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  Do you have a 'canned' presentation for when you run into dubs?

  by willyloman in

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  when you're in the process of fading, especially in the early months, there's this constant fear (or at least uneasiness) that you will run into a jw every time you walk into a supermarket, department store, movie theater, etc.

  i'm thinking the best way to deal with this concern is to prepare a "presentation" in advance -- a sentence or two, or some talking points, so that when it happens i don't have to wonder what i'm going to say.

  the problem is, i keep changing the message in my head.

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  I remember running into an inactive witness about 20 years ago (I was still active then) and saying to him, "I haven't seen you in a while." He looked at me and said, "That's because I haven't been anywhere for you to see me!" I was so taken back because his comment seemed so harsh - i was geniunely surprised by his response.

  Now, I'm the one who hasn't been seen in a while... and when I run into them, I smile - and greet them. No one has put me in the position to have to answer any questions. If it comes up, I plan on politely saying "I'm not attending anymore."
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  Living a Lie.

  by jeeprube in

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  well i've finally done it.

  i've pulled my head out of the sand.

  please permit me to ramble a bit about myself.

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  Welcome Jeep -

  Biting the bullet is just the first step. And like any major life change, you will notice that your emotions can change not only from day to day, but also moment to moment. Congratulations on being brave enough to post. Many here share your anger - personally, I don't. But I've also found that there is a big difference in the org between a man vs. a woman's point of view. My husband is also inactive, and from time to time, his anger gets to him. Mostly, we are just enjoying life and coming to grips with where we're headed now.

  Again, welcome - hope you find comfort and understanding here. You are not alone!
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  Halloween - Are you celebrating?

  by Nellie in

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  of all the holidays that witnesses shun, this was the one i could understand most.

  but after leaving the organization, how do you feel about it now?

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  Wow! I feel like I opened up a can of worms.

  Costumes, candy and friends does sound like fun. But I exit stage left when you add that dash of satanism!

  Obviously, you can dress up in non-satanic costumes and try to make it all cute and cuddly. But I just don't know if I want the association.

  I really enjoyed the comment that asked, "If I were never a JW, would I do it?" That's a great question - I think even if I were never a JW, I'd still be uncomfortable associating with satanic stuff. I guess I find this a little too close for comfort.
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  So how do you explain this....

  by loosie in

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  i didn't want to hi jack this thread.. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/95312/1.ashx.

  but i wanted to open this up for discussion.

  since being raised a jw, everything unexplainable has been attributed to demons.

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  I didn't read the original thread, but the reader's digest version of my story is that I did have an encounter with a demon when I was a little girl around 9. I had been studying for a few months, WAS NOT ASLEEP, and know to this day that it was VERY real. It gave me a healthy fear of them.

  Actually, it was that experience that shaped my belief in God. I knew he must be real, because the demons are real.
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  Another newbie

  by karen96 in

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  i've been reading the forum for a while and think it's great!

  i've been out for almost 9 years, but recently have felt a need to connect with other exjw's and decided to post.

  i think what you all are doing is wonderful, and i hope to be an active participant!.

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  Hi Karen - Welcome -

  What's going on that has moved you to seek out other exJWs after all this time?
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  Halloween - Are you celebrating?

  by Nellie in

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  of all the holidays that witnesses shun, this was the one i could understand most.

  but after leaving the organization, how do you feel about it now?

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  Of all the holidays that witnesses shun, this was the one I could understand most. But after leaving the organization, how do you feel about it now?
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  Inactive ones - new light.

  by unique1 in

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  i didn't go to the district convention this year.

  my mom however did and she sends out a daily text email every day.

  she asked all members of the email group to share their favorite part of the convention.

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  Undercover - We have very similar experiences - right down to the not being invited to the wedding bit.

  Interestingly though, I ran into this former "good" friend two weeks ago, she was just as friendly as always (I mean this seriously), and I told her that I had called her a few months back and she didn't return the calls. (She never did return calls - always her m/o.) Anyway, I told her that I got the message she no longer wanted to talk to me. Imagine my surprise when she said, "Well, you know what's going on in my life, right?" Apparently her 15 year old son did "something" worthy of dfing (but got reproved because he was repentant), her hubby chose to step down as elder (although he didn't have to) and she wasn't returning anyone's calls back then - she was too distraught.

  If it wasn't so sad, i'd have laughed! As a mother I sympathize with the whole disobedient kid thing, but as a an inactive, I wanted to say "na, na, na, na, na, you always thought your kids were better than mine!"
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  What is your quirkiest quirk?

  by damselfly in

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  i, damselfly, can not knowingly eat the little squiggly, umbilical cord things in eggs.

  i have to very carefully separate the whites from the yolk and remove the squiggly bits with a knife.

  i get gaggy just thinking about them.

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  I make my husband kiss me in three's. (Once or twice is not enough!)
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  What is your quirkiest quirk?

  by damselfly in

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  i, damselfly, can not knowingly eat the little squiggly, umbilical cord things in eggs.

  i have to very carefully separate the whites from the yolk and remove the squiggly bits with a knife.

  i get gaggy just thinking about them.

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  Nellie

  Minimus - I bet you "wave" too ....
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  Intellectual starvation among JWs

  by zagor in

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  wanted to write another topic entirely, but after quite some thinking i thought that one particular topic should be addressed.

  especially, for people still feeling confused.

  we often wonder why so many dubs looks like zombies, why it is hard to make them see the real truth about the truth, why cant they discuss any topic in depth without resorting to reasoning book or other wtbs literature, why it is that they are so easily manipulated, why it is that they are filled with apostate state of mind fears (fearing to question anything), why, why, why?

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  Terry - Very well said!