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Please review my "Disassociation Letter&qu...

by 67mustang in

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i am sending it on monday, does anybody have any advice or revisions in mind?

july 22, 2002 .

dear friends, .

Cath

Hi 67mustang,

I have nothing to add regarding your da letter, just wanted to congratulate you on your stand and wish you the very best. I certainly hope all goes well with your family etc.

Welcome to the real world.

Cath

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perhaps i'm just a bit paranoid..but i get the feeling that there are a few posters that actually hate me (before its assumed--no i'm talking about lack of responses to my threads.. and no i am not talking about a disagreement of opinion) i am talking about a few posters that come across to me as very hateful in their responses.. and yes i know that not everyone here will like me (even though i'm so darn sweet and cute...lol) but it is an intense animosity vibe that i get and can't seem to shake.. maybe i am mistaken and maybe its just me..... but if there is anyone out there that does dislike me that much---i am curious as to why---only because i try to learn and grow everyday and your input would be especially valuable and probably essential to that -growth.. so whats the verdict---do you love me, hate me or just not care either way?.

sincerely yours,.

ps--this is in no way an ego thing--i really want to know!

Cath

Hi Spice,

I haven't spoken to you yet or replied to one of your posts but it is as Mimmily said. There are a lot of reasons I don't post much but this thread touched something in me.

I don't know if you were df'd, da'd, faded or what but whichever, the sense of rejection that goes along with losing family & friends for me was/is almost too much to bear at times, so that comes to the fore a lot. It has made me shy and paranoid about what people think so I am especially nervous about posting and getting flak posted back. It FEELS like rejection of self rather than just normal disagreement.

((((((((Spice)))))))) I think I know where you're at.

It makes it especially hard if you cannot hear the smiles or inflections in peoples voices and can't see to whom you are talking.

I have really enjoyed your threads so keep on making us laugh and think.

Love Cath

ps: Hah! My mother always said I was one to have the last word.Nananananah!

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Squandering/Burying Talents JW Style

by Room 215 in

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once morning while on a business trip to south africa, i turned on the television in my hotel room to catch up on the local news while i prepared for my day.

instead i hit upon one of the most mesmerising,thought-provoking sermons i've ever heard.

delivered by a young black preacher it focused on jesus' parable of the talents (matt: 25) and its lesson for us all.

Cath

Hi R 215,

How true your analogy is. Due to the policy of the WTBTS of discouraging education and careers because 1975 was just around the corner my own talent was "buried" and now I lack the confidence young age and strength required of the two things I always wanted to do. Sickos!

Cath

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Tattoos and Piercings

by SpiceItUp in

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ok......fess up....who's got em and who wants em?

i myself have two tattoos ( i will post pics of them later tonight).

i have one on my shoulder - it the face of a cat, i call it my egyptian cat because the face is very concise.

Cath

I have two tattoos, one on either side of my back. One is a rose with a bit of tribal worked through it and the other is a tribal also but larger with different flowers through it. Quite colorful. I wish I could post them to compare. I would like another small one on my ankle and one on my hip or the small of my back. I haven't read all the posts in this thread so I don't know if anyone has said this already but tats are ADDICTIVE imo.

As for piercings I have 10. Four holes in one ear,five in the other and one in my nose. The nose thing was a true rebellion and a sign of my freedom of will and is one of those tiny studs that don't stand out.

Anyone else?

Love Cath

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Can music & pot = a spiritual experience?

by truman in

i am just wondering, because i think for me it did.

i am a woman with grown children,.

so i am coming to these things from a different stage in life than many do, but since.

Cath

Hi truman,

I have only just been dealing with trying to get off the mj because of the guilt over it being an illegal substance. I haven't succeeded in getting off it yet,lol, but have spoken with my therapist about it and he says not to worry about it....it is my friend at the moment and when the time is truly right the need for it will just fall away.

He made me feel even better when he told me that it is/was used by a lot of the mystics to get in touch with thier "higher selves". I actually use it to access my innermost feelings as it lets me get right inside my own head. I also LOVE to listen to music when I am stoned as I have the same sort of experience as you do. Maybe not quite as strong but definitely spiritual or of a spiritual nature. Oh dear, I hope I am making sense.

My children are also adult and they have smoked it with me regularly for a few years which is an experience in itself. I have been out clubbing with them (3 girls) and had some of the best times of my life. Two of them are now in London working and want to take me clubbing over there as they say it is different again to over here. However I don't need the hype anymore and just enjoy kicking back with my mj and music at home and I can still get the same effect.

Enjoy and have fun. You have done with all the bringing up the kids and catering to the whims of damn fools if you know what I mean. It is now your turn. Love yourself and give yourself whatever you want/need to make YOU happy. Get a little bit selfish.

Hugs

Cath

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Am I the only one here from Perth WA?

by Cath in

i am just getting the courage to post again after being offline for some time.

since i last posted there has been a lot of activity with newbies joining at quite an astounding pace so i find it amazing that there seems to be no newbies from western australia.

perth is said to be the most isolated capital city in the world and it sure feels like it at the moment.

Cath

I am simply overwhelmed, thanks all.

Jim_TX, LOL! That helps heaps thank you. At least you know where I am coming from and if you and your significant other (if there is one) are ever over this way be sure and get in touch.

Hi dog, hmmmmm. After long and careful/prayerful (lol) consideration I have to turn your offer down of sending MORE of them dubs to see me. Had a hard enough time the first time around. Thank you for your kind thoughts anyways.

