Abaddon
I am so sorry your ex is making it difficult for you to see your children. Even though you may see them as much as you can to have YOUR plans always quashed must be hard. My ex-husbands ex used to do the same with him. No matter what he wanted to do she always found a reason why it was not convenient at the time.
I found at the time it was another way to control that which she did not have control over and never rightfully did. For whatever reason she feels the need to control your relationship with your children. This may stem from feelings of i
nadequacy on her part or that of her believing that they may
only see you as the 'fun guy' who comes once every so often and is not there to server as a disciplinarian. This was the case with Diane.
Until she saw that unfortunately this is a product of divorce especially one where a partner is so far away she felt the need to assure her role was not established at the bad guy?yet she constantly made it worse for herself by not allowing the kids to have fun with the ?fun guy? making her job even harder and gaining title of ?bad guy? from the kids because Daddy was not allowed to have fun with them?by her own decision.
Diane finally grew up, but a little too late and the children do not forgive her to this day for interfering with their father?s relationship and not allowing them to learn and grow with a father who wanted such.
Hugs
Cassi