Just about every female friend of mine was sexually abused in one way or another. Usually by 40-50 year old men (some elders) that seemed to get away with nothing happening to them and the 14-18 year old girl was reproved or disfellowshipped.
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Do You Personally Know Of Any JW That Was Sexually Abused?
by minimus in,,,,while they were witnesses?
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i have to hate them
by joelbear inhopefully i've given something to someone here over the years.
i know i've taken plenty.. i had to come here, the only place where i can say what i have on my mind and know that people will understand.. i took an overdose of medication on monday.
my long battle with anxiety and depression that is well chronicled on these pages got the best of me once again.
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Joel- I went through 10 years of depression after leaving the jw's. I went through many phases between anger, utter sadness, hurt, guilty, disappointed, ashamed, you name it. But for the past couple of years I have been getting out of my 10 year funk. The only thing that I can tell you is my secret for being happy more days then being sad is- I've found my own version of what happiness is, not someone elses. I found something to live for. I stopped believing everyone elses views about me, and began to create the person I wanted to be and who I really was on the inside that no one else saw, yet. I knew that it would take me years to get to my goal of being exactly the person I've always wanted to be, so I planned accordingly.(still in progress) I've planned for little goals all the way to the big goal. Also, I decided that these people that make me feel bad about myself are not losing sleep over me, so why should I care about what they think. The idea of family to me has changed considerably! I think of myself now and allow for some
"selfishness"pampering. I narrowed down what my responsibilities are- and they are not trying to preserve a relationship with people that shi* on me. I've eliminated toxins of all kinds out of my life- people, drugs, alcohol, coffee,etc. And have gradually over the past few years replaced those things with things that nourish me- exercise, vitamins, herbs, tea, soy milk,etc,. (Find what's right for you) And I have allowed myself to make mistakes and not feel as guilty as I used to when I don't live up to my own expectations. I have stopped having an inner dialog that puts myself down or any negative talk. (If I catch myself saying anything negative to me, I stop and say, "That's their words, not mine." At first, I noticed I put myself down so much in my thoughts that I actually started a thing for when that happens- I would pinch my leg and say, "Stop It! You are not like that! That's who they think you are, but you just be yourself." I know it sounds crazy. But it worked! Also, there's no shame in getting med's when you've been through severe brain washing.Now...........I have a much more positive outlook on life and I have far more good days then bad now. You owe it to yourself to have the best life you can have right now. You have an advantage over all of the JW's in the world. They are still waiting for their life to really begin until after armaggedon. LOL When you can start living all of your dreams right now! It may take awhile to get to that great phase in your life, but you will get there! Don't give up by killing yourself, that's what they want you to do so that they can say, " See, poor Joel left "the truth" and he committed suicide...... it just doesn't pay to leave Jehovah's organization." Well................what's that saying? ......Living a good life is the best revenge.
I remember when my husband and I first got married, his "friend" stole thousands of dollars of music equipment from him. Professional microphones, amps, guitar, bass, some pedal thing, recording devises, etc,. We were so pissed for years about that! But you won't believe what happened to his friend. Years later I saw him, he was in my alley looking through my garbage before he got back on the truck. He looked like a slob and we heard rumors that he sold all of that equipment and everything in his house to get coked up. Right now he is living in filth and scrambling to buy coke. Not that I wish bad on anyone, but he got what he deserved.
Now......I don't even know anyone that is like that. I had to stay away from everyone I knew from infancy. I am now in the process of saving to move far away from here and not telling a soul where I will be going. I'm reinventing myself because I didn't like being the abused child, JW, ex-jw, poor person, depressed person, confused person, low self-esteem person that they have made me. Hope that helps. Love
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Ozzie's Weekend Poll #133
by ozziepost init's great to be able to do this again!
i kinda thought we'd finish at #132 but... well, here we are again!
while i was lying in icu i wasn't wasting time , oh no, i was consulting with the writing department all the way and so, here we go again!
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Because Jehovah God is running the printing company and only he can sign legal documents!
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How Do You React When Someone "Gives You A Shot"?
by minimus inif someone tries to ridicule you or put you down, how do you respond?
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I get ticked and usually keep my distance from those kind of people.
If it's someone I know really well and I know they are just teasing then it's ok because I'll tease right back. But if it crosses the line, I don't like that.
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I'm cleaning out my closet!!!
by purplesofa inlooking in my closet this morning, i saw all these clothes that i bought for the meetings .............. i would not be caught dead in now!!!!!!!.
long frumpy skirts........blouses the my grandma would not wear........i really struggled, and even was more "hip" than most.........ugggggggg.
did you experiance the same thing??.
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Hi tyler newbie, good going!!! Yay!
tj- That suit is so not you! LOL
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EMBARASSING SECRET thoughts you have
by Terry ini think i might (if it is possible) be.......slightly...inclined toward foot fetishism....but only slightly.
but, i find that i look at attractive feet and find them esthetically pleasing.
and......slightly (only slightly) exciting.. i have no idea what this means.
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I didn't know that Marilyn had 6 toes!!! WOW
But there was somebody else more recently, do you know who it is? I forgot her name.
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Do JWs Actually Have Less of a Divorce Rate Than Other Religions???
by minimus ini think so.
very few couples got divorced, even after they were caught with another person.i know that most that got df'd for straying still didn't get divorced----they tried to work it out.
have you seen this too?
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LOL@ minimus!!
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Do JWs Actually Have Less of a Divorce Rate Than Other Religions???
by minimus ini think so.
very few couples got divorced, even after they were caught with another person.i know that most that got df'd for straying still didn't get divorced----they tried to work it out.
have you seen this too?
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I would guess that the amish have the lowest divorce rate. But then again, who wants to have a marriage like the amish?
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What was your most humiliating point of being a jw?
by love11 inmine was when my mom signed me up to sit at a table at our local university.
we had to sit there and talk to students as they passed by our table.
a few people came up to start a conversation and i didn't even know what they were talking about.
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One time my dad called me to come and eat. I was at a neighbor kids house and playing on the porch. I heard my dad and started to run down the porch steps. Her mom peeked out of the screen door and said wait a minute you're not going anywhere until you help pick up this mess. I was frantically trying to pick up the toys as fast as I could to get home before my dad got mad. Next thing you know, I felt someone grab my arm behind me and started hitting me with a belt. It was my dad. He hit me more than 20 times all the way home and across the street. Right out in broad day light. She only lived about 5 doors down on the other side of the street and we lived in the city. I was screaming bloody murder and no one said a word. My friend was not allowed to play with me after that happened because they didn't want "my kind" hanging out with there daughter that they spoiled rotten.
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EMBARASSING SECRET thoughts you have
by Terry ini think i might (if it is possible) be.......slightly...inclined toward foot fetishism....but only slightly.
but, i find that i look at attractive feet and find them esthetically pleasing.
and......slightly (only slightly) exciting.. i have no idea what this means.
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I remember hearing awhile back ago, that some famous model was born with 6 toes. God, what's next, three eyes! LOL
