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  diss-ass myself 2 years ago... new to this site

  by PaulJ in

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  i disassociated myself just over 2 years ago.

  i grew up in the truth so now i feel a bit lonely and out on a limb with no friends.... feels so strange cos i had so many mates in the truth.

  i still believe what jws believe and im not seeking an alternative religion or anything like that.

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  Thanks for all your replies. Maybe I will read up on things, but Ive read so much and studied so much in my life Im not as keen to start looking for the 'truth' again just yet. But I am curious.

  You must remember tho, that, since i was little even, the idea of looking at religious literature other than that from the WBTS has been drilled into me as wrong, so at the moment it still FEELS wrong to pursue it. But Im sure I will in the future.

  Its so good to feel such a familiarity with ppl on here. IN the 'truth' you get the impression that all DFd ones have major issues, likely to launch into an 'apostate tirade' at any given moment. Im pleased this isnt true.

  One question I have tho, if what I am doing is right, by having left the witnesses, is there anything I do need to do to please Jehovah? Since leaving I really havent changed much at all. I have no desire to smoke, take drugs or get tattoo's, neither do i want to kill, steal or envy my neighbours car!!!

  I guess I have always tried to hold the belief that the important relationship is between me and Jehovah, not me and the elders!

  Advice would be appreciated, and thanks for being patient with me!!!
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  diss-ass myself 2 years ago... new to this site

  by PaulJ in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i disassociated myself just over 2 years ago.

  i grew up in the truth so now i feel a bit lonely and out on a limb with no friends.... feels so strange cos i had so many mates in the truth.

  i still believe what jws believe and im not seeking an alternative religion or anything like that.

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  good question. i was married for 6 years to a witness girl and the marriage was crumbling. She was cheating on me, smoking, getting drunk etc... all while i stayed at home and looked after the kids. we were having problems and we were both aware of it. we seemed to have different wavelengths, she left me to work, cook, clean, look after the children etc all the time... a lot of this time i also worked 12 hours a day. between us we begged and pleaded with the PO for a shepherding visit and for help, we werent getting to any meeting or on the ministry. in the end i couldnt take anymore of her crap and left. we were never given any help from the elders.

  a few months later a work colleague (non-witness) and i 'fell' for one another. in my mind my options were simple. i diss-assd myself, divorced my wife (who soon after left the 'truth' as well) ending up with a drug dealer boyfriend. soon after this i married the girl i fell for and we are happy as can be. i beleive the 'truth' but i dont want the lifestyle. i feel let down by the elders but wanted to make changes in my life they would not like... divorce and re-marriage. i feel ive let jehovah down, but have never ruled out going back...
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  Why didn't I take the blue pill?

  by ljwtiamb in

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  cypher: i know what you're thinking, 'cause i'm thinking the exact same thing.

  actually, i've been thinking it since i got here: why didn't i take the blue pill?

  - the matrix.

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  Very good corelation with the Matrix!!!!
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  Looking for old mates... UK

  by PaulJ in

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  anyone from the cambridgeshire congregations of st ives, st neots or huntingdon?

  or any rotherham congregations?

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  Anyone from the Cambridgeshire Congregations of St Ives, St Neots or Huntingdon? Or any Rotherham congregations?
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  diss-ass myself 2 years ago... new to this site

  by PaulJ in

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  i disassociated myself just over 2 years ago.

  i grew up in the truth so now i feel a bit lonely and out on a limb with no friends.... feels so strange cos i had so many mates in the truth.

  i still believe what jws believe and im not seeking an alternative religion or anything like that.

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  i guess i use the 'truth' as a by-word for the organisation, its just what is natural to me. as i mentioned i have no desire to disbelive it, its just the lifestyle is no longer for me.
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  KH Parking Spaces....

  by Will Power in

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  are they assigned?

  are they in any way related to status?

  if you usually park in the same space every meeting, then one day you arrive to find someone else there...... .

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  i used to do car park duty. the KH was on a 'rough' estate so we had to keep and eye out in case they were stolen or broken into. I used to walk round checking the tax discs!!!! it was always first come first served in that carpark....
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  The Best of Brits.

  by Englishman in

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  just curious... we had a poll here in the uk as to who was the most famous brit of all time.

  i was so underwhelmed that i can't remember who even won it.

  it wasn't churchill, that's for sure.

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  Fellow Brit here! Just joined the site. Hhhhmmm Best Brit??? Im very much into football (proper football, not the american padded kind!) so on that alone I admire a host of footballers, the best being George Best (NORTHERN Irish thus still British) Bobby Moore and now Steven Gerrard. Musically the Beatles and more recently Oasis.
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  diss-ass myself 2 years ago... new to this site

  by PaulJ in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i disassociated myself just over 2 years ago.

  i grew up in the truth so now i feel a bit lonely and out on a limb with no friends.... feels so strange cos i had so many mates in the truth.

  i still believe what jws believe and im not seeking an alternative religion or anything like that.

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  thanks guys!
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  How Much Time Did You Spend as a JW?

  by eljefe in

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  25 years total .

  15 years baptized .

  also, does the resentment for jw's grow in a linear or a exponential manner with time spent as a jw?.

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  let me see now... dunked in 1993, left in 2003, wow 10 years baptised! before that i gave my first talk at 7 (not bad eh?) mum and dad came into thr truth when i was 4-5....
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  diss-ass myself 2 years ago... new to this site

  by PaulJ in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i disassociated myself just over 2 years ago.

  i grew up in the truth so now i feel a bit lonely and out on a limb with no friends.... feels so strange cos i had so many mates in the truth.

  i still believe what jws believe and im not seeking an alternative religion or anything like that.

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  PaulJ

  hi all

  i disassociated myself just over 2 years ago. i grew up in the truth so now i feel a bit lonely and out on a limb with no friends.... feels so strange cos i had so many mates in the truth. I still believe what JWs believe and im not seeking an alternative religion or anything like that. i left cos i had issues with elders (like most ppl i guess its a long story!)

  Im new to this site and this is the first time i have looked up ex-witnesses on the internet. are there many ppl from the UK on here?

  PaulJ