Baptised at 19, lots of aux pioneering, married kids ms for a number of years. I had an "elder" who had a fixation on destroying me (ironically he died young from cancer despite being a health nut. I look back now and realise he had deep seated, chronic mental health issues). He hassled my wife to stop full time pioneering saying she was a burden on the cong. I used our car for work so she needed to be picked up.....
Anyhow I stood down as ms etc, yrs go by...suddenly I'm 42 and totally unhappy. I researched deeply and left. Eventually my (ex)wife, kids are now all free.
Life does begin at 40!! Lol