Hi freedomlover,
What a loving, tender-hearted Christian you are. Your attitude is admirable.
Our Lord Jesus instructs us even to love our enemies. I like Blondie’s point: “Christ still loved the people who knew would soon as a group have him killed”. Feeling and expressing love will never hurt. Love and affection attracts, hate repels.
My dear wife and I can empathize with you. We understand that you “feel immense loss, immense sadness.” We too, after many decades in the organization had to detach ourselves from the system. We also made many wonderful, genuine friends, who even though we have faded are nonetheless affable to us. Some of our relatives are still deeply involved in the organization. Our gradual egress made it possible for us to tenderly plant seeds, with excellent results in some instances and may yet completely free some from the bondage of the WBTS. Confrontation rarely produces productive results. Though, each person must decide what is best for them.
Please do not feel like a hypocrite; you are not. By not being excessively confrontational you will be able to assist your friends more affectively and help them see what you are seeing. Our Lord Jesus was patient with his followers, so we too should understand that their mind has been blinded by the propaganda, consequently they are unable to absorb the enormity of the change required to come to the realization that they have been misled by the false shepherds.
By presenting to them the facts in small increments, as the occasion arises, you will be showing them love and kindness. We know, it is a terrible blow to discover that the individuals at the top whom we trusted implicitly have mislead us; the shock is too great for some to absorb, then they burrow in deeper into denial. Consequently the steady approach may bring better results. Patience is required.
I really love the way you are able to distinguish between the R & F and the perpetrators; the deceived and the deceivers, in the Watchtower system. Jesus had no respect for the Pharisees, pronouncing heavy judgements on them, but loved the deceived, the spiritually blinded.
May our God and our Lord Jesus give you, your husband and your family peace and wisdom as you embark on your new journey.
Warm Christian love.
David