Posts by purplesofa

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A possible reason WHY, the 'New System' was never a Reality to us.

by gumby in

perhaps i'm wrong, but this is a possible explanation.i was always taught that a new system would soon replace the old one.

in this new system there would be no more war, everyone would eat from his own 'fig tree', they would build houses and love one another.. .

in every publication that depicted this new system.....it was a picture of a beautiful lush productive earth, people were carrying baskets of vegetables and fruit walking together being of different decent, the men were bulding houses with smiles on their faces, and the children were playing with the animals.

purplesofa

The reason why, is because the writers of the publications didn't have a clue in order to tell us.

I thought and think about this still. The only thing we ever hear is how organized the org is and how we are to listen to them and follow them. If only the witnesses survive.....1% of the population scattered everywhere. I have never heard a plan to survive this global disaster. I really could not grasp why the need to destroy everything mankind has worked so hard to accomplish. I used to fantasize about building cities in the new system.

How were the witnesses going to accomplish all this without the help of the "worldly" people as ours skills are very limited? Look at the work involved in cleaning up after the tsunami, and hurricanes.....disasters of earthquakes and all kinds of other things. It can't be done with only a bible in hand. The preaching work is only able to happen with the help of the rest of the world taking care of everything else.

I bought it all hook line and sinker though.

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Just wanted to say, im going back to the meetings-----------------IM SORRY

by vitty in

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friends

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april fool

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purplesofa

HA!

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The point here is- I have no point.

by becks in

i am hoping there are others of you that have the same feelings as my self and can help me to move on from them!.

currently i am in therapy due to different things that have happened in my life (not just to do with the witnesses!!

) and i thought it would be good to share my last session with you.. as a jw you are given your goal in life- your point.

purplesofa

HI becks~ nice to meet you and glad you starting posting here.

I have been through periods in my life when I would wake up and think.........ok I am still breathing. Guess I will make it through another day. And that seemed to be the other reason why I was here. It is agonizing to go through this. Getting up day afer day after day.

Periods of time when I had no friends. No ambition for any hobbies, really not even knowing what I was interested in. When people would ask me what do you like to do? I honestly did not know.

So what comes naturally to many I had to work at and it came in little steps.

Music.......for a long time I lost joy in music. Little by little.....I was able to start enjoying music again. I could relate to many songs. some made me happy some sad. But I did not feel so alone. I listened to all kinds of music I had not formally been exposed to. I found that a way to start being attached. It really could not hurt me like people.

This could get really long........but little by little I thought about things I always wanted to do but never could becuase of time, lack of money, whatever reason. Writing poetry, biking, hiking, drawing, forcing myself to go to art shops and book stores. Taking walks.

I got some pets. Birds, fish, cats a dog! And found comfort and joy with them too.

I started networking friends online as well........and it just seems like now, life is not so bad. Many things about life are so wonderful. And those feelings I once had of What's the point have faded away. I notice the sunset, smiles, and have gotten to know myself. and in the process I have met many people that I love and love me whom I have grown to trust.

I don't know if this has helped you, but just telling you what I have gone through has helped me. So when you ask:

What is the point of life?

it is the little things. Just like this.

I hope you keep posting here and make some friends. Before long you will be hurrying home from work to see what everyone has written on the board and you can share with us your thoughts and ideas too.

thanks and welcome to the board

purps

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What Are You READING?

by patio34 in

okay, it seems it's high time we had another thread like this!.

for serious reading, i have exceptions to the rulers by amy goodman (goes great with fahrenheit 911!

)the curse of adam by bryan skyles (i think) (it predicts the extinction of males.

purplesofa

The Power of NOW by Eckhart Tolle

In Search of Christian Freedom by Ray Franz

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My sister is down and out...

by DanTheMan in

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friends

almost 15 years ago my sister gave birth to a son, and, feeling that it was the right thing to do, married the boy's father even though she had little in common with him.

the marriage lasted for about 3 or 4 years, was full of drama, and came to an inglorious and bitter end.

they worked out a joint custody arrangement where my sister had the more parental responsibilities of seeing to his education, but his dad still got to see him a good bit of the time.

purplesofa

Since he is becoming the age to decide on his own, there is not alot a parent can do.

I used my time with my children to communicate and assure them that I loved them very much and that I would always be there for them. Over time, I experianced much hurt and anguish as I thought I had lost them to their Dad and new step mom.

