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  How empathetic are you..All the time? Sometimes? Not at all?

  by FreedomFrog in

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  i'm doing my psychology assignment tonight and i had to do a report on these questions.. consider a person that you have strong negative feelings about:.

  if you found out you were wrong, would you be willing to change the opinion you have held?.

  would you be willing to make an effort to change the basic relationship?.

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  FreedomFrog

  Empathy and liking someone to not have to go hand in hand.

  I agree and I didn't think I put those together...or at least I didn't mean to...but to have empathy for someone you can't stand is a challenge.
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  How empathetic are you..All the time? Sometimes? Not at all?

  by FreedomFrog in

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  i'm doing my psychology assignment tonight and i had to do a report on these questions.. consider a person that you have strong negative feelings about:.

  if you found out you were wrong, would you be willing to change the opinion you have held?.

  would you be willing to make an effort to change the basic relationship?.

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  FreedomFrog

  I'm doing my Psychology assignment tonight and I had to do a report on these questions.

  Consider a person that you have strong negative feelings about:

  If you found out you were wrong, would you be willing to change the opinion you have held?

  Would you be willing to make an effort to change the basic relationship?

  How would you go about changing the relationship?

  Have you ever had a strong dislike for a person, to the point of what they liked you didn't like (and visa versa) just because you couldn't stand them? I have a few and this assignment made me think. Most of the time I'm empathetic towards people but there are a few that if I found out were right and I was wrong, it would be very hard for me to admit it.

  With these few people as an example, I am not as empathetic as I believed I was. To be empathetic is also the ability to understand a person's perspective even with strong negative feelings floating around...WOW. That is hard.

  Of course my assignment was much more involved but it made me realize that sure, I can be empathetic when it's with someone else dealing with a problem not relating to me but if that person was my problem...then my empathetic level changes.

  ~Unempathetic Froggy~
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  Daycare went from bad to worse..teachers working for "free". Amusing to me.

  by FreedomFrog in

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  remember me being excited about my new daycare job working with children?

  remember when i had to report them for hitting the 3 year old in the mouth for not covering his mouth about 3 weeks after i started?.

  i hadn't said much more about this job because i was trying to make it work.

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  $200 week per kid and they can't pay you? That's farking insane.

  I agree...

  They have 16 school agers 9 infants 7 toddles and 9 preschoolers for a total of 41 kids. Mind you, this is a very small center so they are maxed to how many kids they can have but with a smaller building comes with a smaller lease price. 41 x 200 = 8,200 per week times 3 weeks (give or take) = $24,600.

  3 teachers at $7. per hour at 40 hours. (actually it's been 50-60 hrs/wk but we've been paid only for 40)

  $280 x 3 = 840 a week for all the teachers....

  $840 x 3 (weeks) = Total pay for all teachers in a month.....$2,520

  There are expenses in running the building but they should have been making a little over $20,000 a month for all the expenses. They don't provide lunches either so that's not an expense.

  I can't see how a small building making over $20k a month still couldn't afford us teachers. That's a quarter of a million a year...I sure would like that kind of money.
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  Daycare went from bad to worse..teachers working for "free". Amusing to me.

  by FreedomFrog in

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  remember me being excited about my new daycare job working with children?

  remember when i had to report them for hitting the 3 year old in the mouth for not covering his mouth about 3 weeks after i started?.

  i hadn't said much more about this job because i was trying to make it work.

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  FreedomFrog

  Remember me being excited about my new daycare job working with children? Remember when I had to report them for hitting the 3 year old in the mouth for not covering his mouth about 3 weeks after I started?

  I hadn't said much more about this job because I was trying to make it work. At any rate, it came to an end this past weekend.

  For starters, I was only making minimum wage which was ok because I had to start out somewhere. They came up to all of us teachers about 2 weeks ago stating they couldn't afford paying us and if we would work for them and they pay us back at the end of Feb. with a 25% bonus. Of course we didn't like it but all of us said ok since the 25% sounded so good. A week later, they tell us in the meeting that we may have to wait till middle of March...sheesh...one teacher down since she wouldn't go for it...only 2 more left...

