Posts by Nellie

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Emmitt and Cheryl......?

by bikerchic in

http://abc.go.com/primetime/dancing/gallery.html.

dancing with the stars:.

wow they won it!.

It was more fun watching Emmitt and Cheryl. Mario and Karina definitely were more "polished," but that's not all it takes. Although I did feel bad for them - they were genuinely stunned when they didn't win!

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Haven't been here for a while, did ya miss me?

by mrsjones5 in

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i decided to take a break from the board for a little while.

it was nice, can't say i got much done though lol.

last sunday when i got home from church and running around with my family i found a jw tract folded up and stuffed in my front door.

Nellie

Why yes, I have missed you and wondered where you were hiding.

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The Difference between being a Convert and being raised a Witness

by The wanderer in

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the difference between being a convert and being raised a witness having come from a single parent family, i realized the need.

for some sort of structured and organized way of life.

roman.

Nellie

I was raised in the truth - but I raised MYSELF in it. I was introduced to the witnesses by my adult sister (who was later DF'd), but I began studying at 8 - neither my mom or dad (divorced) were witnesses, and my father only offered mild resistance to it. My mother was so distraught over their breakup, that I think she welcomed the idea that I was getting involved in something that occupied so much time. (Plus how much harm is there in studying the bible, right?) Actually, I gloried in the fact that there was an adult paying so much attention to me at the time. Since the sister studying with me wasn't my mother, she couldn't impose things on me, she offered me choices, but of course encouraged me to do things the society's way. I got baptized at 13 - in 1976.

While I feel the fool for being duped, I can't have any anger towards my family, because I self-imposed the restrictions. I never had my parents telling the teacher "she can't participate" - I did it myself. I told them, "no thank you - I don't eat birthday cake." "Thank you for the invitation, but I don't go to birthday parties, celebrate christmas, etc."

The regrets I have are regrets of things that I gave up. But it is what it is. Interestingly though, I feel like this doesn't qualify me for either of the two listed categories. I wasn't really raised in the truth (i.e. there was nobody MAKING me go out in service, study, etc.), although I was there from childhood. And I was also looked at as a second-class witness, because I didn't have any family in the congregation either. When guest lists were being drawn up, not many remembered me. I constantly slipped through the cracks. I remember complaining about this to an elder when I was @ 16. He said he and his wife had always "meant to have me over." My response was, "and in four years you haven't managed to issue an invitation yet." Funny thing, they never did have me over.

Ohh well, that's the past - I'm free now!

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tell me about the forum?

by wvpeach in

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i do not belong to any denomination of men.. i am a true fan of god and his son jesus christ though.. i found this forum looking for some christian freinds to talk with.. so far in looking around the forum , most of what i've seen is bashing of jehovah's wittness's.. i am never one to go for slandering my fellow brothers and sisters in christ.. so if thats what this forum is all about i better just leave now.. responses appreciated so i know..

Nellie

Well, peach - there are all types here . . . like the logo says "everyone welcome" . . . however, the bulk of this site is geared towards sharing experiences and information about the organization of Jehovah's Witnesses. By virtue of it's existence, this site tends to bash JWs, but if you read through the bash you will understand the pain that many have suffered because of the requirements the organization demands of it's followers. There are some here who are still JW's. those who are not, as well as those who never were but are interested in the topic.

Grieving comes in stages, you will find those who are in the angry stage and hopefully those who are not can help them get through it. Some weren't angry before they got here, but after finding out information here have become angry. Not having experienced the organization and how destructive it has been to some, it would be difficult for you to understand.

Welcome and try not to prejudge. If you stay around long enough, you just might learn something.

Peace

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Should I leave the WTS?

by HamiltonPeppers in

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after hearing the coverups and scandals, im thinking about leaving the wts for good.

while reading all of these coverups, i felt like my wife just cheated on me with my brother.

.

Nellie

Hamilton, welcome!

I'm curious. How did you happen upon this site?

Do yourself a favor - buy Ray Franz's book "Crisis of Conscience" - it's a long read, but the information is invaluable - what I most appreciated about it was his tone - it may help you get past the anger.

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Ever met a CO's wife who was healthy and happy?

by Nellie in

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i just read another topic about cos and it got me thinking .

almost every single co's wife was sick and terribly unhappy.

i remember listening to them complain about not having a home, not having children, the accomodations of the friends, etc.

Nellie

JWF - I don't think most of the friends who "helped" the overseers saw it as a bribe either - but I wonder how harsh a CO would be on a brother who just handed him a fat envelope? When I saw CO's they were all driving new society cars, wearing nice suits, shoes, etc. and I never for a minute thought that they were lacking financially. Call that the blindness of youth. As I got older, I learned better. Also, as I got older and tried to be "one of the sisters in the congregation" - no longer in the bloom of youth myself - I was subjected to the miserable woes of the women around me - including the COs wives. Just wondered if you all saw what I saw - I guess you did.

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Tragedy

by Norm in

watching the ted haggard story unfold has been a trip into the bizarre world of conservative christianity.

in a letter read to his congregation mr. haggard let us get a glimpse of a person whose troubles hasnt even begun.

it is a man still in deep denial about who he is.

Nellie

Wow!

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Ever met a CO's wife who was healthy and happy?

by Nellie in

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i just read another topic about cos and it got me thinking .

almost every single co's wife was sick and terribly unhappy.

i remember listening to them complain about not having a home, not having children, the accomodations of the friends, etc.

Nellie

I just read another topic about COs and it got me thinking . . . almost every single CO's wife was sick and terribly unhappy. I remember listening to them complain about not having a home, not having children, the accomodations of the friends, etc. They were miserable! It was right about then that I saw a sister slip her an envelope of money!!! Boy was I shocked! In all my years, I never knew that went on. Boy was I naive!

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What is the real reason behind the WTS' move out of Brooklyn?

by Lady Lee in

there have been several discussions about the wts and their selling off properties in brooklyn and moving headquarters out of nyc.

the best of... wts finances.

why the wts is selling their assets.

Nellie

So are they moving everyone to Wacko?

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just found this site today

by TopDog in

this is a great site, thank you to whoever started it.

i left the "truth" about 6 years ago and like many i still feel guilty about it.

my older brother lives in dominican republic, he moved there about 12 years ago to help where the need is greater.

Nellie

Welcome TopDog

You do realize you swallowed the blue pill don't you? This site is addictive in the beginning - Enjoy the ride!