Posts by LongHairGal

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I saw this on ex JW Reddit today. Are ANY JW kids even listening to talks anymore with tablets in their hands? :)? lol

by Balaamsass2 in

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i got this notification from ex-jw reddit today via email:.

r/exjw · posted by u/nightmare_dark_shade 1d ago.

guys, my parents found out i was posting here.

LongHairGal

WING COMMANDER:

All so true! Other churches have activities for all ages and are pleasant to attend. What a contrast to the *dead* JW religion that has nothing but gloom and doom and a toxic environment! I don’t believe the Witnesses ever had Fruits of the Spirit.

I guess being Catholic and then making the mistake of getting involved with the JWs turned me off.. But, even the Catholic Church has come a long way and those I know now who attend are content.

Again, other churches have social programs for the needy.. In contrast, Witnesses have none.. This is too bad in light of all the needy it created by telling them not to get careers.. I feel it would be the ‘Christian’ thing to do to help their people out in some way (the many who reached retirement age unprepared thanks to never getting those careers or decent jobs).

I’m so Glad today I followed my gut and never fell for anything they said.

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I saw this on ex JW Reddit today. Are ANY JW kids even listening to talks anymore with tablets in their hands? :)? lol

by Balaamsass2 in

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i got this notification from ex-jw reddit today via email:.

r/exjw · posted by u/nightmare_dark_shade 1d ago.

guys, my parents found out i was posting here.

LongHairGal

WING COMMANDER:

I know how your mom felt and I also scoffed at the unbelievable bullshit I heard them say. And it went in one ear and out the other.

Remember, I saw all the older people in the hall collecting their pensions because they had been in the workforce.. Meanwhile, I was treated like an outcast for being in the workforce. But, I’m retired and can Thank God every day I never listened to these hypocrites (it’s almost as if they were trying to kill me with their pushing poverty).

The JW religion is also dishonest in their portrayals in the videos as you pointed out. They either show a couple obviously wealthy; or in others a guy with a house in a decent suburban area that he would have to be making over six figures to afford and maintain, not to mention a wife that probably helps out too.

As for anyone especially today in 2024, who believes they can get themselves fired from a good job and that another one is going to be dropped in their lap - words can’t describe the stupidity of this person. They’d never get an ounce of pity from me. Hopefully any gullible person who did this in the past learned from their error. This is not the ‘80s with a healthy economy. Quite the opposite and I don’t think we’ll see that again.

Nah, when the last of the Boomers mostly women are gone with their generosity (courtesy of some deceased husband who worked 40 years) it’s pretty much over for this religion - and good riddance when that finally happens!

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Mandated Shunning is a Crime

by Lee Marsh in

mandated shunning is on the rise around the world with devastating effects on millions of people.

shunning that is mandated by organized groups to its members is a form of both physical and psychological violence against those people being shunned and cut off from their family and life-long relationships.

mandated shunning means that the shunning is ordered from the top down.

LongHairGal

TONUS OH:

No, but they’d be treated like how a host would treat an unwanted guest. A fake smile and keep on moving!

Witnesses have limited contact with the world not being exposed to ‘real’ situations that are not in a Kingdom Hall setting.

Even ‘worldly’ people wouldn’t think if they didn’t bother with somebody for 40 years that they were going to pick up where they left off ages ago.

Witnesses are deeply delusional and frankly I would have no patience to deal with them ever again - and glad I don’t have to.

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Mandated Shunning is a Crime

by Lee Marsh in

mandated shunning is on the rise around the world with devastating effects on millions of people.

shunning that is mandated by organized groups to its members is a form of both physical and psychological violence against those people being shunned and cut off from their family and life-long relationships.

mandated shunning means that the shunning is ordered from the top down.

LongHairGal

NOT FORMER:

Regarding the JW religion’s ‘relaxing the rules’ towards Disfellowshipped and shunned people.: I agree with you that under the surface it’s not a kinder or gentler religion.

Here is what I think: I am ‘Faded’ and not disfellowshipped. I am shunned when I encounter some JWs I knew but I do not care as I have no family there and am Out a long time and retired.

So, how would I really feel if people who shunned me decades ago all of a sudden came up to me smiling and wanted to be friends??? 🤣 Quite frankly, I’m not interested and I would politely back off.. I built a life without them and too much time has passed. I neither need nor want their old faces around me.. It is to their credit I suppose if they realize they were wrong but it’s too bad a religion gave them permission to be a human being.. Sorry, but it would be too late in my case.

The JW religion IS ridiculous and imagines people are like light switches that you turn On and Off.. Someone should tell them it doesn’t work that way.

However, I DO understand that a Disfellowshipped person shunned by loved ones with a broken family they dearly miss would find the religion’s new policy (trying to undo its damage)..to be good news!

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I saw this on ex JW Reddit today. Are ANY JW kids even listening to talks anymore with tablets in their hands? :)? lol

by Balaamsass2 in

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i got this notification from ex-jw reddit today via email:.

r/exjw · posted by u/nightmare_dark_shade 1d ago.

guys, my parents found out i was posting here.

LongHairGal

WING COMMANDER & BETH SARIM;

As somebody not raised a Witness I cannot imagine those long District Conventions of long ago! The three-day ones were long enough.. My weekend was wasted and I got NOTHING done and went to work Monday exhausted.

As Beth Sarim mentioned in another post, people are too busy making a living these days and taking care of households… This shows how out-of-touch with reality the religion is about everyday life and what people have to do in order to live.

The people running the religion are cloistered and some have never paid a bill in their lives. They are clueless about everything. Maybe in the 1950s life was simpler for many but not all. Today? ..The religion can forget it if they imagine anybody has time to spend several days at a stadium listening to religious talks.. And then telling poor dopes they should be prepared to get fired from their jobs if they can’t get time off. In other words giving their bosses an ultimatum.. Get Real.

