of them about subjects having nothing to do with 'the truth.

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  Damn I wish my mom would look at me like that. I really just want a hug and her favorite expression 'how's my number 1 son' (its family humor, Im the only son).

  Thanks for sharing that with us. I hear about stuff like that alot from friends who are out but their parents are still in and I wonder what I did to deserve such an unloving parent.

  Im almost convinced that it has little to do with religion anymore, she just has no idea what love is. Her whole family is like that, even the ones who were never JWs. Their shunning is just a different flavor, they'll ignore their kids if they drop out of college or smoke weed or whatever. I wonder if it's genetic.

  Sorry, Im getting off the positive tone of this thread, guess this is one of my hurting points.

  I feel numb.
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  ANY MUSICIANS PRESENT - FROM TORONTO AREA?

  by bonovox in

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  hey all,.

  just wondering if there are any musicians from the gta on this board?.

  in particular i'm looking to hear from pro-minded/attitude bass players and drummers who are interested in joining a cool tribute band, we are also working on originals.

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  Hey all,

  Just wondering if there are any musicians from the GTA on this board?

  In particular I'm looking to hear from pro-minded/attitude bass players and drummers who are interested in joining a cool tribute band, we are also working on originals.

  You should have your own gear and transportation, and be dedicated enough to work independantly on learning songs so as to come to weekly rehearsals ready to jam. We have solid booking contacts waiting for our green light so we are looking to get performing as quickly as possible.

  JWs/xJWs are more than welcome, religious affiliation or lack thereof are completely unimportant to us.

  If youre interested, post a response and we'll figure out how to contact each other from there...

  Thanks!

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  "Well the God I believe in isn't short of cash, mister!"

  Bullet the Blue Sky, Rattle n Hum version
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  no disfellowship for inactive?

  by jaccilynn in

  1. watchtower
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  my mother was having a moment while she went to visit a friend a few weeks ago, worrying about me being disfellowshiped and having our relationship change.

  the sister told my mom, that i could not be disfellowshiped because i am not an active memeber of the congregation.

  supposedly, her daughter was a full time pioneer, stopped attending meetings, and realized that she is a lesbian.

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  My step-dad was a really great guy, and an elder in very good standing until the marrow drained out of his spine completely and left him a bed-ridden invalid. He tells me that you CANNOT be df'd for not going to meetings or not going in fs (the traditional defn's of inactive). Unfortunately he lived over a 1000 miles away when all this stuff was going down with me, or things might have worked out differently.

  Ok, now here's the other part: alot of people (like me) end up doing something df'able while inactive. For me it was the girls, and eventually my gf moved in with me. It was pretty common knowledge around my pals, as they still dropped by and we still partied etc. SO, if 2 of them had decided one day that their 'conciences' couldnt take it anymore, they *could* have gone to the elders and told on me, which in turn would have resulted in a JC being called. If I didnt show up, and they did, I could be df'd in my absence. A similar thing *could* happen to your friend, as I think being a lesbian is somehow a df'able offense...lol...mind you my pals were intelligent people who realized that if I wasnt going to meetings for a long time, I basically wasnt even trying to be part of the congregation so why bother screwing with my life, it was none of their business. I think if I was trying to come to meetings every week and maintain living with my gf it would have been much harder for them to ignore but in my situation it worked out just fine. They all knew I was basically coerced into scribbling a goodbye letter (two of them were actually in my apartment when the PO came a-knockin) so they still talk to me to this day.

  Dont know if that confused you anymore, but the long and short of it is NO, but something you do while inactive, if 2 people want to rat on you, just might get you df'd.

  WHEW! LOL :)

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  no disfellowship for inactive?

  by jaccilynn in

  1. watchtower
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  my mother was having a moment while she went to visit a friend a few weeks ago, worrying about me being disfellowshiped and having our relationship change.

  the sister told my mom, that i could not be disfellowshiped because i am not an active memeber of the congregation.

  supposedly, her daughter was a full time pioneer, stopped attending meetings, and realized that she is a lesbian.

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  Some moms would stop talking to you even if you became persistently inactive (like mine). Some moms would still talk to you even if df'd.

  Sounds like your mom has a decent heart, I'd just tell her youre not interested in attending anymore but you still love her and want to remain a part of her life.

  As for the notice thing, your not obligated to write any letter (my step-dad who is an elder told me this, mind you I had already done it) that's how they trick you into df'ing yourself. I fell for it, and regret it. Not that it would have made any difference with my mom, she'd probably avoid somebody for not getting at least 10 hrs of fs in a month. :(

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  A Plea For Responsible Reporting

  by hillary_step in

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  many hundreds of people read this site who are not subscribed, and i would suspect that the vast majority are jw's looking for answers to an internal turmoil that they may be living with.. the information posted on this board does get read and then passed among many congregations of jw's.

  this information is a powerful force and is a wonderful thing for those who are seeking to be informed, and a not so wonderful thing to those in brooklyn who are seeking to harness the boundaries of knowledge.. given this scenario, and how much credibility can be lost by xjw's who perpetuate gossip and innuendo, can we check our sources and facts very carefully before we post information to this board.

  there is no particular nobility in being first with news about some aspect of wts life.

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  I think the many comments here reflect that a large number of people do want to come here and talk factually about the hurtful things that have happened to them. They also want a place that can be a pick-me-up too, and you can't get that if it's all negative, right?

  I for one really admire how the majority of posters here are presenting their opinions in a dignified and reasoned fashion...Im taking notes! :)

  Again, good topic Hil!

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  Dateline discussed openly in our congregation

  by TheMatrix in

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  yesterday, the presiding overseer (elder h) read the letter from the christian congregation of jehovahs witnesses (us branch) regarding their policy on child abuse.

  all scriptures were also looked up and read.. elder h is a very prepared brother.

  he is a gilead graduate and served as a missionary for about 7 years in kenya before coming home because of illness.

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  JT, definately not, and I think Ive stated unequivocally my view on that. They'd have to be watched like a hawk, and NEVER left alone again with a young person, NEVER.

  I think with stricter laws, better phychiatric assessments and much more effective parole/monitoring programs, you'd see alot less of these sickos getting rereleased into society anyways, as Stinkypantz has pointed out, they are truly sick individuals who by and large can't control themselves long enough to not reoffend.

  Stinkypantz you are right, you did say 'things', my bad! But Im glad you see what I mean, it is hard to love, I know...I used to have this saying on my now defunct website: 'It's much easier for me to hate everyone and everything. It's finding space for love that takes the real work'.

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  Bullet the Blue Sky, Rattle n Hum version