I've become somewhat closer to my parents, but still, my mom believes I'm going to the meetings down here. And even though I haven't attended a meeting for what seems like years, I get by on telling her when the circuit overseer is here. She even sends me extra literature for me to place, that I have stored in my closet. For some reason, I can't throw it away. My dad and I have grown closer.
Work, I've followed some advice and decided to work and go to school at the same time, and I'm getting by, but I'm not rich. My apartment is empty except for a bedroom set and dining set. I'm going to become an archaeologist, so I don't think I'll ever become rich, but I'm okay with it because I don't need stuff. Archaeology, that's why I'm going to Italy, for a dig.
And nope I haven't partied really hard in weeks because I've mainly just been focusing on dating, working, and school.
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I'm amazed by how long its been that I've been on this forum
by tsunami_rid3r init's hard to believe that i've been on this forum since 2 years ago.
its like one giant time capsule.
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Confused about the JW dating system
by Wendy_Warden inokay, so a girl friend of mine whos a jw was trying to explain their dating thing.
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How does the Jehovah's Witness courtship system benefit it's members? Obviously there are many that are in this organization that are dating and getting married. Something must be working in order for it to still be how it is now as it was in the early 1900's, and I would like to know how this old tradition has survived with this organization. Are they just that isolated?
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Why were my parents against dating and having anything to do with girls?
by tsunami_rid3r ini'm dating 2 girls right now and i'm trying to build a relationship with either, just seeing where i land, but i don't know if i can be romantic.
asking a girl out is no problem, thats become easy, but actually getting intimate with them is hard for me because i don't want to be accussed of harrassment or something silly.
i want to blame it on the fact that i don't have experience and that i'm just doing this late.
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How does the Witness dating system benefit their system? How does it work for them? What makes it work? Obviously thousands are still in the organization dating and getting married.
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I'm amazed by how long its been that I've been on this forum
by tsunami_rid3r init's hard to believe that i've been on this forum since 2 years ago.
its like one giant time capsule.
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I'm working hard, dating, doing decent in school, not much partying lately, and going to Italy this summer.
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Why were my parents against dating and having anything to do with girls?
by tsunami_rid3r ini'm dating 2 girls right now and i'm trying to build a relationship with either, just seeing where i land, but i don't know if i can be romantic.
asking a girl out is no problem, thats become easy, but actually getting intimate with them is hard for me because i don't want to be accussed of harrassment or something silly.
i want to blame it on the fact that i don't have experience and that i'm just doing this late.
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I think I get the gist of it. I haven't been to a meeting in years, which has caused me to block a lot of the dogma out of my memory. My mom did want me to attend Bethel, but as I got older and wanted to go to college instead, she slowly changed her mind towards college. I remember she viewed worldly girls as disgusting, as if they have STDs. I knew a few other teenagers from other congregations dated within the congregation, and I think they eventually got married... I still don't understand why I couldn't date any of the girls that went to my meeting? I remember I did have a few crushes in the congregation. PS: How do I keep my posts spaced like this on the first posting?
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I'm amazed by how long its been that I've been on this forum
by tsunami_rid3r init's hard to believe that i've been on this forum since 2 years ago.
its like one giant time capsule.
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It's hard to believe that I've been on this forum since 2 years ago. Its like one giant time capsule.
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Why were my parents against dating and having anything to do with girls?
by tsunami_rid3r ini'm dating 2 girls right now and i'm trying to build a relationship with either, just seeing where i land, but i don't know if i can be romantic.
asking a girl out is no problem, thats become easy, but actually getting intimate with them is hard for me because i don't want to be accussed of harrassment or something silly.
i want to blame it on the fact that i don't have experience and that i'm just doing this late.
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I'm dating 2 girls right now and I'm trying to build a relationship with either, just seeing where I land, but I don't know if I can be romantic. Asking a girl out is no problem, thats become easy, but actually getting intimate with them is hard for me because I don't want to be accussed of harrassment or something silly.
I want to blame it on the fact that I don't have experience and that I'm just doing this late. Both girls have dated before, I'm not sure about past relationships. They haven't mentioned that, but I feel like I haven't done much compared to them.
My parents didn't let me date even until I was 17, 18 was kind of iffy. Is it because of a parent's care and safety thing? I'm the only child. Cultural thing? My mom is Korean. Religious thing? I don't remember the exact rules of those people, but from what I remember in that blue book, dates must have a chaperogne. I couldn't even see girls that went to the meetings. My mom was heavily against it, and I don't know about my dad. He wasn't that bad, but I think he was cheating at that time when I was 18.
I'm just wondering whats the parental reason behind that?
Thinking of it from a parent's perception, it would be different if I had a girl instead of a boy. I would be more protective of my daughter, and I wouldn't let her date depending on circumstances such as her maturity(does it seem like shes going to goggle over every boy?), the setting of the school(rich or poor school?), and who the boy is(I think I would communicate with my children a lot). Communication was missing from my family, partly because of my shyness and it was hard for me to say anything without my mom getting on my case. It got worse when I finally said I don't want to be a part of this organization anymore.
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The spiritual realm mystifies and sometimes creeps me out!
by tsunami_rid3r ini believe and i am very spiritual.
tonight, my study group was talking about all this stuff about demons and angels and spirits.
especially about one of the girl's experience in fiji, with a tribe that literally saw demons and spirits.
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WHy? She mentioned that these days, people in nation-states don't believe in a spiritual realm really much anymore, and most all believe spirits cant be seen. On the other, there are these other countries with people that can see them. She thinks this will be the ruin of us all, makes us an easy target. Reminds me of Jehovah's Witness teachings, and it makes sense. It just scares me.
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The spiritual realm mystifies and sometimes creeps me out!
by tsunami_rid3r ini believe and i am very spiritual.
tonight, my study group was talking about all this stuff about demons and angels and spirits.
especially about one of the girl's experience in fiji, with a tribe that literally saw demons and spirits.
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I have a yin yang tattooed on me. I'm trying to learn more about what I fear. Tonight made me second thought leaving the Witnesses.
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The spiritual realm mystifies and sometimes creeps me out!
by tsunami_rid3r ini believe and i am very spiritual.
tonight, my study group was talking about all this stuff about demons and angels and spirits.
especially about one of the girl's experience in fiji, with a tribe that literally saw demons and spirits.
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I believe and I am very spiritual. Tonight, my study group was talking about all this stuff about demons and angels and spirits. Especially about one of the girl's experience in Fiji, with a tribe that literally saw demons and spirits. When the girl came to missionary grounds, the missionary could feel that shes been around these demons.
I'm just so interested in this spiritual realm. Sometimes I feel like its guiding my life and plays a big part on who I meet and don't meet. Sometimes it even gives me this tingling feeling.
I was so creeped out, I had to have the girl talk to me on the phone on my way back, while following the other girl.