  This Saturday, I got a letter from the government stating my childcare benefits are canceled because one piece of important paper wasn't turned in. The paper was in my boss's hand the end of December and she was suppose to fax it to them. She had lied and said she had faxed it. I called the Family and Job Services trying to get them to reinstate it since I need the assistance so I can work. She said they can't since the boss failed to turn it in and I have to go through the whole process again. Daycare around here is about $200 per child...making it $400 a week for me. The assistance helped me because they pay for it and I only pay $69 per month for the co-pay for both of my children.

  My caseworker said it's not fair because she knows it wasn't my fault but it's out of her hands since it's regulations. So, now I'm pissed, not at FJS but at my boss. I got the assistance on an "emergency" and I didn't have to wait the 30 days but now I've used up my "emergency" approval. What that means is I have to reapply, wait 30 days...but I can't apply unless I have a job....I can't get a job since I don't have babysitting arrangements.

  I called my boss on Saturday after I got the news and asked her about it...she finally admit that she was waiting to send it in with her Title 20 stuff for the center..."ok", I said, "but this was my personal Title 20 and not related to the center, why didn't you tell me or give the form back since this was my personal assistance?" I asked "well, how are we going to fix this"...she said she would give me a discount...a big whopping 15% of the $400 a week they would charge me!!! WTF...No Way....I said "this isn't going to work out for me and since so many things were not being ran professionally and since she is not willing to waive the fees since it was her mistake that I feel this is not the job I should be in"...she said, ok, thanks...bye.... 2 teachers down...1 left.

  There is a whole lot more to this daycare that I would not be surprised if they get shut down in less than a year. Communitive Diseases are going around there and they would tell us teachers "keep quiet, we need the money". There is lice and ringworm outbreak there, btw I did call the Health Department on them and they are going to take care of it.

  Teachers are forced to have more kids than allowed by ratio and licensing will be on their butts if they don't change this. They have a "we're hiring" sign up now...how are they going to hire if they couldn't pay for us teachers???

  One Teacher left and she's about to quit.

  Anyway, this has been an interesting experience and I'm curious as to how this will end with the daycare. All I can do is chuckle because I've never seen a business ran so poorly. I don't have any business knowledge but even I can see all the mistakes they are doing.
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  This is all too surreal. What are you doing?..Where are you at..RIGHT NOW?

  by BONEZZ in

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  ever have one of those really weird moments?

  part melancholy...fleeting and just weird.

  it's like certain uncontrollable elements come together to create an overwhelming sadness...or maybe it's just the caffeine.. so here i am sitting in a starbucks, in one of the comfy seats...been here since opening at 6am...when all of sudden i'm reading the post by uzzah, listening to the starbucks channel play georgia on my mind by ray charles...followed by i left my heart in san francisco...fighting back tears to no avail....and everything around me is hazy.

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  FreedomFrog

  and NO YOU CANNOT HAVE A CINNAMON ROLL

  Whaaaaa! I'm about to have a Sbucks moment...selfish person!
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  This is all too surreal. What are you doing?..Where are you at..RIGHT NOW?

  by BONEZZ in

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  ever have one of those really weird moments?

  part melancholy...fleeting and just weird.

  it's like certain uncontrollable elements come together to create an overwhelming sadness...or maybe it's just the caffeine.. so here i am sitting in a starbucks, in one of the comfy seats...been here since opening at 6am...when all of sudden i'm reading the post by uzzah, listening to the starbucks channel play georgia on my mind by ray charles...followed by i left my heart in san francisco...fighting back tears to no avail....and everything around me is hazy.

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  FreedomFrog

  I just want to know if you"ve ever had a time when all the uncontrollable elements in the universe have come together to overwhelm you? Tell me about THAT.

