I can certainly empathize with you. I was disfellowshipped, reinstated, and then faded. My JW sister at first wouldn't talk to me after I faded but after our mom died a couple years later, she started just treating me like a normal relationship. However, the few times I have run into JW's that know me treat me like I'm disfellowshipped--pretend like they don't see me, or purposefully don't acknowledge my existence.
About 6 years ago, my best friend (JW) from my teenage years called me up and asked me out to lunch. Basically it was one of those "come back before Jehovah destroys you at Armageddon" talks. I do remember her saying that other people tried to dissuade her from seeing me. I have not heard from her since, and no one from the Hall has ever tried to contact me after I faded--not even the elders.