Oh and Hal..."Funny how dementia causes some contro, to go - but my m-i-l was behaving like it was Germany, 1955,,,,,,," Yeah the stories get mixed. It is odd how it all works, or not works....
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Strange Saturday...family contacted.
by Sparkplug inmy mom left my family when she was pregnant with me.
she was the only natural born of my grandparents, her brother was adopted.
well my mom had three girls and adopted a boy.
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Strange Saturday...family contacted.
by Sparkplug inmy mom left my family when she was pregnant with me.
she was the only natural born of my grandparents, her brother was adopted.
well my mom had three girls and adopted a boy.
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OK, I am so excited and had to share...I just got this...
Hi there. How nice to hear from you this morning. Ok, what have we here. You were going to give me any and all information you have on
your dad so I can check it out. By the way, I got on the internet to see if you had moved or what and got some more information
about all your old addresses. Guess you have moved like we have.
About XXXX(SIS number one in the borg), would she like to get Christmas cards from us. (LMAO) If so, why not give us her address. Also do you have the addresses of
your mother's cousins--xxx xxx Pxxx, xxxx Mxxxx plus their dad who lives with xxxx and xxxxx Miller who lives in
Florida. xxx xxx is xxxx sister living in Hawaii. Let me know as I have their addresses.
Speaking of pictures, one time when Dewey and Marjorie Miller came out to see us in Cheyenne, Wyoming, we took a drive over to
Nebraska to see some cousins (I do not know from which side of the family they were) and they gave me a picture of Dewey as a baby.
We framed it in an old clock frame after we took out the clock guts. I will get it out and make you a copy. Do you have many family
pictures of you and your brothers and sisters. I can check out to see what I have. I know there is a picture of xxxx (our son) and
xxx in their underwear jumping on Grandpa and Grandma Miller's bed.
How is xxxx doing. I do not think I have all the information about you and the others so would you mind jotting all the dates,
etc. and send it to me via e-mail.
The xxx family came from a little town in Michigan name of xxxxx. This year they had a 150 ceremony honoring the servicemen
and women. My brother, his wife, their son and daughter-in-law went to it and met our cousin, his wife and their daughter and
son-in-law. Afterwards the cousin;s daughter had them all over for lunch in xxxxxxx. Sounds like a nice time was had by all.
If your mom knows where xxx and xxxx were married, please let me know. Her maiden name was xxx and Dewey had it as
his middle name. My memory serves me corectly they met while he was on a cattle drive.
Keep in touch. xxxxxWith add... I can't even read all this without getting confused. My family sounds so normal and well spread. Never heard of about 95 percent of these people. Strange thing is my 1st husbands family is in Wyoming. I lived there for a while in Cheyenne. My son was born just an hour or so from there.. WOW. I did not even know them at that time. I wonder if we were there the same time? This is all so strange! I cut out the names, but there are some doozies in my family tree. Very wild names. Anyone heard of Alzina? Pizley Mominee or Harbottle. I figured mixed up they cant do much harm. We aren't talking all last names either.
I read this to my kids and they laughed so hard. They said they have never heard such shite old people's names. Tis funny!
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Strange Saturday...family contacted.
by Sparkplug inmy mom left my family when she was pregnant with me.
she was the only natural born of my grandparents, her brother was adopted.
well my mom had three girls and adopted a boy.
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Oh hal.. I am am a little leary...My mom always told me my dad (I never met had a brother Grover) who was part black. VERY light skinned....
So today my Aunt in law?....she said this nameless photo might be a Grover. Now how many Grovers do you know? This is the third time today someone has asked "another Grover?" Damn that would suck to find out I was some sort of an imbreed. lol. But I am thinking I have too many mixed features for that. don't know.
All them secrets.
I wonder. Anyhow be it the witnesses, or be it the race thing...or be it a family secret, my mom disapeared off the map for most of my life while pregnant with me. I think she went back for a funeral. Anyhow, I heard when I did meet my aunt there was some crazy kind of half tale that included something about my dad being a doctor my mom ran off with...or a doc that knocked her up... Who knows. It was brief and short in passing...I would like to know what everyone was told and why?
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Strange Saturday...family contacted.
by Sparkplug inmy mom left my family when she was pregnant with me.
she was the only natural born of my grandparents, her brother was adopted.
well my mom had three girls and adopted a boy.
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Someone in your extended family will probably know who those pictures are.
That is just it. My JW sisters who don't talk to me. My brother who is as clueless as me, and myself, I am the last out there as far as anyone can tell. SO It would have to be a trail that split back at my grandparents or greatgrandparents because nobody knows anything more. (or I probably would not be asked, seeing I am so far distanced from anything) I thought on it once and I got as far as Miller...Hess and got a bit worried because of the Nazi issue, but as far as my mom knew we were already in America then. I think that would be kind of funny seeing Hitler would have rolled on that. His german line with an ex-JW, half black, artist liberal in the mix. LMAO.
