Hi jared, keep up with your mom, let her know that she means the world to you, but that you have your life to live. If you keep up with her she'll most likely come around.
I gave up on my parents, and now I regret it. Haven't had a normal or decent conversation with them in 4 yrs. I miss it, plus they don't get to see their grandkids either, which gyps both kids and grandparents. So don't give up!!!!
Lots of hugs! Heatherg
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need to vent - just got off phone with mom
by jaredg inman i hate the predicament that this religion has put me in.
i love my mom so much and to hear her cry is the worst thing in the world.
it's so frustrating when she thinks that things are so bad b/c i'm dfd.
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You know you're a JW when....
by Preston inyou know that d.c. isn?t the capital where the president of the united states lives .
a pioneer isn?t an 1800?s historical figure who traveled the west.
the majority of books in your parent?s bookshelf have years on them.
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In H.S. biology you had to write a paper disproving your teachers thoughts on evolution, just because your elder dad said so.
Having to sit in the library for all in-school dances.
Only getting to wear thrift store clothing, because we wouldn't want to draw attention to ourselves. Think it backfired.
Getting a menial job that only paid enough to put gas in your car to haul everyone around in field service. Only to be given the occasional dollar for support from your passengers. -
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just saying hi!
by bonnzo injust to say hello.
been lurking awhile.nice site!
will tell my story real soon.
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Hi Bonnzo! Welcome aboard, looking forward to your story and your posts. hg
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Going into debt too pay for a wedding
by unbeliever ini know someone who is getting married and i am amazed how much money she spent.
she is a student and works part-time and if she's lucky makes $650 a month.
her fiance has a full time job but it goes for bills.
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My hubby and I wanted it to be small and fun. We spent only $2,000 on our wedding which we paid for ourselves. Family members chipped in small ways by making our invitations, and making food. My bridesmaids dresses were only $70 bucks apiece and were the kind of dress you could wear again somewhere. I let them pick out their own shoes or wear what they had, no one was gonna look at them anyway. And I paid for hair to be done, and we each did each other's makeup. It was a lovely simple wedding in a church that was nondenominational so only cost a few bucks. At our reception we had a friend DJ and everyone brought their favorite CD's. Three other family members got married the same year as us and spent way more, but everyone said that ours was the nicest and most fun they had had at wedding. I wish I could do it all over again my hubby and I had such fun! hg
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I just realized
by heatherg ini never properly introduced myself.
i just hopped on and started posting!
my story reads pretty much the same as most of yours.
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Thanks for the welcome! hg
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Can you comment on this story WITHOUT being negative?
by nicolaou injust for a moment try not to be a bitter, twisted, hate spewing apostate and read this....... .
by erin concors, tribune .
jerry and crystal baxter still look back on their first major argument as newlyweds and laugh.
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Very happy for them, it's rare to see anyone making it to 75 yrs anymore, regardless of their religion. hg
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I just realized
by heatherg ini never properly introduced myself.
i just hopped on and started posting!
my story reads pretty much the same as most of yours.
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I never properly introduced myself. I just hopped on and started posting!
My story reads pretty much the same as most of yours. Dad was a hypocritical elder that phsycially, mentally, and emotionally abused us kids and my mother.
As the oldest I had to set the example and be the good little JW, reg pioneer, and all that crap. Wasn't a good girl really though, realized I had to get away from the borg and my family if I was to survive. Tried many a time to end my own life but decided that I wasn't going to let them win. I left at age 19 getting df'd for fornication. At least that's the reason I gave them, wasn't true, but didn't care. Figured I'd leave with a bang. Had a few rough yrs at first. As a JW and especially as a girl, you're not raised or prepared for the big world. As nothing was expected of me but to marry, produce kids, and pioneer. I am strong and got past all that, am now married to a man who believes in me having my own say and decisions in this marriage. I also have 3 children who I try my hardest to give a normal and loving family life. My husband is currently in school to earn a degree and will be done this spring, and then this fall will be my turn. I am determined to show them ( my parents) that I can and will make something of myself. I will never forgive my parents for the way they have treated and continue to treat me, like I have some plague or something. I just found out that my dad has a brain tumor, probably not much time left, and I don't even feel sad. And I think that's sad, I have removed myself so far from them that I have as much pity for them as I would a stranger. I know I need counseling for that, but am trying to heal myself instead.
It's been great talking to everyone on here, you're like family. It's nice to know I'm not alone with my problems and quirks from the way I was raised!
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my life growing up as a JW
by moanzy injust want to share my experience growing up through this organization.
all but one sister are jw.
my other sister was molested by other people who were at the time witnesses.
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Hello moanzy, your story sounds so familiar. I wish you the best now that you're free. I've been out almost 10 yrs now, the first few out were sooo hard, no family, feeling alone, very naive, and so hurt and bitter. I really wasn't able or prepared to take care of myself. It does get better after time. It will always hurt, and I will always be bitter, and I will never ever ever forgive my parents. But I did move on, I have 3 beautiful children that I try to show as much love to and raise normally and properly,. And I have a wonderful husband who tries to understand and help me. Just hang in there, it will get better. hg
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You gotta read this.........it made me want to throw up!
by BLISSISIGNORANCE inyou might have already seen this but it's a first for me and i'm annoyed!.
i have to get back to work.................i'm getting cabin fever!.
and information sourcewednesday, march 9, 2005 ?
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According to the Bible that Jehovah's Witnesses honor, family is an important obligation.
Friggin Liars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hg -
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Music - what are you listening to right now?
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and i think the guy upstairs is prolly 'awake' now!
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I'm very random, Missy Elliot, then Ministry's Greatest Hits, to a mix CD of punk, then Nirvana, then to top it off, Frank Sinatra. Pretty much covers all the bases. Oh yeah to fall asleep eiteher Enya or one of my many classical CD's. hg