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  WHAT would YOU do? Teen issues.....

  by onlycurious in

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  my oldest daughter is a handful.

  she has a mouth that just doesn't seem to stop and today we got into it .....again.. well, after a bunch of crap coming out of her mouth, i smacked her on the arm and told her to quit the talking to me that way.. then, it got worse when she kicked me.

  geez, how would you have dealt with this kind of thing.. i told her i'm going to send her to a camp this summer where they put her on a giant kite (parasailing) and make her fly off a cliff.

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  Biscous - Maybe I need to clarify for you my stand. I don't endorse boxing matches with children - but I would not stand there and let anyone hit me - especially my child. The rules are simple:

  1. You cannot disrespect me - EVER. You will be called on this each and every time you do. Eventually, repeated breaking of this rule will affect our relationship - and you want me as a friend.
  2. You cannot hit me - EVER. If you hit me - I will beat you down! Plain and simple. This goes beyond disrepect - will never be tolerated and I will hurt you.

  My 12 year old had developed the habit of saying "Oh my God" whenever he was told no about something. After months of correcting him on this and "reasoning" with him - he did it again - in front of my peers (and the straw broke the camel's back). I was sitting behind the wheel of my car - he got in the front seat and . . . WHACK! I backhanded him right in the kisser! One hit - one time - guess what - problem ended - he got the message - DISRESPECTING ME COMES WITH CONSEQUENCES!!! Now, when his little sister starts whining when I tell her something - he says to her "Don't do that. Go do what Mom said." The shame is he didn't heed his older brother's warnings!

  It's been a month now and he's good. I'm fairly confident that it'll be a while before he'll need another reminder. By the way, I can't remember the last time I hit him (for anything). These lessons tend to last a while!
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  Which WT doctrines or belief is correct???

  by vitty in

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  considering that most if not all of the wt beliefs are bs......................do you think any of them are right?.

  i myself dont believe in hell fire, but foreverything else, the trinity imortality of the soul, the great apostacy or armageddon im still not 100 % sure.

  so which ones do you think the wt are spot on with ?.

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  Nellie

  The root of society is the family. And when cared for properly (that mean's including God), there's no stronger bond.
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  WHAT would YOU do? Teen issues.....

  by onlycurious in

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  my oldest daughter is a handful.

  she has a mouth that just doesn't seem to stop and today we got into it .....again.. well, after a bunch of crap coming out of her mouth, i smacked her on the arm and told her to quit the talking to me that way.. then, it got worse when she kicked me.

  geez, how would you have dealt with this kind of thing.. i told her i'm going to send her to a camp this summer where they put her on a giant kite (parasailing) and make her fly off a cliff.

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  Sorry folks - I would have beat her ass!

  I know it's not the politically correct thing to do. But yes, we really do handle things differently in black households. For all the mouth my children may have (and I suspect it's not as bad as most), my kids have enough respect (read FEAR) of me that they would never hit me - even though being male and weightlifters, they could all hurt me if they did.

  I understand the whole girl-thing isn't quite the same - but if she's old enough to hit, she's old enough to get hit back! She's crossed a line that's not invisible. She's 17 years old and she knew what she was doing the moment she raised her hand. We would have been having the rest of the conversation with her looking up from the floor!
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  It's been a while

  by Nellie in

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  since i visited (or posted) and i thought i'd pop in and see what was going on in the world of jwd.. have i missed any new scandals in my absence?

  any exciting updates?.

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  Hey All - Thanks for the welcome backs!

  Sassy - You're right we did chat a while back

  Delilah - Thanks for remembering me . . . (don't I sound like Eeyore?)

  What's new? Nothing much. Still trying to adjust to LAW (life after Witnesses) . . . lately, I've been thinking about an old friend who has "marked" me I guess and doesn't call/come by. I should be angry (especially since she still talks to her disfellowshipped mother), but there's still a large part of me that wants to hang with her. We became friends at 17 and I guess she's just a hard habit to break. Well, for me I guess - not so hard for her! I do have wonderful woman friends in my life - but I haven't found one to fill her spot. I'm putting this off on hormones - God, I can't wait for this to pass . . .
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  It's been a while

  by Nellie in

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  since i visited (or posted) and i thought i'd pop in and see what was going on in the world of jwd.. have i missed any new scandals in my absence?

  any exciting updates?.

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  Nellie

  since I visited (or posted) and I thought I'd pop in and see what was going on in the world of JWD.

  have I missed any new scandals in my absence? any exciting updates?
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  My Bethel Experience Part 14

  by new boy in

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  my strange bethel courtship started with me trying to meet mike stillman's sister, even though he worked in the ink room next to my elevavator, we were not good friends, he was just a little to "country" for me........and on the righeous side too.

  they say "there is nothing more dangerious in combat then a new guy with a map!

  ".........and there was nothing more dangerious at bethel then a self righteous new boy.. anyway one beautiful saturday morning, in 1972, we were walking to the factory, mike happen to be walking with me, and he happen to say "god........i would give anything to get out of this city on a day like today"..........i said "well....... i have a car and no place to go.........you have a place to go and no car"...he wasn't quite sure of me, but.............next thing i knew, it's him and me and 4 of his nerdy friends driving to rhode island.. needless to say, it was a great weekend and debbie who had just turned 19 was happy that her brother finally brought someone home with him, who wasn't a nerd like his other friends.

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  My Bethel Experience part 13

  by new boy in

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  most of us went back to bethel, thinking we wanted to make it our life long career......what better place to be right before 1975?.............that dream ended for the vast majority after just few months there, when they found out that something was very wrong.

  other wise why would anyone want to leave a spiritual paradice?....

  with only 2-5% staying after there 4 year commitment, and a very big percentage leaving before there time was even up.

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  I hope you and your love are still going strong
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  Whoohoo 2

  by mrsjones5 in

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  after sweating, praying, and driving my husband crazy for the last week, they called today.

  my second interview will be next wednesday sometime around 12 or 1pm, they'll call to finalize the time.

  i gotta make a skirt.. josie.

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  Nellie

  Advance congratulatios! I hope it's all you want.
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  Prince and JW's on MSN headlines 1313 hours

  by jaguarbass in

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  http://entertainment.msn.com/tv/article.aspx?news=250226

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  I remember the excitement that went around the congregation when it was first reported that "Prince" had become a witness. Though there was one elder who scoffed at the idea that "someone like him" could ever accept the truth. Now I sit here and think, what could they have possibly said to have convinced someone like him to accept all their bs?

  At the end of the day - he's still BAD - there's nobody like him - he is a musical genius! Even when he's singing about "sister love" - bet he doesn't sing that song anymore . . . lol
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  Who knew...?

  by exwitless in

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  i was just curious-did any of you on this forum know each other while you were both still active j-dubs?

  i mean as friends or acquaintences that you only knew as jws, not family members.

  were you in the same congregation together?

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  Nellie

  I shared this site with a good friend after I confessed to her that I was no longer going to meetings, etc. She joined, but doesn't come here as frequently as I do.

  She's off chasing the mighty dollar