  I think many on here have Starbucks moment because we all are having to start out lives over. When we come out of a cult/relationship/loss of employment, things tend to feel overwhelming since it seems to hit all at once.

  Yes, I have Sbucks moments on many days and (like you) am thankful they end before another one hits. Sbucks should provide tissues near the seating area...LOL
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  I think I just became an unbaptized bible study student apostate

  by AddaGirl in

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  i had some major questions regarding 607 bce which directly affect the doctrine of 1914. my teacher, admitting being weak on history, could not answer my questions.

  i started researching and found that the appropriate dates for the "seventy years" were appearing to be 609 bce to 539 bce, the ruling period of babylon.

  this meant that everything i was being taught based on 1914 was in effect, a lie.

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  FreedomFrog

  That is too funny.

  Were you "raised" around the religion...if so, I got that and was eventually pressured in. Like you, I had many MANY questions as a child yet I was told I needed to "wait on Jah and just go with what I was being taught by the FDS (faithful deceptive discrete slaves)".
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  The sister I hated is becoming a beloved....

  by FreedomFrog in

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  i have 3 sisters and a brother.

  my sister that was 2 years younger than i am, we didn't get along.

  since i was the oldest, i tend to take the rap for whatever happened.

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  FreedomFrog

  Just to give a small look into what we (my sister and I) had to live with...

  Since she was younger I was responsible for anything that happened including her getting into trouble. At a very young age (kindergarten), she would get bad grades because she didn't want to do the work...of course she got beatings...(hair pulling, switches, spankings...and so on). The frustration my mother had was then onto me since I didn't "help" her get better grades or whatever it happened to be that day. My sister has a scar on her forehead (mom threw a log)...I have a scar on my finger (mom jerked a can out of my hands). Even though they were accident scars and mother apologized, they were because of anger my mom had. Since the blame was on me when my sister did something, it taught me to actually dislike my sister so much that I never did get along even up to our early adulthood.

  I hated my sister being around me and now looking back, it was more than likely because if she was around me then the abuse would be on both of us.

  There is a lot to the story but it would end up in a book. I really don't think I would have been a "bad" sister if parenting wasn't horrible.

  BTW...I'm even blamed today for my sister leaving the Borg since I didn't stop her...LMAO. One of the reasons I'm being "shunned" even though I'm not DF'd.

  My sister lives in Florida and I in Ohio so we don't get to hang around much. After she left the borg, I left a year later. Before she moved to Florida, we were starting to get closer. She moved there with my aunt to get away from our parents since she couldn't stand the DF'ing and shunning. She's been there since '05 and seems to be happy.

  Edit to correct spelling..
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  The sister I hated is becoming a beloved....

  by FreedomFrog in

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  i have 3 sisters and a brother.

  my sister that was 2 years younger than i am, we didn't get along.

  since i was the oldest, i tend to take the rap for whatever happened.

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  The thing is...my sister is a sweetie. She has a "learning disability" which at the time I had trouble dealing with. Now that I'm working with children...one in particular...a nine year old that is still in second grade...his mother is about to put him into special ed. I've been working with him and he is very smart. He's giving up on life, so to speak. He's not being challenged academically. Since I've worked with him one on one, he aced his spelling test. I believe that's where my sister was.

  I feel bad that I treated my sister so rotten when growing up...but I also realize that I was only a child and blamed her because in my eyes, she was the "blame". In reality, it was my parent.
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  My daughter is in the hospital .......... it's kind of weird not to pray

  by AWAKE&WATCHING in

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  my daughter shannon is 20 weeks pregnant.

  the placenta is pulling loose and she has some bleeding.

  the doc seems confidant that both she and the baby will be fine.she found out this week that it is a boy.

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  OMG A&W....I had no idea. Please give Shannon a hug for me and let her know I'm thinking about her.

  If the Dr's is feeling things will be ok, chances are (very high chance) they will be fine.

  Hugs to you, Shannon, and your grandaughter.