QUEENIE, I can relate to what you say about the heat. I lived for twenty years in a place called Port Hedland on the northwest coast of Oz, where the summertime temp was regularly in the low to mid 40 degrees celcius. I don't know what that converts to but it was @#$*# hot. The winters were glorious tho with the temps in the mid to late twenties.

(((Ozziepost))), I,m sure that Mr Bean meant no offence to you by taking your name in vain. Nice to meet you.

hippikon, Will you please e-mail me. My e-mail is open. Thanks.

Hi Beck, You have the same name as my eldest daughter so you must be ok. I doubt we would know the same people as I was young when we (family) moved to Perth and I was outed not long after that in 1973. I have immediate family living in Perth but I don't see them apart from weddings and funerals and then not all of them I am invited to. Maybe you know someone that knows my family tho. Anyway I would love to keep in touch. I have had a few Kiwi friends over ther years.

Mr Bean, I am glad we cleared some things up.

Much love to all

Cath

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Gasp! My dad stepped inside church

by Cath in

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i went to my non jw nephews wedding very recently which was held in a church and imagine my surprise when i saw my jw dad standing in a side aisle waving to me.

i had to pinch myself.

needless to say he didn't remain indoors for the ceremony but i didn't think even walking into a church was allowed.

Cath

Hi Dakota,

Thanks for the info as I dont have access to any.

That is so sad that you missed out on walking your daughter down the aisle. I don't know, but I would think that would be a fathers biggest delight after their daughters birth. Hugs to you.

When I was still 'in' I seem to remember that it was a big no no to enter a church, but that may have just been the cong I was in. So much is changing and has changed since I was ousted and eventually found my way to this board some 29 years later that it all is so hard to keep up with. Since I don't really have the opportunity to talk with the family much and when I do I avoid talking religion at all possible costs I don't know what is what now. It IS nice to see SOME softening on some of the issues but I still don't trust the WBTS. Wouldn't trust 'em as far as I could kick 'em!

onacruse,

I feel terrible now because of my attitude. Yes there is always hope that people will get thier wings and I do hope with all my heart that the rest of my family will grow thiers. I just thank the "all that is" that I was born with mine... although it took me a little while to stretch them...and that I was able to keep my darling daughters clear of the murk that is the WTBTS.

Carmel,

It seems like a century ago since I was in so how long is your century?

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Gasp! My dad stepped inside church

by Cath in

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i went to my non jw nephews wedding very recently which was held in a church and imagine my surprise when i saw my jw dad standing in a side aisle waving to me.

i had to pinch myself.

needless to say he didn't remain indoors for the ceremony but i didn't think even walking into a church was allowed.

Cath

I went to my non JW nephews wedding very recently which was held in a church and imagine my surprise when I saw my JW dad standing in a side aisle waving to me. I had to pinch myself. Needless to say he didn't remain indoors for the ceremony but I didn't think even walking into a church was allowed. Has that all changed since I was outed nearly thirty years ago?

My JW brother stood like a dill keeping vigil outside the door and you could almost see the terror on his face. I had a really quiet chuckle to myself.

Actually I felt like a dill myself when I was the only one that cried at that wedding but he was my dearly departed twin sisters son so I felt a lot for him not having his mum there.

I just had a thought. If it isn't allowed for a JW to go into a church then maybe,just maybe, there is a ray of hope that my dad is waking up. HAH! Pigs might fly also. Oh well, one can only hope.

Cath

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Am I the only one here from Perth WA?

by Cath in

i am just getting the courage to post again after being offline for some time.

since i last posted there has been a lot of activity with newbies joining at quite an astounding pace so i find it amazing that there seems to be no newbies from western australia.

perth is said to be the most isolated capital city in the world and it sure feels like it at the moment.

Cath

Hi Prisca,

It's nice to meet you and thanks for the info on the Canberra bash. Now all I have to do is find a sugar daddy who will pay for the trip LOL!

Hey RF aka Ned,

Nice to be in touch once more and thanks for the perpetual invite. Know of any good lookin' 45+ sugar daddies?

Seriously I do feel very isolated over here and the cost of the trip far exceeds what I can afford on my little Centrelink payment but thank you anyway guys. I WILL work on trying to get there somehow tho so will let you know if it becomes a likely possibility. Again crossing fingers etc.

Thanks again

Cath

ps: I will work out one day how to get all the darn emoticons to work, not just this smiley face

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Am I the only one here from Perth WA?

by Cath in

i am just getting the courage to post again after being offline for some time.

since i last posted there has been a lot of activity with newbies joining at quite an astounding pace so i find it amazing that there seems to be no newbies from western australia.

perth is said to be the most isolated capital city in the world and it sure feels like it at the moment.

Cath

Hi all,

I am just getting the courage to post again after being offline for some time. Since I last posted there has been a lot of activity with newbies joining at quite an astounding pace so I find it amazing that there seems to be no newbies from Western Australia. Perth is said to be the most isolated capital city in the world and it sure feels like it at the moment. Surely there is SOMEONE out there who wants to have our own little apostafest. They sound so much fun and if I had the funds I would travel to the east coast just to attend one if invited.

Slaps self and admonishes self not to feel sorry for self.

I have put my name down for the meet-up anyway and am keeping fingers, toes, arms and definitely legs crossed.

Cath of the falling flat on face class