Posts by DHL

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Awake article on friendship, good advice! Wish they'd take it!

by AlmostAtheist in

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the awake of december 8, 2004 says in the article "good friends, bad friends" under the subheading "sizing up potential friends":.

"what opinion do mature and respectable people in the community have of him [the potential friend]?

in addition, it is wise to consider not only how potential friends treat us but also how they treat others, particularly those from whom they have nothing to gain.

DHL

Delivering good spiritual food at proper time no doubt leads to brighter light. What's so bad about that?

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We Should Encourage "Lurkers" To Post Here!

by minimus in

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friends

i would like to say that any of you that read this board are more than welcomed to be a part of this group.

i know some of you are afraid.

some of you are unsure.

DHL

Thank you all for welcoming me!

It's great to talk to people on common grounds. Outsiders mostly just don't seem to get it. And how could they?

minimus, you can bet I am

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new here

by clementine in

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i've never been jw myself but my best friend is, so i'm very interested in this organization.

i'd like to talk about it with people who can understand me because they (or friends or family) were jw.

excuse my errors but i'm french

DHL

Welcome Clementine!

Here you will find loads of informations about JW which will probably give you a better understanding on your friends sometimes surely strange looking moves.

Have a nice trip through the board. Actually I would'nt have wanted to miss mine.

DHL

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We Should Encourage "Lurkers" To Post Here!

by minimus in

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friends

i would like to say that any of you that read this board are more than welcomed to be a part of this group.

i know some of you are afraid.

some of you are unsure.

You mentioned such people were already dysfunctional and just get support in this by their belief. Looking at my parents history I could easily come to that conclusion, too, because both of them grew up in the org. But after all,

It is not you baby, it is them.
Love Jez

Yeah! No 1 priority today is for me to take best care of myself and to get out of the way of myself. I was troubled with this for so long until it came to my mind one day that I simply needed to accept them the way they are and that I could never be made responsible for their actions. I just had to let my parents go. Realising this I was able to reestablish my sanity and move on. Only sometimes the old "Why can't they be as I want them to?" pops up again and then I have to give myself an occasional kick in the a** to stop the moaning.

DHL

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Sex And Baal.

by Englishman in

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i was recalling yesterday with a newbie -ex how some dub folk liken the sex act to baal worship.. we had one chappie in our congregation who would forever be admonishing us that partaking in oral sex or anal sex (why are they always bracketed together by jw's?

) were in themselves an act of baal worship even if one was legally married to the initiator / recipient.. i don't get it.

(the point of view, not the sex) anyone else come across this one?.

DHL

Forbidden fruits always have the sweetest taste.

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new to this site

by happy camper in

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friends

hi, i am new to this site.

i have been an ex- jw for about 10years now, and this is the first time i have done this.

( trying to avoid the "apostate" label) haha i would love to hear from some ex- jw's, and see if they have and are going thru some of the same experiences that i am.

DHL

Welcome on board, happy camper!

Here you will always find open ears, friendly faces () and answers on (almost) any question. And be sure: We know!

DHL

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my da letter---feedback welcomed

by min79 in

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friends

i was thinking of sending this letter as my da letter to the society and to the kingdom hall i welcome feedback on it.

to the watchtower society,.

i am writing this letter to make a formal statement of disassociation.

DHL

min79

My heart feels for you.

I hate the thought of giving up my friends but giving up on god would be worse to me.

If this is how it feels for you then by all means go for it. It won't change their mind a bit (they will even start to hate you for it) but you will feel fine because you made up your mind and stood strong.

Good luck on your further search. You'll make your way.

Love DHL

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I Q

by stillajwexelder in

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friends

already got a thread on intelligence but any of you care to state what your measured iq is/was last time you checked 9had it checked)

DHL

Whereever one stands right now, I'm quite sure IQ - and EQ - increase almost instantly as soon as you leave the org because you get rid of these blinders and allow yourself to head for broader knowledge in whatever topic.

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We Should Encourage "Lurkers" To Post Here!

by minimus in

jw
friends

i would like to say that any of you that read this board are more than welcomed to be a part of this group.

i know some of you are afraid.

some of you are unsure.

DHL

Whenever I see the coldness that is often shown to family members because they don't go along with the JW way of doing things I think of the scripture that says that "lack of natural affection" would be one of the things happening in later times. I don't think this prophecy applied to true Christians.
FairMind

Just speak for me, FairMind! Isn't it crazy that the more someone boasts about beeing a christian the less he might behave as one? It still amazes me, how someone can read the bible continously and never learns and changes his daily behaviour according to it. Lots of blabla and nothing coming out of it. Poor, just poor! DHL

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We Should Encourage "Lurkers" To Post Here!

by minimus in

jw
friends

i would like to say that any of you that read this board are more than welcomed to be a part of this group.

i know some of you are afraid.

some of you are unsure.

DHL

Hello everybody!

Ok, ok, you got me, so no lurking anymore!!!

I've been reading for quite at least two years on and off. More often I felt very touched by stories and comments. It gave me a lot to think about and sometimes you have simply offered a different perspective which put me further on the road to deeper unterstanding.

It's time to thank you all for for that! Great job, folks!

Maybe I can give some of it back in the future.

As you openly share views and personal storys I also feel free to share mine:

I was a single kid raised a JW. At age 13 and still unbaptised I told my parents point-blank I wouldn't become a jw because I felt I didn't have the right to put myself above other people (and their opinions). Heaven knows why that bothered me. After all I grew up with that idea. I still don't have a clue. Maybe it was in my genes...

I would have never expected my parents to do what they did. They denied me any loving support from that day on. Instead I was again and again told to be stupid and not trustworthy. They still offered a room and food and kept an eye on me doing my homework. But nothing more. "Family" was gone. At age 17 I left school and home and got me a job to become independent. I was doing fine financially, but for a long time I was struggling with the emotional side of it. Suicide thoughts for the next 10 years because I felt nobody could ever love me as not even my parents seemed to be able to. As I stopped believing in myself I also didn't accept any loving support from others as I thought I didn't deserve it. Quite a devilish circle, right?

It took me long to get over it and I have to say you all had your fair share in helping me recovering. By reading the stories and comments on this and other sides I finally moved to a better point of view. Plus I realised I wasn't the only one which helped to put things in perspective, too. Before I discovered the www I actually thought so. I broke the circle so I am quite happy these days. Thanx so far!

DHL