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  "I prayed for you"

  by Scully in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  if you aren't a "believer", does it bother you when someone says "i'll pray for you" or "i prayed for you"?.

  one of my colleagues is an incredibly kind and sweet person, and i know she says it because she believes she's doing something good on my behalf.

  i always say "thank you for thinking of me", because i know that's the spirit she's intending to convey and that she cares about the situation i'm in vis-a-vis my jw relatives, but she knows i no longer believe in god (at least not in the sense that she does) - i wonder does she think that a few prayers are going to change my mind?

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  Sometimes all it means is that someone is keeping you in their thoughts and goodwill.
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  Car Wash Guilt Complex!!!

  by prophecor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  don't you feel terrible when you take your car to the car wash?

  the folks who wash your car, immigrants, illegal aliens, and they work so hard and are always there, the same people dilligently washing your filthy car.

  are they not some of hardest working people in america?

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  I don't feel guilty, but I do feel like it's a luxury. Whenever I can afford it, I have my car washed and vaccuumed by other people. My life is very busy with a full time job and 4 kids so time is precious to me. Also I am already worn out by trying to keep the house clean at home.

  I respect anyone who works hard, and tip when I can if they deserve it.
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  What Was Your Behavior Like Just Before You Left "The Truth"?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

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  were people shocked by your departure or was it pretty obvious you were on your way out?

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  I think people were very shocked when I was disfellowshipped. I attending every meeting faithfully for years, don't recall any months when I was an 'irregular' publisher, and basically was a 'goody 2 shoes' all my life. I was becoming very unhappy and none of my romantic interests in the JW's worked out, I was lonely, so when I caught a bad case of bronchitis I missed meetings for about a month. Then it was beginning of December (I was 21 years old) when my office was having a Christmas party and the girls in the office talked me into attending. So I went to a Christmas party, danced for the first time ever, got drunk for the first time ever, kissed a co-worker, barfed in the bathroom, and was carried up the stairs to my apartment by a co-worker's boyfriend.

  IT WAS THE BEST TIME EVER IN MY LIFE!!!!

  Then because I worked with a JW co-worker who threatened to turn me in, I snuck in the back door of the Kingdom Hall to meet with the elders and they disfellowshipped me. Basically I said I'm not sorry because I don't want to be a Witness anymore. Then I started dating the guy I kissed at the party and lost my virginity a couple months later. BEST YEAR OF MY LIFE! GREAT MEMORIES!!!
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  A Paradise exists on earth today.

  by Blueblades in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  a paradise exists on earth today.

  it is extending farther and farther and is being enjoyed by millions of people.

  you, too, can be part of it.

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  I decided my new goal is to make my own paradise since the JW's are so misled. I am working on my backyard--planting more flowers, bird bath, fountain, bird feeder, I'm going to buy butterflies on the internet, and set up a turtle yard on the side of the house.

  How's that for paradise? I feel like the JW's robbed me of the promised paradise.
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  Don't feel like hanging out with dub friends or worldly friends

  by boy@crossroads in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last friday night sucked big time.

  i just don't know whats wrong with me.

  i have many worldly friends that would like to hang out with me but i just didn't feel like calling anybody up.

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  love2Bworldly

  I just had a flashback to my fader days. I do remember feeling kind of lost, like being stuck between 2 worlds. What made it really hard was my undiagnosed depression issues and my dysfunctional family (who were not JW's).

  I enjoy being 40ish, I would not go back to my younger days for anything.
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  The most condescending thing said to you by the (sm)elders.

  by diamondblue1974 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i wasnt the most academic of children although i had some capability but i could read quite well by the time i was 4 years old at least for my age; i have always read as a child and still read now as an adult both professionally (research) and for pleasure.

  i have always been able to write too...and pretty much advanced as well as my peers did in school...perhaps i am lucky, i certainly feel like i am when illiteracy amongst adults and children is rife at present...however.. i remember when i was 16 the wts in the uk were pushing through a scheme teaching those who were not as able to read and write...and an elder in the hall made a point of coming to me and suggesting that i should actually attend the training!!

  !....i explained that i could read and write well enough and didnt need to be taught basic literacy... he said that i might learn something new and should respect jehovahs order of things and show appreciation...i did decline his kind offer rather abruptly....but wtf??

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  Attendant ever treat you like a child at convention?

  by avishai in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the last straw for me was when an attendant grabbed 22 yr. old me at a cnvention and told me to come inside it was time for it to start.

  i said no, and he got in my face.

  anyone else get told what to do as an adult?

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  Do any of the ladies remember sometimes they would tape over the mirrors in the women's restrooms? To prevent spending too much time idolizing oneself and not listening to the crappy program.
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  Is yours a PURPOSE DRIVEN life?

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  are you coasting along day by day taking it as it comes?.

  are you planning for emergencies and setting aside for the unexpected?

  sacrificing here and there to have something later?.

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  I feel like my purpose is to give my kids more love, affection, self-esteem and just more of a normal childhood than I had. And to do everything I can to discourage them from being interested in the WTS, actually to discourage everyone I meet from becoming interested in WTS.
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  Damage To The Human Spirit

  by paws in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hia everyone...i have only posted in response to other topics so far and thought i'd take the plunge and start my own.. over the weeks i've read so many of your heart wrenching experiences within the org which spans almost every variation of initial contact with the jw's possible imaginable and often times i have read with tears in my eyes.

  i am always sending my love and respect to everyone:.

  .... to those having successfully freed themselves....your example is a beacon of hope.

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  love2Bworldly

  Thanks PAWS, I guess we are just all trying to heal and be happy since our experiences.
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  if you went back...

  by zaphod in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what would be the thing that you had most trouble giving up.. for me, apart from thinking, it would be swearing (that's cussin' for our american friends).

  i absof*ck*nglutely love effing and blinding and i'm sure that i could not stop.

  not even if my life depended on it.

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  love2Bworldly

  I would miss knowing that God loves me and my family/friends love me no matter what 'religion' I am.

  Plus Christmas, New Year's, Valentines, Easter, Birthdays, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, and just plain having fun and feeling like a normal person.