Posts by jeanniebeanz

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I NEED AN OPERATION!

by Maddie in

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i have just been told that i have an ovarian cyst and need an operation to remove it.

apparently ihave had it a long time and it is a rather bizarre form of cyst called a dermoid cyst.

i was wondering if any of the ladies on jwn have had the same type or know anything about them?

jeanniebeanz

Maddie,

I'm sorry, I don't know anything about this type of cyst. Wanted to just say that I hope that everything goes 'ok' with your procedure and that you are on the mend quickly.

-J

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Not been here for ages - can I have a Readers Digest version of updates

by stillajwexelder in

sorry people - not been on here for ages.

getting on with life and all that.

i still attend some meetings.. i want to be lazy and wonder if somebody could post some bullet points on what has happened in the last 12 months.. here is what i already know.. raymond franz diedkm school - new elders textbook - posted online before many elders have seen it - priceless!hawaii branch closed and comes under us branch - sept 2010irish branch closing and coming under the oversight of the british branch - many irish brothers pissed off by this.

jeanniebeanz

Sorry, just popping in here to say, "Hello" to Stilla. I don't ever get in here anymore either. *waves*

I talked to a 'witness' a couple weeks ago, she asked me why I left and stayed away. When I mentioned that I'd learned some things in college, she didn't even let me finish to explain that what I learned was how to use critical thinking skills and apply them to currently held beliefs. She and her 'study' backed away from me and my door like I was holding an Asp or something... so, if there is more heat on them over college, then her reaction makes more sense. Thanks for the information, I didn't know about Raymond Franz passing or how many branches are closing... interesting.

-Jean

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Funny thing happen on the way to class today

by loosie in

i was in the student union bldg, and i saw a table with all kinds of religious books and magazines laid out on it, with two men sitting behind it.. i couldn't resist, i just had to ask.

i picked one of the books to look for who published it.

they aknowledged me and said hi.

jeanniebeanz

that is so funny... :) it's nice when you have enough distance between yourself and the 'troot' that you can laugh a bit.

Jean

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Out and feeling lost, with no friends? Have faith! (my uplifting experience :D)

by teel in

maybe not many of you remember my anguish through the last year since i joined jwn.

in the meantime i lost my wife (the official divorce is due in ~two weeks), lost all my friends (thank god no family though, except the wife), battled the wts and sort-of lost.

just like most of you when you got through this experience i was lost and confused, coult not found my place in life.. i owe much gratitude to this board for giving me the much needed information and support that i am not alone, and what i'm feeling is not something unusual.

jeanniebeanz

This place helped me sort it all out too, Teel. Glad that we all found someplace to vent and learn while we re-discovered 'normal'. It does get more 'normal' with the passage of time, but it's never the same.

Jean

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Revealed at last: My full bio, picture and why I am here!

by kurtbethel in

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hope you found it interesting.

note: this is my post #1914, so naturally all of the above is invisible.

jeanniebeanz

lol... they taught you well, young Pad'uan...

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Short Men... and their refusal to use the Short Uninals... a threat to all of human civilization.

by Elsewhere in

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i have recently noticed a very fascinating phenomenon in men's restrooms: short men always use the "tall" urinals, even when it violates the "unspoken social contract of using the restroom" for men (ladies, please view the entire instructional video below before asking any questions).. .

i was suspicious that the short guys were doing this, but this morning i found conclusive evidence in the form of a short man blatantly violating the "unspoken social contract of using the restroom" for men this morning at work.

i was quite shocked and taken aback at this guy's blatant disregard for the rules (thereby threatening all of civilization as we know it) by using the wrong urinal.. here at work most men follow the social contract and use the urinal that is furthist from the door, which happens to be a "short" urinal for short people.

jeanniebeanz

That was too funny...

J

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Ladies: How do I get her to stop flirting without being mean?

by Elsewhere in

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there is this girl at work who has been making it painfully obvious that she's interested, however i'm not interested in her.

so far i'm just acting as though i'm not seeing any of the "making of eyes", "any excuse to talk" or other general flirting.

ladies, how do i make her stop without being mean?

jeanniebeanz

Telling someone that you are "uncomfortable" with their attentions is a powerful statement. It's just a little vague so not prone to hurt them and it is not rude. It also gives them something to think about. You're likely to get an apology and an awkward silence for a while why they mull the statement over, but if they ask why, you have the perfect opportunity to tell them that you do not wish to pursue a friendship/relationship with them. Since you are responding to a direct question, they are less likely to be hurt since they asked already knowing that there was a problem; it's not like you just come out and lay a bombshell on them when they are not expecting it.

This approach has worked for me in the past. I hope you are able to resolve this situation. It can be very distracting.

J

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wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

by oompa in

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i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

jeanniebeanz

Oompa, I am so sorry for your losses in this situation. It is a tragedy to lose a long time relationship, but at times necessary in order to have a future of your own making. I hope this loss turns into a much more peaceful and rewarding future for you.

Jean

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Suing Parents for Cult Indoctrination

by jeanniebeanz in

has anyone ever heard of suing their parents for raising them as a member of a cult?.

kids sue their parents for other forms of abuse and courts take such lawsuits seriously.

do you think it would be possible to win a lawsuit brought because your parents chose to force you into a cult?.

jeanniebeanz

I think the government would fear coming up with an official, rigid definition for cult. To define it to narrowly would make the definition useless in terms of the law because it would not allow the legal system enough room to maneuver. To define it to broadly would make all religions cultish in some way since many religions contain some aspects within their doctrine that would put them on the list in one way or the other.

It's a catch 22... but it only takes one case being won to change everything.

J

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Suing Parents for Cult Indoctrination

by jeanniebeanz in

has anyone ever heard of suing their parents for raising them as a member of a cult?.

kids sue their parents for other forms of abuse and courts take such lawsuits seriously.

do you think it would be possible to win a lawsuit brought because your parents chose to force you into a cult?.

jeanniebeanz

How would the court define, "Cult" Indoctrination?

That is really an excellent question!

J