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  Hello everyone

  by Ben_Waterford in

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  my name's ben and i'm fresh off the boat, if you will.

  are there any real life support groups for people like us, or is this as good as it gets?

  i look forward to meeting you all.

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  sass_my_frass

  Hi Ben, and congratulations. Hope you're ok. It gets much better very quickly.
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  Faders-do you still enjoy old JW friends? Nothing in common?

  by oompa in

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  2. friends

  as a pretty new fader with no friendships other than jw's, i spend virtually all time alone, or with my jw wife.

  i have little in common now with her or old friends.

  at least the old friends and i liked biking (both kinds), golf, hiking, the beach, camping, tennis, boating, fishing, football (tv).

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  sass_my_frass

  I used to be very busy with JW friends, but losing their company took a lot of time. My doubts and depression got in the way of having any real friendships and I found after a while that since I wasn't positive and upbuilding re the organisation I wasn't welcome with many people. I lost interest in them long before the disfellowshipping because of that. I started taking up new interests and got involved with some volunteer agencies and met many people who made me feel good about life. The old JW friends resented that and pulled further away. My JW flatmates barely even acknowledged me.
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  Pics from Meh-hee-ko

  by Jourles in

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  third year in a row(we really need to go somewhere different.

  looking from the reef back towards the resort(dreams tulum).

  this location is about 200 yards from the shore.

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  sass_my_frass

  Great pix Jourles!
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  Suicide

  by Nicolas in

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  i know it's a touchy subject, but anyone here has ever thought of suicide while they were still in the organization?

  it seem to me that jehovah's witnesses have a much higher rate of suicide than the rest of the population.

  i contemplated suicide myself when i was struggling to get piece of my life back together after being raised as a "perfect little jw" when i was young.

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  Yes, I was depressed and suicidal while a JW. Less than a year after being disfellowshipped, I was able to come off anti-depressants. I'm still prone to depression, but the main reason behind my depression is over (I didn't want to be a JW, and hadn't admitted that yet). Now I am coping with the repercussions but it's an infinitely more confident feeling than just doing what makes everybody happy.
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  My Dating horror= You can't have coffee at the mall without a chaperon???

  by Witness 007 in

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  2. experiences

  being a pioneer/servant for years, i thought i was very responsible.

  when dating a sister whom i later married, i read every publication on courtship the society had.

  i then spoke to an elder whom i thought was "resonable" and we agreed as the publications say: "a couple can meet together in a public place, when courting, without a chaperon.

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  sass_my_frass

  My mum was insane about chaperoning. I had to hang out with my sister and her bloke for FOUR YEARS. They didn't have a conversation alone until they got married. It must have been very strict where I was, I remember one couple who had to take a drive down the freeway for some errand for about ten minutes, they arranged for somebody to follow them to the freeway entry and for somebody to tail them from the freeway exit to wherever they were going.
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  MY DAD MIGHT DIE DUE TO THE 'NO BLOOD' DOCTRINE

  by Mary in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i don't have much time to post as i'm headed back to the hospital, but my father collapsed this morning and had to be rushed to the hospital.

  in a nutshell: he needs a blood transfusion as his hemoglobin is dropping (bleeding internally), but thanks to this fucking cult, that's not an option...........he'll accept the fractions but those bastards from the blood liaison committee have already shown up to ensure he doesn't cave............... for those of you who still believe, i'm asking you to say a prayer for my dad........and if anyone from crooklyn is reading this: you better hope my father doesn't die due to your fucked up rules, .

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  sass_my_frass

  Just found this thread. Brilliantly handled Mary, I'm glad it's going well. Hang in there and get yourself some rest finally!

  Thinking about you and your Dad.
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  Secret Santa 2007 (forum gift exchange !!)

  by Angharad in

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  well christimas will soon be here !!.

  for those that are new we have done this for the last few years, what it involves is that those who want to join in will post to this thread and then pm me their name and address.

  i will then collate the names and addresses and assign everyone a person to buy a gift for.

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  sass_my_frass

  I'm in! Thanks Ang!
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  Shunned by my SIL the B........

  by AK - Jeff in

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  2. experiences

  shunning still hurts for me, i admit it.

  though i have no common ground with these people any longer, it is just the idea that i am treated as evil for nothing more than exiting the religion.

  i was in a chinese rest on wednesday.

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  sass_my_frass

  Yep, she doesn't deserve you, no doubt about it.

  I've just noticed a pattern - the shunning eventually only hurts when it comes from somebody like her, or the two-faced elders. I get some really stupid shunning - a gay sister, who has lived with different JW girlfriends for years, and their relationships always break down when her partner wants to come out. She shuns all of her exes too. She shuns everybody who has ever known exactly what's going on and helped her keep it covered up, but then decided they don't want to be witnesses any more.

  Ex-flatmates whose escapades are worthy of a Sex in the City episode, all shun me. My sister who deliberately miscarried her baby shuns me. My brother-in-law who beats up my other sister and their kids shuns me and would give my sister hell if she talked to me. My childhood best friend who at age 19 decided to sexually assault a 16-year-old boy, covered it up for years, has never faced police action, he shuns me.

  Coming from somebody who has actually walked the line, it just hurts to never be forgiven. Coming from these people though, it's baffling and maddening.
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  grateful to my Elders..No talks, no FS time, no privledges....no problem!

  by oompa in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so one year of lots of questions and showing doubts, and missing quite a few meetings but still going out in service, doing mics, reading, hall projects...then i get the new light from society regarding the letter i sent them (wow, stunned me, blew me away) and i let them know how i felt about it and i quit the ministry after 40 active years.

  nobody says anything about this, no counsel, no will you go out with us on saturday.

  not a single "were is your time for the month" phone call.

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  sass_my_frass

  That's great news, and it's also great (and realistic) that you're grateful for the way they've handled it and that you're not angry.

  Focus on yourself, your wife and your marriage. What else really matters? Tell your wife how fabulous she is every day. Go and get her some flowers right now.
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  Thankfully Disfellowshiped Today

  by Lloyd Braun in

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  2. friends

  good morning!.

  last night i got disfellowshiped.

  isn't that wonderful?

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  sass_my_frass

  Congratulations, and commisserations Lloyd! It's going to be a rollercoaster for a while, be kind on yourself and pack yourself up safely for travelling. It's fantastic and it's terrible. It's a great big deal and then it's entirely insiginficant. Ravage every day like a new man.