Posts by love11

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microphones were the last straw

by ivy in

jw
friends

it wasn't the big stuff that made me decide i could never go back, it was one little thing.

i have been thinking about my journey out of "the truth", and i think i can pin-point the last straw.. .

i had been out for years, but always thinking that if i got my head together someday i would be good enough to go back.

love11

My final straw was when I went to the reinstate meeting with the elders. They said," We know j..god has forgiven you, but we just need to see your face around some more so that others can get used to you coming back again". That was the last time I was at the kingdom hall. Plus, it was hard for me to sit in those chairs because I was recovering from an auto accident where I had to learn how to walk again, so coming to the meetings were a big ordeal for me. It took hours just to take a bath and get dressed, then have the energy to go to 3 meetings a week! F@#$ that!

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I will not share a meal with you but can you give me some money

by tyler m in

jw
friends

i had to come here and post about this.

my parents who have dutifully shunned me for nearly 9 years had the nerve to ask me for money.

it wasn't for food, a car payment, house payment or anything like that.

love11

That's too bad! I like how it's ok to use you, but not ok to socialize with you. hahahahaha

My sister just sent me a postcard inviting me to a jewlery party at her house. She doesn't talk to me or want me there, but she sure would like a party gift for having more people there. Sometimes I think I should show up just to make her uncomfortable. Oh well, what can you do?! You can't change how people are, just move on with your life and ignore their ignorance.

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Same ol' Topic?

by Jordynne in

i've been reading through a lot of the posts and have to say, things are looking bad for me....i am looking for a bit of support with something that looks like an all too familiar topic:.

non-jw dating a jw.. my currently disfellowshiped jw is a 30 year old divorced father (3 children).

we have been together for 2 years.

love11

I am an ex- jw, but I am not a jw hater. I think that you need to look into this religion more. Go to your local library and look up books on cults, you will find the jw religion in almost everyone of them. The reason this religion is considered a cult is because it controls it's followers like a communist country and more. It takes awhile to realize that because they love bomb you when you first meet them. I can't speak for everyone hear but the jw religion is very abusive. If you do something they don't like, they will take your family and friends away from you. But I think you need to look this up for yourself. Best Wishes!

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Same ol' Topic?

by Jordynne in

i've been reading through a lot of the posts and have to say, things are looking bad for me....i am looking for a bit of support with something that looks like an all too familiar topic:.

non-jw dating a jw.. my currently disfellowshiped jw is a 30 year old divorced father (3 children).

we have been together for 2 years.

love11

You really love this guy, don't you? I don't what to tell you.......

I am an ex-jw, I too once tried to go back to the hall. I was able to give it up when I saw how judgemental and cruel the elders can really be. If he goes back and is shown love- he will probably stay. Plus, there is alot more at stake here than just you and him. It's his children! With most people the bond you have to your child is so strong that you are willing to go to the ends of the earth for them. Just like some people stay married just for the kids excuse. Maybe this is that for him. As if he is willing to sacrifice his love for you, just to have his kids happy again. But rest assured, he will be miserable. I can't say if he will get back with his wife again, but everyone around him will push it. If he's smart he'll go back to you and forget this nonsense about being in a cult and hope that one day, when his children are older, they will understand. But it's very hard to lose everyone on the face of the earth that you ever knew. I'm sure he loves you, but he has lost everyone. Hopefully, this time away from you he learns that sometimes you can't go back. He wants everything to be the way it was, but happy with you and those world's don't mix.

If you really want- you can talk to the elders. But they will only get you out of the picture or try and convert you. If you are not converted, you are not acceptable. If he continues to associate with you after knowing that you don't want to be converted then he won't be looked well upon and it may hinder his getting reinstated. And whatever you do- don't tell them that you are posting on this forum. They will try to convince him that you are Satan's ploy to get him away from god and his family. Boy, I hope that helps in understanding a little bit more of what you are dealing with.

If you are married, then they would really try and convert you! I don't think you want to do that though. Let him come back to you. You know that stupid saying- if you love something let it go and if it comes back to you it's yours. If he comes to visit you just let him talk, see how he's really feeling. But if he really wants you back, he will want to move back in with you for the way that you are and not expect you to change. Like- this would be so perfect if only you were a witness.

Well- good luck with everything. Things usually turn out the way it was supposed to have happen. And just because you are broken up now doesn't mean you always will be, he may have a change of heart. But whatever he does, go on with your life and be happy. Don't let his life decisions affect your life and happiness. Remember this is a fresh cut and tomorrow you will feel a little better. Lots of Love.

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Good thoughts

by talesin in

jw
friends

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15 things you probably never knew or thought about 1. at least 5 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.. 2. at least 15 people in this world love you in some way.. 3. the only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.. 4. a smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.. 5. every night, someone thinks about you before they go to sleep.. 6. you mean the world to someone.. 7. if not for you, someone may not be living.. 8. you are special and unique.. 9. someone that you don't even know exists loves you.. 10. when you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.. 11. when you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.. 12. when you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won't get it, but if you believe in yourself, probably, sooner or later, you will get it.. 13. always remember the compliments you received.

forget about the rude remarks.. 14. always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know.. 15. if you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.

love11

That was beautiful talesin! Thank you for that.

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Same ol' Topic?

by Jordynne in

i've been reading through a lot of the posts and have to say, things are looking bad for me....i am looking for a bit of support with something that looks like an all too familiar topic:.

non-jw dating a jw.. my currently disfellowshiped jw is a 30 year old divorced father (3 children).

we have been together for 2 years.

love11

If he is going back there and you two are broken up.......it sounds like he's going back for good and just trying to spare your feelings by saying that you will get back together. If he wasn't going back, I would say you have a chance. But the elders will "encourage" him to go back to his wife and children. They would frown on your relationship with him and make it near impossible for him to get reinstated if you two were still together. Heal your wounds and move on. If he decides he made the wrong decision about going back to the hall, then you have a chance. But it sounds like he's pretty dead set on it. I wish you luck and love in your life. Love

And Welcome!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Did we become JW because we wanted someone else to do our thinking for us?

by Rod P in

ask yourself the question "do i have the kind of personality that is attracted to a strong person or entity that speaks with authority, and is very assertive?".

most of us just want to follow the leader.

it makes us feel protected and secure.

love11

I think it's just taking the easy road out. I was raised in it and never given the opportunity to decide what I liked or disliked, it was always told to me. When I became 18 I was out. It was because I decided one night that I am not going to the kh anymore if I don't really feel it. I went to the mall that night because that is what I wanted to do. That night I met my husband and we have been together for almost 11 years now. It's amazing how the universe opens up to you when you make a change.

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