It was very hard to trust that the time I had with them was valuable and influencial to them as it was me.

I often thought of the scripture how Jehovah hates a divorcing.

He tells my sister that he hates her and wants to go live with his dad, mostly because at dad's house it is playtime, all the time,

My kids never said they hated me. When they went to their Dads, he had a pool, boat, camping stuff, 4 wheelers.........all kinds of stuff.......They wound up working harder with him than they ever imagined. No home has playtime all the time.

If she has done all she can to reason with him to stay. It is best to get ready for round #2.

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My sister is down and out...

by DanTheMan in

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friends

almost 15 years ago my sister gave birth to a son, and, feeling that it was the right thing to do, married the boy's father even though she had little in common with him.

the marriage lasted for about 3 or 4 years, was full of drama, and came to an inglorious and bitter end.

they worked out a joint custody arrangement where my sister had the more parental responsibilities of seeing to his education, but his dad still got to see him a good bit of the time.

purplesofa

so sorry for the double post........purps

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My sister is down and out...

by DanTheMan in

jw
friends

almost 15 years ago my sister gave birth to a son, and, feeling that it was the right thing to do, married the boy's father even though she had little in common with him.

the marriage lasted for about 3 or 4 years, was full of drama, and came to an inglorious and bitter end.

they worked out a joint custody arrangement where my sister had the more parental responsibilities of seeing to his education, but his dad still got to see him a good bit of the time.

purplesofa

I'm sorry this is so tough and sad for you right now.

I have four sons........and a daughter.

What I found out is they learn things on their own. My sons decided to live with thier dad when they got to be teens, weekend visits were great. It was the hardest time in my life. Mostly as I wanted to shelter them. Eventually they learned how he really is. And all have come back with me for a period of time.

It is difficult at best.

My daughter moved in with her Dad in January, she came back last week. She had all she could take.

Sometimes you just have to let them decide on thier own.

purps

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My sister is down and out...

by DanTheMan in

jw
friends

almost 15 years ago my sister gave birth to a son, and, feeling that it was the right thing to do, married the boy's father even though she had little in common with him.

the marriage lasted for about 3 or 4 years, was full of drama, and came to an inglorious and bitter end.

they worked out a joint custody arrangement where my sister had the more parental responsibilities of seeing to his education, but his dad still got to see him a good bit of the time.

purplesofa

I'm sorry this is so tough and sad for you right now.

I have four sons........and a daughter.

What I found out is they learn things on their own. My sons decided to live with thier dad when they got to be teens, weekend visits were great. It was the hardest time in my life. Mostly as I wanted to shelter them. Eventually they learned how he really is. And all have come back with me for a period of time.

It is difficult at best.

My daughter moved in with her Dad in January, she came back last week. She had all she could take.

Sometimes you just have to let them decide on thier own.

purps

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What Was Your Greatest "Privilege" In The Organization?

by minimus in

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friends

was it being able to join the theocratic ministry school?

being a regular pioneer?

"handling microphones"?

purplesofa

...he gave it back to me completely rewritten, and barely resembled my story.

I just had to comment on this..........The same thing happened with my part at an assembly.

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Does anyone feel that their abilty 2 make money has been influenced by WT?

by theotherside in

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friends

we were told so many times that we were slaves 2 not only god but anyone in a secular position of authority.

so i feel that this only encouraged a subordinate and non confortational attitude with our employers.

almost 2 the point that that even those of us who are self employed never get 2 develope the killer instinct that is needed 2 compete in the business world.

purplesofa

to answer your question.

Yes..........my ability to make money was influenced by the WT. I thought I was materilistic. Because I loved my work, I thought I did not have the right outlook for being a Witness. Man, what dumbass thinking. I can't believe I bought the BS. Work is work, make the best money you can, and If you love your job......what a bonus........it flows over into every area of your life. I felt so guilty for being successful......doing so much better than many brothers at the hall. I think it was intimidating and I wanted to do what they kept asking. Keeping my life simple, blah blah blah...... Only a very few people on the planet can live the life they expect. Unfortunately, their lack of tolerance for anyone loving a life other than meetings and study and service.......they are losing many talented people. It is a very distorted thinking. If there is people from the organization reading these posts.......being aggressive and sucessful with a career does not mean you are not moral......it does not mean you are materialistic........It means you are responsible.......and can make contributions.