Yes. I confided in a friend about my feelings about the elders and being lied to and betrayed, and they went to those very elders and ratted me out. The elders hauled me back and had a discussion with me. I've barely been back since, and I chewed my "friend" a new one.
Posts by Chia
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32JWs betraying you to the elders.
by greendawn ini was once betrayed by an unknown person to the elders for buying soft porn magazines in a shop.
i never managed to figure out who it was since there were many people in the shop (news agency) at the time and i never noticed a jw from the local congo or one from other congos in the area that i knew.
to this day it's a mystery to me who saw me there and went to tell the elders.
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Jehovah's Witnesses code of dress.
by onlyme in.
could anyone confirm or deny if the sisters code of dress still prohibits the wearing of trousers?.
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Chia
Thankfully no one asked me what kind of underwear I was wearing. It was already bad enough!
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relationship with jw's
by clay ini stumbled upon this site while looking for help.
my prob is there's this girl i really really like alot.
she's beautiful,smart, has a great personality and i love being around her.
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Chia
Perhaps people will gang up on me for this one: but don't you think the girl will resent you just trying to barge in and change her faith? Like, "You're perfect for me except your religion is kooky"? I'm not saying that's what you're trying to do. I'm not saying that you don't respect her or care about her. But that's what it may seem like, and it'll probably turn her off even more if that's what you do. How would you feel if she told you that your religion was a crock and you should join hers? (Which she very well might do by the way?) If she wants to change her religion, it has to be her decision. She has to get there on her own. I don't necessarily think you should run, but just be a friend to her and be there for her when she needs you. Someday, she may really need your support, and then maybe it can go somewhere. But for now, I think you'll only alienate her by trying to nudge her out of her religion if she isn't ready to leave already.
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What is the big deal about prom? - Virgin Post
by bricklayer inhi everyone, another lurker comes out.
my question is, what is the big deal about going to high school prom?
other than the usual bad associations spoil useful habits, can anybody thing of other specific reasons why jdubs are so anti-prom.
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Chia
I'm not sure about this, but the reasons I was given was mostly "bad association". Same went for pretty much any afterschool activity. Especially at prom were you more susceptible to underage drinking, pressure to have sex and do drugs, yada yada yada and BS.
So will your daughter definitely not be allowed to go? I would think if you have her that weekend, she can go if you let her go. Of course, who would want to be put in that position and deal with that friction? I didn't go to my junior prom, I feel bad that I missed out on it, but I got over it eventually. Your daughter probably will too. But I don't see the harm in her going. Just my humble opinion.
Edited to say: Welcome!
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2005 District convention???
by keeshah in.
anyone know the dates yet?
especially interested in kansas city or st. louis area.
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Chia
I went to St. Charles once. It was the convention from you know where. Awful. Hot, miserable...just unhappy all the way around.
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Jehovah's Witnesses code of dress.
by onlyme in.
could anyone confirm or deny if the sisters code of dress still prohibits the wearing of trousers?.
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Chia
You mean at the meetings? I don't think women can wear pants at the meetings unless it's the custom. For instance, I've seen Indian sisters wear pants under saris. But other than that, no.
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Songs you like that were composed before you were in grade school.
by ColdRedRain ini was looking at my winamp playlist and i noticed that most of my songs were made before i was in grade school, or much more, before i was born.
moody blues - nights in white satin .
gene loves jezebel - desire .
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"Beyond the Sea"--Bobby Darin
"Hey You, Get Off My Mountain"--The Dramatics
"Everything"--Andy Gibb(I think that came out shortly before I was born)
Lots of other stuff I can't think of just now.
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idiots who scream you're wrong when you're not--road rage
by rebel8 inbesides my desire to hit 700 posts before noon (est) and a general base appeal for validation and attention (heee, hee), i would like to vent about something that just happened.. i was at an intersection with another vehicle.
he was in the left turn only lane (conveniently located on the left); i was in the lane very clearly marked as left or right turn only (conveniently located to the right of the other driver)...meaning i have the option of turning right or left, right?
so the light turns green and we both turn left.
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Chia
I have road rage. I know it's terrible but people drive so crazy nowadays. Especially since I live fairly close to the big city, and people really drive crazy there. My word of choice is...well, obviously it can't be repeated. Let's just say it starts with "f" and ends with "er".
People who don't signal are my pet peeve.
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How Much Time Did You Spend as a JW?
by eljefe in25 years total .
15 years baptized .
also, does the resentment for jw's grow in a linear or a exponential manner with time spent as a jw?.
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Chia
Born and raised, baptized 10 years.
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just got df'd
by susu812 ini am very nervous about being in here.
i just got df'd last week and am unsure of how i feel about it.
i feel guilty but at the same time not.
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Chia
I was going to ask if you were df'd for "immorality" because most women would probably feel embarassed when questioned by three men in a private setting about the most detailed and intimate moments that you spent in the bedroom. Let me guess, did they ask specific questions about orgasms, how many, how long, etc? I wouldn't be surprised if at least one of them had their hand deep down in their pocket playing pool...
Been there, done that, brought back the T-shirt. That can make you feel so violated. Susu, welcome. I am not DF'd, but privately reproved. My mom kicked me out of the house about a month ago and I haven't looked back. You must feel so crushed right now, so low. But you picked the right place to come to for REAL encouragement. If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to PM me. I'd be more than happy to exchange e-mail addresses.