The last I think I could ask is my mom. She may know if she has her wits about her that day. We will see.
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Strange Saturday...family contacted.
by Sparkplug inmy mom left my family when she was pregnant with me.
she was the only natural born of my grandparents, her brother was adopted.
well my mom had three girls and adopted a boy.
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That is an honor - just think, someone was in your position a couple of generations ago and kept the legacy going. Now, you're going to be the one to pass it on down to the generations to come. Future generations will look back to you with appreciation. Very cool.
I am curious if we look like any of them.
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Strange Saturday...family contacted.
by Sparkplug inmy mom left my family when she was pregnant with me.
she was the only natural born of my grandparents, her brother was adopted.
well my mom had three girls and adopted a boy.
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I have a few phots now that I don't know who they are. It drives me nuts. So I guess hundreds more could just push me over the edge...or give names to faces. She said something about having two unidentifiable photos. I think I will take them to my mom and see if she knows.
She thought maybe an unmentioned uncle Grover of my moms..or grandmas. A nice man who liked children too much. (heavy sarcasm). Great, just what I wanted another one in the family...but you know, good with the bad, and that is life.
Decki
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Strange Saturday...family contacted.
by Sparkplug inmy mom left my family when she was pregnant with me.
she was the only natural born of my grandparents, her brother was adopted.
well my mom had three girls and adopted a boy.
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My mom left my family when she was pregnant with me. She was the only natural born of my grandparents, her brother was adopted. Well my mom had three girls and adopted a boy. Of the three girls I am the only one that had children.
This morning my moms adopted brother's wife, that I have met once a few years ago when I hunted him down, called. (He and my mom don't talk) I guess the family is all aging and they need a librarian to keep the family name going. They have photos and books, family trees and such and want to know if I will keep it. Nobody had kids that is of the actual bloodline except me. How strange?
I actually was a bit of a hidden secret my whole life being half black and all...(times were different then) and well today I am asked to keep the family history. I thought it was pretty cool.
It is strange to me seeing I have met only my moms brother and his wife once and cannot remember my grandparents but maybe 3 seconds of memories of my grandmas bedside when she was dying. I know nobody else. I am guessing that it all has to go to someone when people pass and well I think I am honored. I can't tell if I will feel a bit more into it when it all gets here. right now it is a tad bit separate from me seeing I don't KNOW any of these people. Like a glorified storage shed.
Who knows.....(sigh)
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Are we in love with our own pain?
by nvrgnbk ini've been doing alot of introspection lately, and i've been wondering this about myself.. what has been your experience?.
do we carry our pain around for so long that it becomes a companion, a part of our self-identity?.
though we know it will benefit us to let it go, do we hold on to it, not wanting to lose an old friend, an integral part of ourselves?.
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In love with pain...naw. Work with it, work thru it, use it...get it out, work it out!
Yeah baby!
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Have a question for you guys.....
by lavendar inmy husband and i were just wondering.......if a son, who is a jw, inherits a large sum of money from his non-jw parents, is he required by his kh or the wts to give a portion to them??.
thanks very much for any information!.
lavendar .
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He is not required...but if he is deep into it, he may feel the need to give them some. The WTS that is. This is a shame. You know? He may just feel it is his duty. The right thing to do.
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I ponder on time with friends..
by Sparkplug inthe older i get the more i have to evaluate myself.
i have noted a loyalty to a fault with friends.
i truly have thought on that.
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I guess partially because I turn 37 in a few days, and tomorrow morning makes 10 years at my job. My son has one more year at home, my daughter is in a huge transition and my youngest just needs a lot, these years are all I get at this age...I feel I need to bother with things that will mean something. If you are not going to contribute to my life, be loyal, be upbuilding and just be a damn friend without all the secrets then just go. I don't need the crap. That is how I am feeling. Just pressed for time and begging for some "real" in people. Sometimes it feels as if people want the best bits and parts of you, but give the best they have to others. I am kind of tired of that. I also see my priorities straight. It lies in my kids and not in phoney people.
I noticed at work, nobody is really happy for me, passing the ten year hurdle. And for my birthday they actually asked what day I want decorations up...I just felt like the way it was done was out of duty. Kind of like someone telling me they are throwing me a suprise party...when do I want it? It just really sucked. They don't really do that to others and at 5 and 10, 20 year anniversaries, they throw huge spread. I freaking have to plan my own if I want one. I just feel a huge sense of awareness as to where I fit in with a mess of people I know, be it at home or at work. I just need to let it go, walk away and focus on what matters.
I keep saying that, and doing that, so it is a bit half resolve, relief, and letting go. I am there with most subjects, and getting there with others. You know?