But, then again, they are the ones still telling gullible JWs not to get decent jobs so they can eat and not be destitute in later life… I can’t even feel sorry for people stupid enough to listen to them.

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Half hearted JWs compared to past generations

by JohnR1975 in

is it just me or has there been a massive change in jws of late?.

when i grew up in the cult they had a real sense of urgency and would do an hour minimum, these days it’s not even ten mins before coffee break.. same goes for everything else, it’s half hearted .

LongHairGal

LIAM:

That is a very sad and touching story you tell about this sister and BLESS you for being there for her! You are a wonderful person.

Everything she says I relate to. Except I am not crying like she is.. I was raised Catholic and came into the Witnesses as a young working adult. I refused to quit my job to appease them.. But, you should have seen the hypocrisy: all the older people in the hall were collecting pensions because they were in the workforce. But, yet they shunned me because I WAS in the workforce. However, I ignored all this.

As far as looking for a man there: all the good ones were taken and the leftovers were oddballs that I didn’t want. I thought it best to look outside but kept quiet about it. I have heard recently that the men there (40ish age bracket) are looking for teenage girls to marry! So, any older woman with a brain has to look elsewhere.

The religion wants single women around as drudges to do favors anyway. Before I ‘Faded’ in 2001, I never did favors for anybody there. Nope. Not after all the hate I got over my full-time job. Today I am retired and Glad I never listened to the Witnesses.. I am sorry that this sister and others who listened and followed the ‘pioneering/no career’ path are struggling today! So sad.

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Rumour 144,000 literal number teaching to be abandoned at Annual Meeting

by slimboyfat in

say it ain’t so!

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in one sense it’s a no brainer because the figures just don’t add up any more.. in another (negative) sense it’s a no brainer because it’s been fundamental to jws since year dot and might undermine the whole thing?

LongHairGal

BETH SARIM:

You are right about the JW religion’s two-tier class system.

This is why when I left the JW religion I made peace with the idea of death as it has always occurred. I felt the JW teaching of paradise earth was a cruel trick to play on my mind so I rid myself of it.. Maybe my Catholic upbringing made this easier for me to do this? I think nobody knows the answers about what happens to us.

Can you imagine all the bitter JWs if they are told their exact expectation might not happen?

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Half hearted JWs compared to past generations

by JohnR1975 in

is it just me or has there been a massive change in jws of late?.

when i grew up in the cult they had a real sense of urgency and would do an hour minimum, these days it’s not even ten mins before coffee break.. same goes for everything else, it’s half hearted .

LongHairGal

LIAM:

Yes, I would imagine that most of the older Witnesses remaining in that religion have accepted that the End may not come in their lifetime (assuming it doesn’t happen tomorrow).

The stories I am hearing through the grapevine are of people becoming sick, etc. Most are Boomers. Some are the diehards I remember from years ago who looked down on me because I worked and didn’t pioneer.

That teaching of counting time that the religion did away with at their 2023 annual meeting shocked me.. I was the ‘low hour publisher’ who got judged over this.. Glad I never listened. I am happy to hear you say that some ex-pioneers are pursuing a career!

Now, the JWs have slackened off. Well, what kind of behavior or reaction did the religion expect from people there after they pulled the rug out from under them by changing all these teachings??

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Do you recognize this?

by Gorb in

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thinking sometimes about my youth days and the stories my grandfather told me about our jw congregation.

do you recognize that your congregation was full of somehowe strange folks, very low educated, poor and simple?.

the po was an elder with some distance, with some personality acting intelligent and following the rules strict.. there was always a kind of scandal.

LongHairGal

GORB:

I am a long-time ‘Fader’ and as others have said I haven’t attended in decades so I cannot comment on the quality of the ‘leadership’.

I came in as a young working adult and the people in the congregation were conservative families. I didn’t get the sense they were oddballs except some women seemed like they stepped out of the 1950s. I was the ‘oddball’ as a working woman but I paid this no mind.

When I stopped going (late 2001) they were still using bibles and songbooks. No tablet or videos yet. So, I missed out on that. It was ‘early enough’ in time so that the pioneers (who knocked me for working).. were not yet worried about retirement.. Everybody assumed Armageddon was coming soon and no need to worry about that.

Well, fast forward to now: I am retired and the pioneers there (who thought they’d never become senior citizens in this system) have reached retirement age unprepared.

At least when I last attended I was surrounded by responsible people. There was no desperation in the air yet that I could perceive. No panhandling.. Now, I would never want to be anywhere near these misled Witnesses who didn’t prepare for their future and all the other problems in the congregation - and bethelites who were sent home and so on! 👎

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A Jehovah's Witness family's excellent Letter of Resignation trending on exjw Reddit today

by Balaamsass2 in

i got an email notice today on this excellent letter of resignation from a german family that is trending on reddit.

i thought i would share it here if anyone is so inclined to write one.

for those with pimi jw family and jw business connections, it may not be wise to share such a letter, but i imagine it must be very freeing to send such a letter.

LongHairGal

BALAAMSASS2:

Very well written letter. Everybody leaves for their own reasons and they vary from person to person. They were particularly bothered by the CSA cases and their own treatment in the congregation.. In my case, it was 1995 that finally did it.. My treatment in the congregation was secondary.. I’m also glad they publicized it. That way they’re telling their own story and not leaving it to rumor and conjecture.

DAGNEY:

I agree that people there don’t really care why somebody stops going. I think most are there because of family and friends and don’t really care how inaccurate the teachings are. Witnesses won’t admit this, of course.. When I ‘Faded’ I just wanted out with no drama. Funny thing is nobody ever asked me directly why I left.. It’s as if they didn’t want to really know.