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  What can you do?

  by joelbear in

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  i can lick peanut butter out of the cleft in my chin with my tongue.

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  thom

  I can sit for three days and listen to mindless boring talks and still look like I'm interested in what's being said.
  Oh, and I can stick my tongue up my nose, but I haven't found a good reason to do it yet!
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  Ever got ripped off?

  by greendawn in

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  can you recall any instances where you got ripped by someone at a shop, restaurant, car mechanic, hotel or whatever?

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  thom

  wanderlustguy, not on my car. The rotors come right off after you take the calipers off. Just slide it off the studs. Never touch the bearings.
  I just do the brakes myself anyway. Way cheaper.
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  How do you deal with "Anxiety"

  by ScoobySnax in

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  have you ever had anxiety?

  i don't mean general anxiety you get before an exam or an interview, i mean anxiety out of the blue that seems to hit you when you can be in a warm pleasant atmosphere.......a feeling like you just have to get up and go.

  sometimes its terrifying, hyperventillating, can't get your breath, feel like everything is closing in around you.

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  thom

  Scooby, I usually do not have problems with anxiety but a few years ago (in Jan 2003), it put me in the hospital. I thought I was having a heart attack and my wife took to me to the ER. After 1 1/2 days of tests and MRIs and stuff, I was told I'm as healthy as I could possibly wish for. Then they told me that I should see a therapist to deal with it.
  Well, that was the only time I had it that bad (someone pushed me over the edge), and I never saw a therapist or did anything about it and I don't seem to have trouble with it anymore. But I do know that for many people it can get worse and worse and cause physical damage to your body. Over time from what I understand, it can really degrade you physically and cause problems as you get older. I'm not much of one for therapy, but as some have suggested here it might not hurt to at least go to someone and chat about it just to learn more.
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  My dad wants to put my name on his Blood card

  by lv4fer in

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  my dad called me up yeterday to ask if he could put me on his blood card.

  this is bizarre.

  he just recently moved here and doesn't know very many people.

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  thom

  My grandmother is 83 and a JW. I would honor her wishes if there was an issue about blood for her. If I could not honor them, I would let her know now so she could find someone else to do it. I wouldn't use the opportunity to impose my beliefs on her just as I wouldn't want her imposing her's on me.
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  Would you date or marry outside of your race?

  by Dimples in

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  i am bi-racial and was wondering would you date or marry outside of your race?

  how would you feel if your children dated or married outside of their race?.

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  thom

  I wouldn't have any problem with it.
  But as long as there are still nice full sized German girls around, it probably won't happen.
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  It's Saturday night....what's everyone doing?

  by burnieschick in

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  it's so quiet here tonight!!

  where is everyone?

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  thom

  Had alot of work to do tonight. Peeked in here a few times when work was getting irritating.
  Now it's time to break out a beer and relax, then go to bed.
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  How many remember the 15 min break Between the Public Tlk and WT Study?

  by Wasanelder Once in

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  as kid i remember a break of 15 minutes between the public talk and the wt study.

  all the new ones and "weak" ones ran out to smoke.

  loved to see the attendant round them up to come back in when the droning began again.

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  I remember that as a kid. I must have been pretty young, I don't remember if I went outside or not. Main thing I remember is when they stopped having breaks and I remember being disappointed about it.
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  hello all - new here

  by GoingGoingGone in

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  hello everyone, this is my first post.... i'm in the process of fading after being a jw my entire life (almost).

  i don't go to meetings anymore..... hubby's an elder, and boy, is he mad.

  he still makes the kids go with him to meetings, service, etc... they hate it and i feel sorry for them, but there's not much i can do about it.. i've been feeling lonely today, i do miss my friends sometimes, and i have really good friends, but since i don't go to meetings i never see them much anymore.

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  thom

  Welcome GGG! I think you'll find alot of people here that can really relate to what you're going through, and can offer comments that are very helpful.
  I only stopped about 9 months ago, but already I feel so much freedom and am happy that I did it. I haven't lost my desire to understand God, just my desire to worship the WTBTS. You're just leaving the JWs, has nothing to do with leaving God.
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  Experience being 'out of the loop' of helpful information in the cong.

  by out of the box in

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  a post in this thread by dorayakii in this thread: .

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/95493/1.ashx made me think about this thread.to me, even from the outside, the society has always seemed legalistic and cold, eager to find faults, which is precisely the opposite to how jesus formed christianity.

  however, many people don't see that perspective, because they are not in a position of imtimacy with the leaders of the organisation.

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  thom

  Seems to me that the boy's mother should have discussed this with you, as you said. The sleepover could still take place, but an uncomfortable situation for your son could have been easily avoided.
  I find it sad too that since this boy obviously likes boys, and with the elders "keeping an eye" what he has to look forward to as he gets older is being taught that he is "wrong" and "bad" for it. If he stays in the org as he gets older, he'll be "readjusted" to think properly (they'll try anyway), and I would think that'll mess him up.
  If people told me as I was growing up that it's wrong for me to like girls, I don't know what I would have done. I don't see how deep down I could ever change that!
  It seems to me that both boys were done a big disservice by the org, which only cares for it's own appearance, not the people it hurts (or destroys).
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  City person or Country person

  by JH in

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  i travelled alot recently and i passed through many major cities, and i saw the contrast between nice small quiet towns and huge cities with so much traffic.. so, where would you rather live, in a quiet small town where there isn't much to do,but where it's quiet and there is not much stress, or in a big city with lots of traffic jams, where life is more expensive, but where there is more to see?.

  i like the smaller town life.

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  thom

  I posted earlier that I prefer the city. Maybe I should clarify a bit.
  I'm originally from New York and I liked it there, but I prefer it here (Phoenix) quite a bit. It's city (about 2.2 million people), but very suburban where I live. I can have horses, chickens whatever on my property (about 1/3 acre) but I can also walk to the mall, or many other shopping areas. At night it's quiet but I can go out and find many many things going on if I want to.
  My girlfriend lives in a small town and recently she wanted to see a movie but it wasn't showing there yet. She asked me if it was showing here so I looked it up and told her "Yes it is. In 26 different theaters."