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  My Dad died this evening

  by Mulan in

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  i thought i would let you know that my dad, passed away a little while ago, tonight, january 23. they called me at 6pm to tell me.

  he had been failing rapidly for the past month, and had completely lost his hearing and was totally blind.

  the dementia was extreme too, and he still knew me on thursday, but didn't wake up to know me in the following days.

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  So sorry to hear of your loss. It is very hard to lose a parent.
  Hugs to you.
  Eva
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  To Athanasius

  by evita in

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  i received both your pm's and also sent 2 your way.

  but i'm not sure mine are getting out.

  i am using a mac w/safari and have heard i cannot pm with this.

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  I received both your PM's and also sent 2 your way. But I'm not sure mine are getting out. I am using a Mac w/Safari and have heard I cannot PM with this.
  Are you getting my PM's? If not, I'll have to figure out another way to contact you.
  Eva
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  california

  by lola28 in

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  i was just wondering how many here are from california, i noticed several and just wanted to see how many of us there are.. .

  lola

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  Athanasius
  Do I know you? I spent teen years in Sebastopol (south) cong.
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  california

  by lola28 in

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  i was just wondering how many here are from california, i noticed several and just wanted to see how many of us there are.. .

  lola

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  I'm from Sonoma County in No. Ca.
  Eva
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  Society's recall of older books

  by rekless in

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  does anybody remember when the wtbts ask all the congregations to bring back all the old outdated books.

  i think it was in the late eighties.

  there was an announcement from the podium, return old books so they could be returned to new york.. i was too lazy to go through my books and take them in.

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  Hi rekless
  Sorry to hijack your thread but I don't think my PM's are going out because I use a mac w/Safari. I think you may have known my mom from the Clearlake cong. Her name was Judith Curtis and she was married to Jim Curtis at the time.
  Eva
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  Is it always ethical to try to help someone get out?

  by wanderlustguy in

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  is it ever better or ethical to let someone go on believing in the truth even though it is a lie?

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  Merry
  Your post moved me to tears. This is how I felt about my relationship with my mom. Sadly, she died last year and I miss her so much. I hate what this religion did to our relationship. Like you, I just wanted my mom! I think it is worth it to try to maintain some semblance of a relationship. I also felt frustrated and sad because it was so limited. But now I would give anything just to see her one more time.
  Back to the topic...My mom would have had a major breakdown if she had to face the truth about the "truth". I think she came close many years ago when she left her abusive JW husband. The elders were harassing her for leaving him and also for professing to be one of the 144,000. I heard many doubts in her voice during this time. She spent some time in a womens shelter and was seeing a therapist. But the whole thing was so frightening to her that she emerged a stronger dub than before. I wish I could have given her more support during that time but I was a mess myself.
  Eva
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  Your childhood meals.

  by greendawn in

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  do you have good memories from your childhood when it comes to the meals your mother served you?

  what did she give you to eat when you were ill?

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  My mom was a very good cook and also very experimental. We had all sorts of yummy "traditional" meals but she also made different ethnic foods. She also was into health food before most others. I really miss her cooking. It was so cozy.
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  House Swapping

  by Purza in

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  since my search function does not work, i cannot determine if this has been discussed here before.

  has anyone swapped houses with another family in order to take a vacation?

  i saw it on the news and it is supposedly the hot thing to do in order to save costs on hotel/car rental, etc.

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  Hi Purza
  My sister did this twice; she lives in Oakland. Once with a family in Denmark and one other time I can't remember where they went. Both were good experiences for her. I'm thinking of doing the same thing as I've been told our area is highly desirable. Let me know if you get any good information. I'll ask my sis more about it when I talk with her tomorrow.
  Eva
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  IDEA regarding my mother.

  by RichieRich in

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  its richie again.. i was thinking last night about my inevitable, fast approaching exit from the wtbts.

  i guess that out of common courtesy, i will provide a copy of my disassociation letter to my mother, however, it is nothing more than a baptism nullification / gag order / i'll sue all of you letter.

  its not one of those lengthy numbers that some have chosen to write.

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  Hi Richie
  I have followed your story with much interest. I am so touched by your love and compassion for your mom. And your acknowledgement of how much you will both lose out if she shuns you. I wish I had as much self-knowledge and insight when I left at age 22. Anything I can do to help let me know.
  Eva
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  I'm going to give you one more chance.

  by LDH in

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  i hope all of you genx-r exjw will get a kick out of this story from my childhood.

  i was just talking to jt and he says i should post it..... my daughter is studying wwi history in school.

  i told her that when i was in 10th grade, i had a social studies teacher named nancy galbraith.

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  Wish I had been as sophisticated as Hillbilly.
  My mom became a JW when I was 14. I resisted for 6 months but was overcome by love-bombing and mind control.
  We had a flood in our garage recently so I had to go through some old papers. Guess what I found? All my old papers from HS, the ones where I tried to "witness" to the teacher.
  Here's a particularly embarassing one. A paper on the Social Security system that ends with an entire chapter on how " the new system is coming soon and we won't need Social Security. Here's what the teacher wrote;
  "You lost me here - and I'm questioning as a Christian, not a non-believer...the system is not working - agreed - perhaps being human we can never solve all human problems, but where is the transition? What if the government one day said, OK, SS is not functioning so we'll drop it. What would the people do? Would a God given system appear to feed them? I guess I subscribe to the philosophy that, on earth, God's work must come through humans trying to do the right thing. Again, I'm not criticizing your beleifs. Just asking a question which I have often considered."
  As I read through these papers I feel so sad for my young self. My future experiences in this religion would cause me much heartache and loss but teenage me was so very naive.
  Eva