it talks about a wife not leaving an unbeleiver as long as he is willing to stay with her but she says that does not apply to apostasy.
Sorry to hear about your bad luck, Chap. Same thing happened to me in 1989- you are a victim of "Absolute Spitritual Endangerment"- This teaching first appeared in the Watchtower in 1965 and was rehashed again , around 1988-89. It might also have been covered in a more current WT article. Basically, your wife can get a divorce because you are having a bad spiritual influence on her. The Society has all but admitted that an ex-JW spouse who has knowledge of WT Society coverups, lies and false prophecies will ultimately convince a Jehovah's Witness spouse to quit going to the KH, too.
Of, course , the JW spouse seldom figures this out. Your wife will feel very self righteous at first after the divorce and will be a hero in the KH. Later, your wife will realize that she was manipulated by the elders and KH into a divorce that she didn't really want. Unhappiness and depression is the next stage. If your ex-wife tries to engage in any social activities outside the approved KH ones or complains to the elders about what happened, then she will find herself marked and become isolated even more. In the end she will figure out that you were right all along- but by then it's usually too late to reconcile with their former spouse.