I had no idea where to put this. Well, today is my first day in a very new town. I just moved from Poughkeepsie, NY to Hatfield, PA. I only know a few people here in town and I don't have a job yet. It was exciting at first. It still is, in a way. But my boyfriend's gone to work, I don't have a car, and the panic is completely setting in. Does anyone have any advice for me? The good news is, my father is extremely supportive, my brother isn't happy about the move but loves me with all his heart, and my boyfriend is absolutely amazing. I couldn't have asked for better. But I'm so scared. I do have an interview tomorrow, which is exciting, I just feel so overwhelmed. Has anybody been where I am?
Posts by Chia
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11Living in a new area...again
by Chia ini had no idea where to put this.
well, today is my first day in a very new town.
i just moved from poughkeepsie, ny to hatfield, pa. i only know a few people here in town and i don't have a job yet.
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Pictures of My Family at The "Holy JW" Wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by whyamihere inwell here they are...i had a horrible time.
seirously, i did.
i was so stressed before the reception i collapsed.
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Chia
You looked so beautiful Brooke! Red is definitely your color.
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What year did you graduate from high school?
by Dimples ini graduated from high school in 1984!
class of 84 rocked!
1984 graduate.
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Chia
Class of 2000.
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An Invitation to a Wedding
by lisavegas420 inyesterday, i received in the mail a wedding invitation...well not actually a wedding invitation, it was more of a re-newal of vows invitation.
with me so far...ok, i'm fine with that.
i even visited her church a few years ago, it was nice, but i don't want to join a church.
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Chia
That's definitely tacky, to outright ask for money. Miss Manners would be incensed!
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Lifestyle critics
by Chia ini'm unable to get online as much as i used to, but i try and get on sometimes during the day.. last week i posted regarding a situation with my mom.
this time i'm having issues with my brother.
i've posted about him before.
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Chia
Haha, Carla, I have CoC at my house. It's laying out there nice and neat for him if he ever chooses to read it.
Some other family stuff has gone down too, and the conclusion I've made is that it's best for me just not to deal with them at all. They were the only reasons I was even remaining a Witness in name only, so this may be the "sign" that it's time to DA myself. I'm not going to leap into anything, it's going to take some thought and patience, that's for sure.
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Lifestyle critics
by Chia ini'm unable to get online as much as i used to, but i try and get on sometimes during the day.. last week i posted regarding a situation with my mom.
this time i'm having issues with my brother.
i've posted about him before.
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Chia
It's HIS life. Let HIM take responsibility for it.
Today I bought food for myself and didn't ask him if he wanted any. I've never done that before. I felt guilty, and at the same time it felt good. It isn't my problem that he took a lower paying job for no good reason. They loved him at his job, and he could've availed himself of the treatment programs they have for alcoholism. But he chose to run away. Maybe he has to hit rock bottom.
I'm sorry things are tough. ; Family situations really are the worst aren't they?
You've got that right. Thanks, Andi.
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Lifestyle critics
by Chia ini'm unable to get online as much as i used to, but i try and get on sometimes during the day.. last week i posted regarding a situation with my mom.
this time i'm having issues with my brother.
i've posted about him before.
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Chia
He digs because you don't defend yourself. LAY INTO HIM. You are not his doormat. You are not subservient to him. You are an adult...an equal...a sibling.
Once again, EF, thank you...
I never respond to him when he says stuff like that. He has to know that those things bother me. It would be as if I said something to him like, "The worst thing in the world is a sloppy drunk who quits his well-paying job and borrows money from his sister and doesn't return it. Obviously a person like that is a loser that no one at all has any need for." I want to say something to him, but we're in my dad's house and I don't want to make trouble for my father. I'm not about to pick fights at his place. Since I'm moving in a week, I think I should just go and cut him off. But part of me does want to let him know that I don't appreciate his disrespect. And also that I want my f'n money back!
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Lifestyle critics
by Chia ini'm unable to get online as much as i used to, but i try and get on sometimes during the day.. last week i posted regarding a situation with my mom.
this time i'm having issues with my brother.
i've posted about him before.
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Chia
I'm unable to get online as much as I used to, but I try and get on sometimes during the day.
Last week I posted regarding a situation with my mom. This time I'm having issues with my brother.
I've posted about him before. He's the one going through a difficult situation, my mom kicked him out of the house, and for unknown reasons he quit his job, spiraled into a deep depression, and has borrowed money and my car from me(haven't and probably won't see the money).
We both live with my dad for now, but I'm moving next weekend. My problem is that he keeps saying derogatory things to me. He knows how I feel about the Witnesses and he's fine with my choice, even though he doesn't agree. He feels they have the truth, but he can't live up to their standards (he has an alcohol problem, among other things). I've never disrespected him for feeling like he has to go back to the meetings, I've never said, "That's stupid, why would you want to go back to a cult?" Even though I could and probably should. But even though I've gone out of my way to be respectful and helpful, he says rude things such as, "You can't fault a man for wanting to marry a virgin, there's nothing wrong with wanting to marry someone clean and not someone who's been around the block." And, "I saw (someone we know) today, and he's trying to get back to the meetings. His mom is crying about it and everything. I can't blame her, she doesn't want her son to die at Armageddon."
It just infuriates me that he can make these "digs" at me. I've done so much for him lately, and this is how he treats me. When no one else in the family helped him or talked to him, I gave him money, and this is how I get treated in return? How would you handle someone like that?
Incidentally, I'm leaning toward deciding to cut him off completely once I move. I don't want anyone like that in my life. I can tell, even though he doesn't go to meetings, he's still in the narrow minded JW mold, and those are the worst kinds of Witnesses. The ones who have their own personal demons to battle, but they are suddenly the expert on how you should be living your life. Still, I'm interested in everyone's viewpoint on this.
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Catholicism
by Chia ini went to a catholic church this weekend with my boyfriend.
he was raised catholic and was thinking about going back to church, but after the service decided that his belief system was now too different for him to attend services anymore.
as for myself, it stirred an unexpected reaction in me.
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Why won't you go back? was there anything about the church you didn't like?
Yes, Evanescence, I felt the whole thing was pretty insincere. It just felt weird to me, like there was this huge conspiracy that I wasn't part of. Those aren't the right words I'm looking for but I didn't feel like I belonged. If I enjoy any religion, it's going to be somewhere where I feel welcomed. I didn't feel welcomed there, and I don't think it'll get any better (at least not according to what my boyfriend told me).
I'd rather spend time in serious research and study to see where the truth can be found
I think I am engaged in serious research and study--of myself. Right now, I'm all about finding who I am as a person and where I'm headed. Perhaps I'll go to a church and belong to another religion, perhaps I'll consider myself "spiritual" but against all organized religion, perhaps I'll just decide to figure everything out on my own. But I'm not rushing any decisions. I'll visit some churches, I'll check things out, I'll take my time, I'll expand my horizons. But I'm definitely about being selfish right now. It's all about me, and for once in my life there is nothing wrong with that!
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Anyone have a MySpace.com account?
by drwtsn32 ini recently joined at the request of a friend, but i want to have more than just one person listed as a friend of mine.
lol if you have a profile on there let me know!
(via pm or just reply here.
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