Posts by Nellie

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what have jws got against beards ?

by looloo in

and it really used to annoy me that jesus and john the baptist both had such neat and well trimmed beards in the watchtower literature , how unlikley would that be in reality ?

also they never wore a suit so why do "true christians "have to wear one , is all about appearences by any chance and giving a false impression ?

How many DF'd and DA'd ex-JWs still believe it's the truth?

by Nellie in

i just got off the phone with my sister-in-law.

we don't talk regularly at all - but today the discussion turned to our beliefs.

she's da'd herself 15 years ago, but she is still filled with guilt over not being able to live up to the standards of the witnesses.

I just got off the phone with my sister-in-law. We don't talk regularly at all - but today the discussion turned to our beliefs. She's DA'd herself 15 years ago, but she is still filled with guilt over not being able to live up to the standards of the witnesses. I left because I no longer believe - I have no guilt. It made me start thinking about this. How many others are like her out there? Do you have guilt? Has this forum helped you deal with it?

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Being known on JWD - unable to discuss VERY personal matters.

by kwintestal in

for some time now, my wife and i have met various people on jwd and we've developped close friendships with many of them over the years.

we have family members who post on here as well.

believe me, i wouldn't lose these relationships for the world.

Nellie

How about just creating an "alter ego"?

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How many of you Ex Jehovah's Witnesses married early and it was a disaster?

by isnrblog in

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what a common tale.

you marry early becasue you can't have sex.. i was married at 19 and divorced at 50. the only thing that held it together was our involvement in the jw's.

otherwise it would have been over in less than 5 years.. my kids are not witnesses and have a terrible relationship with their mother, as she is always trying to shove it down their throats.. this is still happening.

Nellie

Married 2 months shy of my 19th birthday and will celebrate our 26th in a few months!

Through the years I attributed our ability to weather the storm to the fact that we were both faithful witnesses. Now that we've both left the organization, I realize that it is more a testiment to our characters and less due to fear of disfellowshiping.

I'm happy to report that we're happy and OUT.

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It's Been A Minute

by Nellie in

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i don't even remember the last time i posted - it feels like forever!

i started a home business in june and have been busily hustling .

not much time to visit and chat!

Nellie

I don't even remember the last time I posted - it feels like forever! I started a home business in June and have been busily hustling . . . not much time to visit and chat! A witness "friend" stopped over yesterday (see my previous post about this matter) and it made me think of you all.

So - Hey all . . . I'd ask what's new but I was checkin' some stuff out . . . a new "generation" thing again? I can't believe it - that original change was the beginning of the end for me! So glad to have all this behind me . . .

Until I have time on my hands again . . . Love to all

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Will they disfellowship or not - cast your bets here!

by dobbie in

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so someone in my hubbys family who has been shunning me and i have not been able to see her kids etc and said it was my choice to leave so i must accept the consequences etc has been caught out.

she's had three affairs over the last two years, with both sexes plus watching porn sex toys etc .

anyway its her final jc meeting tonight, so do you reckon (and she has told them she can't say it definately won't happen again!

Nellie

Well if she comes here I'm sure everyone will want to know all about it . . .

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FYI on Ray Franz

by changeling in

spoke to cynthia the other day.

ray is with his publisher on a book tour in germany and eastern europe.

if you hail from that neck or the woods maybe you can shake his hand.. changeling.

Nellie

Mouthy - Without getting too personal, can you answer the question posed earlier? How did Cynthia react to the whole situation? Was she discouraged with the organization before they took steps to have Ray removed? I've also wondered about that. - Nellie

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Cried myself to sleep last night

by unique1 in

i was laying in bed and trying to drift off to sleep.

all of a sudden i had a vision of my father building our dining room table.

we moved when i was four and this was at our old house so i must have been pretty young.

Nellie

Where there's life, there's hope. I wish you peace while you wait this out.

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Scream when Raped...

by KW13 in

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thought i'd bring this up again, i found it on the watchtower library and thought it was extremely annoying how they can say rubbish like this.. rape has become increasingly common today.

a major reason seems obvious.

sex and violence explode from tv and movie screens, from radio, newspapers, magazines and billboards.

Nellie

Let's see if I can get this right . . . From what I remember, a girl who "was in the city" was told to scream - because not doing so would mean that she consented since calling out would have gotten her help. But a girl who was attacked in the "country/woods/fields" was not held to this standard because there was no one to help her. That's why she was to call out for Jehovah.

Reasoning on that - it makes me wonder how the girl who was raped in the fields felt when Jehovah didn't strike her attacker down!

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My Story

by LearningToFly in

hello fellow forum members, i am very new here, and feel it is time to share a little about myself.

this site has gotten me quite riled up again, and even after many years my experience is not memorable and still upsets me when i think of it.

my beginning experience of joining the jw organization at age 6 was not unpleasant at all, and was not for many years.

Nellie

I've heard the saying "Success is the greatest revenge" - in many cases I think it's really "Happiness" instead of success. Having survived all that you have, your goal now should be to find happiness. I wish for you the strength to learn from the past, a find a way to move on from it's pain, and happiness.