I like the arrangment with my new husband.. we both respect each other but in major decisions.. like.. How expensive we should go on a fridge. I may know the budget and suggest not so expensive.. but he may want More POWER and want the bigger one. Your the man.. get it then. It just means he has to work harder to pay it off. ;(and then i get the fridge w/ none of the blame) ;Plus.. if something goes wrong from one of his.. final decisions.. na na na na na nah... lol
We both love and respect each other and when we don't agree I don't disagree about it in front of the kids.. I let him have his say then later on and alone we discuss it. He may have valid points and reasons for what he did and i just needed to understand him..etc Same goes the other way as well. But I don't feel anyone has the right to tell you that you can't do something that you want to do. However, the need for discussion and understanding and compromise is a must. You sound like agreat women and wife. My kind of women actually.